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Original poster

To tell neighbor to cross the road

52 replies

MrsHoodwink · 05/09/2018 23:10

Long story short my dog was in the gated/fenced front yard with me while my daughter was dropped off by her dad

Neighbor from down the road walked past with their small dog who started barking (snout through my gate) at my dog

I have a German Shepherd and it barked back... I think it perceived the other dog to be a threat to my child so retaliated. All bark no bite mind as many GS owners will know Wink

My neighbor snapped, told me “get hold of that effin dog” and then said “I don’t like those, they’re vicious” and was raging at me

AIBU to say when I next see them if you don’t want to deal with it, walk on the other side of the road Grin (To be honest 90% of the time we’re never in the front yard anyway)

Also my dog wouldn’t have batted an eyelid if their’s hadn’t done anything, apparently because mines louder and “looks” scary we’re a danger Hmm

OP posts:
austenozzy · 05/09/2018 23:21

Yappy rat-on-a-rope dogs are quite annoying, i don’t blame your GSD for doing its job and protecting his family from a perceived threat!

I’m sometimes wary of GSDs as my last dog got pinned by one as a pup and my current dog has been charged by a grumpy local one a couple of times. They’re big units and can make a fearsome noise, I think the neighbour was probably just startled and reacted.

Singlenotsingle · 05/09/2018 23:24

Yes, tell them to walk on the other side of the road. Hopefully they will anyway.

Fucksgiven · 05/09/2018 23:30

Not nice for anyone really to have your dog behaving like that. Why not get it under control so it doesn't do it?

IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan · 05/09/2018 23:34

Not nice for anyone really to have your dog behaving like that. Why not get it under control so it doesn't do it?

Applies equally to the other dog and owner.

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MrsHoodwink · 05/09/2018 23:41

I think the point I’m making is it wasn’t nice for their dog to behave that way? But because they were small that apparently didn’t matter

My dog was fully under control and 100% entirely on my property... it just barked Hmm

OP posts:
twiglet · 05/09/2018 23:41

As a larger dog owner (greyhound cross) I feel your pain of small dog starting/aggregating large dog then large dog getting the blame when they respond! I've had people scream at me after their yappy tiny things have been barking attempted to bite her for no reason so she has batted them away but as she's bigger and has long legs it's her fault.... Angry

If it happens again I would just say will you stop your dog aggrevating mine and sticking his nose through the gate my dog isn't dangerous but like all dogs he protects his area!

Original poster
MrsHoodwink · 05/09/2018 23:43

Also I’d class “control” as only responding when there is a threat Smile

Incase there is ever a risk of a dog, of any size, biting my child there’s no way I’m going to train my dog not to stop it

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ToadOfSadness · 05/09/2018 23:52

Tell him to get his dog's nose out of your gate and stop aggravating your dog in his own home.

Squeakymoo · 05/09/2018 23:56

It's the same when small dogs jump up to you "he's only being friendly" the owners seem to think this is OK but I'm sure they wouldn't like it if my big dog were to do the same. Also how is it OK to take a small dog into a shop because the owner is carrying it

AjasLipstick · 06/09/2018 00:24

I wouldn't even waste my time thinking about it OP. I have a big dog too and I've had people walk all the way up my long drive from the high street just to look in at him and then get upset when he barks at them.

I just tell them to move away. Or I don't bother. He's doing his job.

He never barks unless someone comes right up to our perimeter...that's his job!

If someone allows their dog to bark at yours and then wonders why yours has retaliated, then they're too stupid to think about.

Whateveryoureckon · 06/09/2018 04:58

I agree...rat on a leash. Tempting to tell them to get a real dog 😁

ThisIsNotMyRealName1 · 06/09/2018 05:11

Fucksgiven - not nice for OP to have neighbour's dog stick it's snout through her gate and yell at her dog while her dog is on it's own property.

Whereisthecoffee · 06/09/2018 06:44

Yanbu, I find a lot of people think it’s fine for small dogs to do things that they would complain about if big dogs did it.

MaisyPops · 06/09/2018 06:50

As a larger dog owner (greyhound cross) I feel your pain of small dog starting/aggregating large dog then large dog getting the blame when they respond!
I agree.
People with rat on a lead dogs seem to think their yappy things can do whatever, bark, run up to, jump up at other dogs etc and the world is meant to go 'awwww of course they're just being friendly' but the second a larger dog barks back suddenly their little thing is a little victim of the big mean nasty dog.

I'd tell her to keep her dog under control, stop it putting it's nose through your gate if she doesnt want other dogs to bark.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 06/09/2018 06:50

One of my boys did that to two yappy little Pugs after they have been annoying him for a while.

I thought he did them a favour by teaching them good manners.

Havabiscuit · 06/09/2018 06:56

YANBU. I have a springer spaniel. He is a pretty good gun dog, totally well behaved and obidient. These smaller dogs though! He will usually stand stock still if they come yapping at him but the other week one bit him on the lip so he launched back, rolled Hom over on the ground but then came straight to me when I shouted at him. His lip was bleeding - no injury to the other dog but it’s owner now going around our usual walking haunt saying my dog is pretty vicious and “ warning” people.

Aus84 · 06/09/2018 07:02

You dog was in control in a fenced yard with you and their dog tried to come into your dogs space. Their dog needs to be controlled taught some manners.

PussGirl · 06/09/2018 07:05

Maybe get a cat, with which to further enrage the yappy dog? It would probably be great pals with your GSD & perch on its shoulders like a parrot, creating a dog/cat chimera type thing
Grin

Neighbour is being ridiculous - I'd point out that their dog was accosting your dog on its own turf, so what do they expect?

Collaborate · 06/09/2018 07:07

@fucksgiven OP's dog was under control. Behind a fence. Do keep up.

makingmammaries · 06/09/2018 07:18

Get a second dog and maybe rat-on-a-string man will not come up to your gate any more.

Monty27 · 06/09/2018 07:27

Tell him to train his stoopid dog to stop yapping. FFS. I adore dogs but not always the owners Smile

MQv2 · 06/09/2018 07:30

I have a small dog who's reactive on lead, I'd be so apologetic if my dogs behaviour had caused your dog to also react.

Doesn't really matter about who's dog is bigger, her dog acted rudely first

MQv2 · 06/09/2018 07:35

Also why all you big dog owners got to be mean about little dogs, just cause this one was bold doesn't mean they're all rats on strings. My terrier is lovely I'll have you know

SilverHairedCat · 06/09/2018 07:36

I've taken to telling owners of small dogs that are snarling, and trying to attack my docile but large dog on her lead that if she behaved that way I'd be accused of having a dangerous dog that was not in control and needed to be muzzled.

It really pisses me off that just because a dog is some sort of jack russell, pomeranian, chihuahua cross that the idiot owner thinks they don't have to get them under control because they are only little or it's so cute.

It's not cute, it shouldn't be carried in a bloody handbag, it should be walking on the floor and getting exercised. It's a dog and it can still badly hurt someone with its teeth. Get a fucking muzzle on it and train your fucking dog.

A dog barking once inside the confines of its own garden is just being a good dog

I get cross.

Kattyy · 06/09/2018 07:42

Yanbu.
Am dealing with similar issues weekly. Live in central London with my GSD. Not sure why the rat owners think that their precious pets have the right to yap and yap and yap.... then comes the owner with a beaming smile and adoring: "Oh my ChouChou/FrouFrou/BooBoo thinks (s)he's a lion".
Or the other one of my favourites- owner scoops up the rat while reassuringly starting a deep discussion with it, at the same time ignoring you completely?! Wtf, ever heard of "sorry"?