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To dislike ensuite bathrooms?

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UnnecessaryFennel · 01/09/2018 22:35

Currently house-hunting and getting fed up with en-suite bathrooms being carved out of bedroom space and then being sold as some sort of plus point.

Plus, there is nothing cools my ardour like the sound of dp doing his ablutions first thing (and I'm sure he feels the same about me).

Am I alone in preferring my bedroom to be entirely separate from my bathroom? Why have they become such A Thing?

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Sierra259 · 01/09/2018 23:07

YANBU. If we're in a hotel and one of us gets up to use the bathroom, it always disturbs the other one. I don't like the noise and aromas of the bathroom wafting into my bedroom either

When we get our loft converted next year, there will definitely be a seperate bathroom. I don't really want my teenagers tramping through our bedroom to use the second shower in a few years!

Clevs · 01/09/2018 23:08

We don't have one but the appeal is there for the post-sex 'I hope I don't leak' waddle to the toiletBlush Would also be convenient for when my stepson stays so I don't have to put my dressing gown on first.

dementedpixie · 01/09/2018 23:09

We never poo in the ensuite, that is saved for the main bathroom or downstairs toilet.

RedAndGreenSeen · 01/09/2018 23:10

Agree. Who wants to shit on their own doorstep, almost literally? I actually think its quite unhygenic.

PeridotCricket · 01/09/2018 23:10

An ensuite was a condition of my moving in with dh and his sons. It’s the former box room converted so decent size, big window...and we are the only ones who use it. Unless we have people staying in which case we give up our room so guests don’t have to scuttle through the house.

MrsDeanWinchester75 · 01/09/2018 23:12

I love mine, it's convenient at night not to creep across the landing and possibly disturb the young dc, it's also just mine and off a dressing area so really handy for getting ready.

I do have a thing about bathrooms though so the more the better.

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 01/09/2018 23:12

Gosh I love an ensuite.
I think every bedroom should have one.
Main bathroom should have a tub and a separate shower.
( I know I am going into fantasy world here...)

PlatypusPie · 01/09/2018 23:12

I hate them, unless the room is large enough and the positioning of the ensuite such that I can’t hear anything or get woken up by the light going on. The carving up of a decent size bedroom to provide a pokey little shower room seems pointless to me. Our family bathroom, 5 steps along the corridor, is huge and and comfortable and I’m not aware of noise or light. There’s another shower/loo room in case of queues.

Squidgee · 01/09/2018 23:13

why on earth would you put a bathrobe on straight after a shower? it'd get wet.

ShatnersBassoon · 01/09/2018 23:13

I actually think its quite unhygenic.

But the bathroom off the landing and a downstairs loo in the hall/utility/wherever are hermetically sealed and can't contaminate communal areas in the same way an ensuite can spew poison into a bedroom?

BackforGood · 01/09/2018 23:14

YANBU at all.
I like extra bathrooms / shower rooms but don't want them in a cupboard in my bedroom.
We put an extra bathroom in our current house, taking the space off our rather ridiculously over sized bedroom, but specifically chose for the door to be off the landing, not via our bedroom. FAR more useful.

BackforGood · 01/09/2018 23:15

Squidgee - I get out the bath / shower, then dry myself, then put my dressing gown on to walk around the house. It's not that difficult to understand.

Maryann1975 · 01/09/2018 23:15

We looked at a house with an ‘ensuite’. What they actually meant was that they had turned the built in wardrobe into a shower and toilet room (no sink). It was tiny ( I know it was a wardrobe because friend lives in same house next door). There was no door, just an arch way, with toilet one side and shower the other. It meant the wardrobe was in the bedroom making that too smalll and the whole bedroom was awful because of it. We didn’t buy it.
It’s nice to have two toilets in a house, but we manage fine with only one shower/bath. I’d rather have bigger bedrooms than an ensuite.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 01/09/2018 23:16

After having a downstairs bathroom when pregnant I LOVE my ensuite. They do add value but If you don't want one you can just buy a house without one or knock through.

We don't use ours for poo though just showers and middle of the night wees

M0reGinPlease · 01/09/2018 23:17

YANBU

We have two bathrooms, which is great, but neither is an en suite. Why would anyone want to poo essentially in a corner of their bedroom? Not to mention as PP have stated, en suites which are crammed in and those bonkers new builds which have more toilets than bedrooms!

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UnnecessaryFennel · 01/09/2018 23:17

why on earth would you put a bathrobe on straight after a shower? it'd get wet

You dry yourself in the bathroom, then put on the bathrobe to walk across the landing without being in danger of revealing yourself to unsuspecting guests/grandparents/plumbers. Surely?

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M0reGinPlease · 01/09/2018 23:18

We don't use ours for poo though just showers and middle of the night wees

Fascinated by this. Was this an actual conversation you had to agree this? Are you ever tempted to break the agreement?

Doilooklikeatourist · 01/09/2018 23:18

Wouldn’t buy a house without an ensuite ( even though in our house , the only decent shower is in the ensuite , so DD shares it with us ) but I still don’t want to wander round the landing to find the loo in the middle of the night )🚽

SheWoreBlueVelvet · 01/09/2018 23:19

I' m one of the few people that think an outside loo is the best thing ever.
I don't care that's it's cold. It's in the fresh air. And relatively private.
Less fussed about a shower but unless you have a decent size house they make a room feel damp.I am a slattern though so having a bathroom no one else sees is a good thing.

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UnnecessaryFennel · 01/09/2018 23:19

I'm fascinated by the en-suite rules, though! No poo, no partners.

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UnnecessaryFennel · 01/09/2018 23:20

Gin x-posts!

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ineedtostopbeingsolazy · 01/09/2018 23:20

I love my ensuite. I have 3 teenagers, when they were little I didn't need one.

Mine is big with a toilet under the window and a fan above the shower so no smells and no damp. My bedrooms very big so it hasn't been shoehorned in but tbh if it were I wouldn't care.

TwoOddSocks · 01/09/2018 23:21

Who wants to shit on their own doorstep, almost literally? I actually think its quite unhygienic.

lol it could be gross to do a giant smelly shit when the other person is sleeping nearby but it's not unhygienic to poo in a toilet that happens to adjoins your bedroom!

mrbob · 01/09/2018 23:22

Never used to understand the point of en suites. Still don’t see the point of having one so small you can barely fit in it that makes your bedroom tiny. But en suites themselves are wonderful things. Mine is huge and airy and luxurious and there is lots of space between the bed and the bathroom with a proper door so noises are not heard. I live with people and I love that I can retreat to my space and not even have to put PJs on to go and pee! And no one leaves it a mess

RedAndGreenSeen · 01/09/2018 23:23

Have a toilet that you don't poo in Confused!

Why not just use a potty and empty it in the morning? You wouldn't even have to step away from your bed.