Would you allow nursery aged son take Princess Belle bag to nursery?

[edderson]

Genuinely, I'm not asking what the "politically correct" answer is, as I know it's a yes, absolutely no problem. However, seriously? It's his first time at any sort of nursery setting and he's 3, so children will notice. Thanks.

Of course it's fine!

I'm not massively PC but at three I don't think this matters at all. He will be fine, let him enjoy his bag.

Of course I would. It’s just a bag.

And no, at that age especially, children won’t notice. If he gets a complex about it, it’ll be from an adult, probably his parent.

I would, yes. Children will notice what?

I very much doubt any children will notice, even less likely to notice enough to care!

Ours hang outside the room and aren't really used except in case of clothes change. Just make sure well labelled in case staff don't think it's his.

Really? I assumed a lot of children that age had began swaying to stereotypes and noticing them? Especially if they have been going to nursery for a long time? I'm really pleased if that isn't the case. Thank you.

nursery yes, without any worries.

reception, I would take a deep breath, and think hard. And then only do ti if I was sure he REALLY wanted it.

Children will notice he has a belle bag? So? I don’t get it.

At 3 yes I would. (I have a 4 year old ds.) I actually don't think the children would care or judge at that age ( at nursery ds would happily dress in Elsa dress or play with Princess dolls etc).

Ime kids don’t start wanting to confirm till 4/5.

Absolutely fine. At 3 the other kids won't care at all he's far more likely to get a comment from an adult ime

Absolutely fine if they even do notice it it's more likely to be a positive notice at that age

Nursery - absolutely fine.

School, I hate myself for saying this, but I'd discourage it.

What @steppemum said.

Nursery not an issue but as they get older (sandy) kids start to adopt gender stereotypes and may well be an issue, but certainly not at nursery age!

I wouldn't say no at any age. It's a bag. Allow children to express their own likes and dislikes and don't impose any meaning to them.

(Sadly*) not sandy

Well if they’re swaying to stereotypes, they’re not doing it on purpose, it’s because of social conditioning and they certainly wouldn’t be able to rationalise it I.e say ‘Disney princesses are for girls’. Not at 3.

Would it not be a better lesson to teach your DS that he can like whatever he wants and it’s not up to anybody else over, you have to stop doing X now because other people might notice?

Children will notice. My DS chose to dress as a princess on Princess & Pirate day at nursery. Some of the more typically masculine boys chose not to play with him and that was ok. Granted, he had been there for several months beforehand and established friendships with other children so I understand your reticence about it being tour DS’ first day. Would he understand that some children may think it’s odd (although it isn’t, obvs) and may not want to play with him?

Yes I would. My teenage son wears my floral shirts.

Imagine you had a dd who wanted to take a Spider-Man bag to nursery would you be bothered?

I doubt any of the other 3 year olds or staff will notice or care that much

They won’t think anything of it at that age.

It's sad that boys still have these issues. At a pirates and princess day, nobody would bat an eyelid if a girl went as a pirate but I boy is shunned by his peers for dressing as a princess. This is of course external influence (parental most likely) and not the children themselves but sad nevertheless. Boys should be able to express themselves any way they choose.

My son does.anf he wears pink wellies. Pink is his favourite colour and has lots of pink clothes.

It's a bag

If it's his favourite who cares

He probably will like a Marvel one next week