Does your DH flirt with other women?

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Really want to know wives opinions of their DH flirting with others and whether they mind it or not

I have some friends who say they know their DHs are flirty but just accept that as their personality.

AIBU to not want my husband to do that or is it normal to a certain extent?

No but then he's not the flirty type

Nah, it’s not his style.

Yeah, mine does, but only in certain circumstances. Never with our friends.
99% of the time, it doesn't bother me in the slightest but occasionally, and I'm not sure why, my senses tingle and I tell him to cut it out and he does, straightaway. It doesn't matter if I'm being unreasonable or not. He says my feelings are more important than anything or anyone else.
We've been married for 23+ years.

No.

He is lovely, friendly and chatty though.

Never inappropriate.

He was and it never bothered me as I felt pretty secure...then it turned a huge corner and ended up with him cheating on me.
He doesn’t now, that I know of, but I could kick myself for bing so ‘ok’ about it all before

I mean he doesn’t know (that I was ok about i before!)

Nope never.

Never. He's friendly and chatty but never flirts, and neither do I. We've never even spoken about it but don't need to.

Nah. He's not a flirty person.

No, but then he's painfully shy and never even flirted with me!

No, either when I’m there or when I’m not. Oblivious academic type.
My dad is and always has been an outrageous flirt, mum finds it funny.

Never.

I'd say that my DH would never flirt because he doesn't know how to. Lord knows how he managed to romance me as far as the bedroom.

DH disagrees. He says of course he knows how to flirt. He'd just never do it with other women because if I caught him I'd nail his balls to the door frame.

• My DP is very outgoing and chatty - he will bat his eyelashes at anyone to get what he wants, male or female!

So I’ve no doubt that at work or when he’s away on business he probably does flirt with other women, but I’m as sure as I can be that he wouldn’t take it any further than a bit of twinkly eyed conversation and a jokey double entendre or two. *

This; although I don't think my DP does it on purpose. I don't think he sees it as flirting; he's just being friendly - he's very warm and charismatic! He'd be shocked if someone was to respond in a flirty manner... so it's not so much to get his own way; but just how he is.

I'd be worried if he was purposefully flirting all the time; I think, there has to be a line where it becomes a little disrespectful.

Last PP has summed it up: I guess it depends what you count as flirting. For me it’s a risqué pun and a raised eyebrow. For others it may be further along and I wouldn’t be ok with that. Horses for courses innit.

No, friendly and chatty with women as well as men then yes but if he was flirting I wouldn’t be impressed

No, he wouldn't do it, and I wouldn't be impressed if he did and vice versa.

We're both sociable, chatty, friendly people and DH is actually quite funny i don't tell him that though! but nothing inappropriate ever.

Depends on how you define flirtatious.
Mine is certainly charismatic, he certainly charms and beguiles. I would call it flirting with other women, men, old ladies, awkward teenagers everyone. He would never make suggestive comments but is occasionally inappropriate/too detailed in his questions about women’s ‘problems’ because his first few jobs were in staff rooms full of menopausal women.
He then comes home and groans about them and definitely prefers just us. His last PA was absolutely stunning and he flirted slightly - as did she - but we both became good friends with her and her very handsome husband. It was only ever safe, platonic flirting.

Hmm... I do think my DH is quite flirty but I definitely am too. And to be fair, neither of us intend it to be flirty but more that we're both very easy-going and enjoy banter and teasing with anyone, regardless of the gender, which often comes across as flirting, especially to other people.
However, we're both very honest about 'crushes'. E.g. he knows I have a schoolgirl crush on the man who lives down the road (he's gorge) and I know he gets all tongue-tied about the very beautiful client for their company. The fact that we can talk about that - and find it funny and tease each other about it - just says to me that the flirting is nothing to worry about. However, if he started flirting with the very beautiful client, then I'd be uncomfortable! It's all about context.

Don't think I've ever seen my DH flirt with another woman in the 40 odd years I've been with him. I'd like to think its because of my incredible desirability but I think its more to do with his lovely personality.
So no experience but don't think I'd like it much.

No. If he did, he wouldn’t stay my husband for long.

He’s outgoing and friendly, but that’s not the same thing as flirting, which is defined as playful behaviour to show sexual attraction towards someone else.

Anchor I don’t think my DP would see it as flirting either - in fact it took me a while to realise he’s the same with men too!

When he would flash a charming smile at a waitress and ask her what she recommends while holding eye contact and chatting about her day, I’d be like “alright, get a room!” in my mind. Then I saw that he’s the same with waiters and male shop staff, joking around, asking for extras and fully expecting them to comply as he holds their gaze like some Derren Brown trainee!

My oh is quietly gregarious, and a couple of times iv noticed women thinking he is interested( he doesn’t notice) , he is exactly the same with our 82 year old neighbour as with gorgeous women. He is just really good at connecting with people.

DH is an outrageous flirt as far as just chatting goes.

We both agree though that touching - the hand on the arm, or the ‘oh you’ve just got a little...something on your cheek... - is not appropriate and we don’t do it.

So conversation flirting yes constantly, haha. Physical flirting no.

He doesn't know how. Why I married him.