Would you allow nursery aged son take Princess Belle bag to nursery?

[edderson]

Genuinely, I'm not asking what the "politically correct" answer is, as I know it's a yes, absolutely no problem. However, seriously? It's his first time at any sort of nursery setting and he's 3, so children will notice. Thanks.

Yes. Last winter my son pinched his sister's pibk glittery wellies which he wore all winter

DS has survived reception class with a salmon pink jacket with blue zip. He got it the previous year because it was the other colour in the same style that his older brother had.

I did deter him from the grey trainers with pink elastic laces for y1 PE. It only takes one comment to cause upset and the trainers to be rejected (they stay in school all term so awkward to swap over) I probably should have got them and swaped with his home ones but that occurred to me too late.

His class is 2/3 female and seems less gender aware than DS1's was. He was upset at being called a girl at 5 for his shaggy hair, school logo cardigan and blue fingernails.

My DD chose a blue Moai bag for nursery this year. I had no issue with it, she thinks he's cool and likes his tattoos. I agree with other PPs who say it raises more eyebrows when a boy choses something that might be conceived by some as more 'girly', which is sad. He's 3, let him chose the bag that makes him happy. He has plenty of time before he has to worry about people judging him.

Back in the day - I let my 3 year old twins pick their bags/backpacks for nursery. DD chose an Ninja Turtles and DS chose Brave. Both popular films at the time. By the time they got into year one of school they are heading down the boys/girls route.

Yes. My son’s friend is 8 and wears unicorn stuff and pink sneakers (a boy). None of the kids care.

My eldest sons favourite colour (or one of them) is pink. He's obsessed with cars, trucks, trains etc and has been since being a baby. However he asked me to paint his nails over the summer holidays so I did. He also asks me to tie his hair up in one of my bobbles so I do that too.

He's 5. Children should be encouraged to be comfortable in their own skin

At three they are fine. I’m not PC at all and think boys wearing pinafores to primary school is silly but a bag at three is not going to be noticed.

it's depressing that you even have to ask.

Yes, you should let your child use the bag he wants to. Plenty of time and opportunity for you and others to beat any sense of internal felt preferences out of him and replace them with standard gender stereotypes..no need to force it before he's three.

Of course. My son regularly takes his frozen purse.
Ridiculous that you even have to ask.

Another nursery staff member here: let him have his bag 😊 We have boys who come in wearing their big sisters hand -me - downs (stereotyping but for example socks with bows, pink vests under t shirts etc) and no child bats an eyelid. The boys love the princess dresses too.
No ever thinks twice about the girl at ours with a dinosaur backpack or the girl who loves power rangers. There are also boys with Pepper pig bags, toys, t shirts etc - peppa is pink! I’ve only ever had one child (a girl) point this out and say “that’s a girls toy, it’s pink”. She was shut down fairly quickly by another who said “everyone’s allowed to love peppa” - it’s not a non-existent problem but if no fuss is made I have found that the stereotypes don’t prevail so much at preschool age.

Sowhatifisaycunt that's really lovely, I hope he maintains his individuality

No

There's a constant refrain in our house. I have DS(6) and DD(3)

There's no such thing as boys toys
There's no such thing as girls things
Pink is just a colour
Anyone can play with that, not just girls

Etc etc

DS still trusts me so much, and gears hears it so often, he's hold his own to argue the point in school.

Probably not for much longer though . There's too many parents joyously reinforcing negative stereotypes for little old me to counteract.

Of course. My little boy sometimes went in dresses. He has pink t-shirts he’d chosen and a pink Skye (paw patrol) back pack. Some days he wore hair grips and bands. At Christmas he was an angel and wore a halo. (His angel outfit was a bridesmaid dress) he’s 6 now and likes all things but is more traditionally boyish (School does that) but nursery and preschool were fantastically supportive.

Your son sounds amazing. I would definitely let my son take a princess bag! I have a daughter & as a previous poster said.. if she wanted to take a Spider-Man bag no one would give a shit. She'd be the cool, edgy girl! Really sad boys aren't given the same reaction for liking 'girls' stuff. God isn't it bat shit crazy what we've done? Created boys/girls stuff & then expect are children to know or give a shit? At 3?! Send him with the bag! Definitely!

Yes. My daughter has a whole spider man set she loves to show off. She likes to play princesses with the boys. Literally no one cares at nursery age!!

I agree with the poster a little way up.

No one really gives it a sec9nd thought with my daughter who is 6 nearly 7 she has a spider man back pack, last year a bat man one. Her hat in summer was bat man also much boxes are the same. She lives football, wearing football kits, and hates anything remotely pink or frilly. No one says anything at all.
I have a son and I just no that at the age had he wanted to wear or bring a pink/disney/princess bag/lunch bag to school I would of worried about him being bullied.

It's unfair.

Good luck and well done on letting your son be himself

Sorry for typos, using my phone

Dgs came home from Nursery school annoyed that he had had to wear the pink dress. At first we thought he was being bullied but no another boy had got to the yellow dress first and the fairy wings didn't fit on the pink dress properly and he really wanted to wear the fairy wings.

I loved his Nursery teacher because, when he became ill at school, she let him wear the fairy wings home.

Let him have his Belle bag, next year he will probably want something blue and typically boy