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People who drive at night with their full beams on!

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TheWorld2 · 03/09/2018 00:19

Why do so many people do this?!!! Argh!! Just nearly crashed because a huge truck had its full beams on and nearly blinded me. Sat in the services feeling wound up and stressed. Fucker!!!

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MrsGriff8 · 03/09/2018 00:22

So inconsiderate, drives me nuts when people do this! Glad you're ok OP

TheWorld2 · 03/09/2018 00:24

It was so scary. No road markings and I was literally without my eyes for seconds. Horrid.

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BlueNeighbourhood1 · 03/09/2018 00:49

Or even better, the idiot in the Prius driving out of Manchester last night in pitch black with no headlights on. I flashed him about eight times and he didn't realise, multiple cars driving along an unlit road and there he is, invisible. In the end I called 101 to report the idiot.

Grasslands · 03/09/2018 00:58

although sometimes they don't have their high beams on, they are poorly adjusted or your vehicle is lower to the ground than the other vehicle and the lights shine right in your mirrors.
i find blue headlights and vehicles with upper and lower headlights (same sized fog lights) a bit distracting.

BigBlueBubble · 03/09/2018 01:03

Lots of headlights nowadays are so bright that they appear to be on full beam when they aren’t. Mine are extremely bright and people flash me most nights thinking my lights are on full beam. Then I flash back to show my lights aren’t on full beam, and almost blind them. It’s the fault of car manufacturers - I can’t make my lights less bright. I hate driving in front of a car with lights like mine so I understand how much people must hate me!

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 03/09/2018 01:18

BigBlue if people are flashing you because your lights are too bright you need to adjust them. There will be a little switch or dial somewhere, probably with the fog lights etc and you can turn them down there. If you do it at night with the beams on you will be able to see the light beam physically lower.

TheWorld2 · 03/09/2018 02:36

If these weren't high beams then I don't know what are!! Lights can still be adjusted and if people are flashing you because your lights are too bright they need to be changed!

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MrsTerryPratchett · 03/09/2018 02:47

When we bought our car, the salesman tried to convince me into the halogen, j-blade, blue-bright awful headlights. I told him I hated the BMW wankers who have them. He (the charmer) said, "you can now be that wanker". Grin We got the normal lights.

donquixotedelamancha · 03/09/2018 07:05

Mine are extremely bright and people flash me most nights thinking my lights are on full beam.

They are set too high. Adjust them down instead of flashing back.

HolidayHelpPlease · 03/09/2018 07:09

Me too! My persona pet hate is when people drive with them on going in the opposite direction to me, on our local unlit stretch of dual carriageway.

Basecamp65 · 03/09/2018 07:26

I also think most of these will simply be modern halogen bulbs. I have driven at night a lot for work and have found it increasingly a problem.

There is no reason why people would be leaving their high beams on more now than 5 years ago but being dazzled by on coming traffic is a much greater problem.

You can learn to focus on the left hand edge of the carriageway to minimise the glare in your eyes but it does not work completely.

BigBlueBubble · 03/09/2018 09:46

BigBlue if people are flashing you because your lights are too bright you need to adjust them
Already asked the garage to adjust them as much as possible. They’re still blindingly bright. Nothing I can do about it.

Bluelady · 03/09/2018 09:51

It's stopped me driving in the dark. I have cataracts which aren't bad enough for surgery yet, they increase the glare and I daren't risk it.

Firesuit · 03/09/2018 09:54

One of the cool features I specified for my car was automatic high beam, where the car decides when they should be on. Turned out to be a bit of a waste of money, as in four years of motoring there have been about two journeys where the car has deemed it appropriate to occasionally use high-beam. If at some point in front of you, possibly miles away, there is a single street light, tail light or headlight visible, car will decide high beam is inappropriate. For my motoring life, I might as well not have high-beams at all on my car, I don't need them.

LifeHackQueens · 03/09/2018 10:01

Bluelady: "It's stopped me driving in the dark. I have cataracts which aren't bad enough for surgery yet, they increase the glare and I daren't risk it." Shock
Ahhh Janey Mac! Are you being serious???If that is the case, you should not be driving. You could kill someone or cause a serious crash. Surely, you don't need to be told this. Hmm

Satsumaeater · 03/09/2018 10:03

Don't overrreact. There is a massive difference between driving in daylight and driving at night.

cattypussclaw · 03/09/2018 10:05

I had almost given up driving at night as I found it so uncomfortable to be looking at all the super bright headlights of oncoming cars. I put it down to newer brighter headlights on cars and old age. But the next time I had an eye test (I wear specs anyway), the optician recommended yellow-tinted night driving glasses. They are brilliant! Cut out the glare and feel safe again driving as I don't get blinded.

PS. You need to be careful where you buy night driving glasses as cheap ones can be illegal as they cut out too much light.

MargoLovebutter · 03/09/2018 10:08

They are bastards! It really pisses me off too. I do a regular long drive most weeks on B roads and in the winter months I dread it because of the fuckers who keep their main beam on. Or the fuckers that keep them on for ages before dropping them and you've flashed them several times before they finally twig. Sometimes, I will pull over and wait until another car goes in front of me simply to avoid the glare of main beams.

Bluelady · 03/09/2018 10:09

I think if my optician considers me safe to drive, they probably know better than some random on the internet. I'm perfectly fine in daylight and made the decision myself not to drive after dark.

UghNoWay · 03/09/2018 10:11

I got a new car with xenon lights and got flashed a few times when I was first out even though the lights were dipped. I got them checked and were told they were adjusted properly. After a couple of weeks I stopped getting flashed - I presumed it was because the lights get less bright after a bit of use.

I initially regretted getting the xenon lights as I didn't want to be 'that wanker in the BMW' 😳 but since they dimmed a little and I stopped getting flashed I have to say I love my headlights and see them as a safety feature . I do a lot of lane driving at night and they are a massive improvement on halogen or regular lights. You can see a lot more with them so there is less danger of missing things such as animals in hedgerows or potholes. They are brilliant! They are particularly valuable for older drivers where your depth perception isn't as great as it was. (ie me!)
They adjust themselves automatically when you turn on the car engine and they follow your driving line - I think it's called adaptive lights - I love them.

TheWorld2 · 03/09/2018 10:19

I think you can tell the difference between people who have their high beams on and those who just have new lights. The new lights are really bright but proper high beams are blinding!

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UghNoWay · 03/09/2018 19:12

I think so too but I still got flashed so presumably other people couldn’t.

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glintandglide · 03/09/2018 19:16

I drive at night with full beams on Hmm I live near many country lanes and can’t see without them. I turn them off if a car is approaching though. They do the same.

YesItsMeIDontCare · 03/09/2018 19:17

I went to Egypt - they drive with dipped lights until they see someone, then they put full beam on. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Santaclarita · 03/09/2018 19:23

People like that get one flash from me to switch them off, then I blind them with my ultra bright main beam. They tend to switch them off then. I do switch mine off once they do it first, otherwise I just continue blinding them.

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