No thanks after a wedding

[hoppyfarmer]

We went to a wedding in April and it wasn't exactly an inexpensive day & night out even though I'm pregnant so only had one of us chucking a load of money over the bar. I put a lot of thought into the gift we gave and we've had absolutely no thanks for it. I'm so tempted to ask if they liked the present or even if they got it because we haven't heard anything. Anyone had this in the past? I just think it's bloody rude.

We decided a while back that we would only bother sending gifts (which we have to post as overseas) if we receive a thank you or at least an acknowledgement they have received the gift. Sadly we find we no longer give gifts as for a couple of years, didn't even receive even a text saying received and thank you. Or just received would have been nice because we are left wondering if they even received it, and then you have to ask just in case. So best not bother, we say!

Exactly, Mumma. They weren't too busy to put out the begging bowl. Beyond crass and rude.

It's inexcusable not to send thank you cards or at least some acknowledgement.

If life happens to overtake then it takes 10 mins to send a round robin email to explain that a lack of a fomal thank you is down to XYZ & you'll instead thank people when you see them next.

I bet all those who "never got round to it" had plenty of time to come up with shit begging letters with the invitations.

I don't care about a written thank you, although it's very nice and the correct thing to do. A verbal thanks when a gift is handed over personally is fine.
But if you've sent something by post, or given money via one of these honeymoon fund sites, you don't know if it's been received or not unless it's acknowledged.

Anyone who doesn't send written thank you cards is appallingly rude, and the idea that a year is acceptable for this is laughable. You do it right after the honeymoon. It should be a priority.

I went to a good friends wedding, made a gorgeous hamper and although not expensive a lot of thought went into it, I sent it by courier because it was easier and the text we received was - gift has arrived and we never received a Thank you. To be honest that was almost the last communication we had with her. I was brought up to say thanks and sent Thank you cards to everyone after my own wedding

I've never known anyone not send a thank you card, though sometimes we have got them quite a while after the wedding. And sometimes they are generic. I hand-wrote over 50 cards!

I would contact them by brief text or email, as you say, OP.

Not sending thank you cards for wedding gifts is so rude. We sent ours as soon as we returned from honeymoon, each personalised to the guests and the gift. I even sent “thanks for coming” cards to the few people who didn’t give a gift.

As a wedding guest I always take a card/put a message with an online gift saying thank you for having us as well as thanking them in person on the day.

If they didn't say thank you at all that's rude; but if it's the lack of thank you card then I'd say you shouldn't have be so offended.

To be honest I've never liked thank you cards. When I'm given a gift I thank the person then and there and I feel like that should be plenty? Why bother with the palava of having to go out and spend more money on a card that will be binned in a couple of days?

Do people send thank you cards for birthday gifts and Christmas presents / cards?

I say thank you to the person of they give me it in person, if not they get a message on Facebook or a text thanking them but I don't see the point in sending a thank you card after we both sent cards to each other?

Weddings, I think if they say thank you for the gift / card their and then, then that's acceptable.
If they don't then I would expect a message probably.

@Defrack, I do. I usually write them on the day to send ASAP. Usually more to further afield relatives, as I will verbally thank friends at/near the time and thus save a stamp and/or card but I will write to them if I haven't seen them, too! I quite enjoy writing & love to choose cards.

DMs best friend also sends me nicer presents than she sends to her own niece. This is because I write my thank yous. She finds the niece - who never bothers with any form of thanks- to be ungrateful so I get nicer presents.

I did write a formal thanks to the hosting parents when we RSVP'd to the wedding invitation and I also wrote in the wedding card for the bride and groom that we felt privileged to be invited to celebrate with them.
I have a young daughter and I've always sent birthday and Christmas thank you cards on her behalf and before anyone thinks I have nothing better to do, this is alongside working and having had a very rocky ride with pregnancy losses, family bereavements, moving house etc in the last few years.
It's rude not to thank people but at least I'm teaching my daughter it's the correct think to do to send a card.