Partner's mum making me confirm her other son is just as handsome?

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Someone please tell me how you'd have responded, I felt extremely awkward and didn't really know how to respond!

Been with my partner 4 months. Finally visiting his family for this evening - Monday morning. They live a few hours away which is why it hasn't really been any sooner.

They all seem lovely. My partner has 1 brother who I haven't met yet, he is at university!! He's 20. I'm almost 30 (partner 31)...

She got out a lot of photos to show me and we got to one of him and his brother and she strait away went "aren't they handsome" and I smiled. I assumed it would be left there. Then she goes "well, you obviously find (son 1) attractive, but isn't (son 2) just as handsome?" I again just smiled. I didn't know what to say? She then kept going "isn't he?"

I honestly have absolutely no idea what the appropriate way to respond was, so would like to know what you think?

Or, "I'd bang him like a storm door in a hurricane", if you're feeling especially brave.

Say No if she asks again, that'll give her a shock!

She sounds a bit needy tbh. But saying something like 'yes, very handsome' accompanied by a little laugh would have shown you're humoring her without committing yourself, unless of course you do think he's very handsome and then, as pp said: 'I'd bang him like a storm door in a hurricane' is completely appropriate; sorry I can't remember who posted it.

I know someone who thinks her DH is very good looking and seems to expect everyone to think the same when actually he's just a very tall, slightly overweight, 40 something guy with an incipient paunch and big teeth and I wouldn't fancy him if he were fried and stuck on a stick.

I just smile when she goes on about how good looking he is.

Well it was a bit of a weird thing for her to say yeah, but nothing that extreme. I would have just said 'Yeah hes lovely, arent you lucky to have your two boys' or something platitudinous like that.....

Did your Boyfriend not find it strange that you effectively ignored he mother?

She asked you a question no matter how weird you thought it, although I didn’t think it was overly strange she just wanted a ‘yes they are both very handsome’, and you just blanked her.

Maybe she thought you had suddenly gone hard of hearing so repeated the question for you.

What would you normally do if a person asked you a question?

Whilst I might find the question odd (as she sounds like an overly doting mother), I can't imagine why it was awkward or cause any anxiety about answering. I'm guessing she's been saying this for their entire lives whenever she shows anyone a photo of her sons (babies onwards ...)
Your reaction though was even odder.

I can’t fathom why you didn’t just say yes.
I’d have said one of:

• yes
• he sure is
• yes, he does look like doesn’t he?
• you do make ‘em handsome Mrs X!

Just any kind of verbal agreement was all that was called for.

Her social skills were a bit lacking to keep pressing you, but no more than yours in not just saying yes!

Agree with above - non verbal smiling is no good when your attention is on a photo album. Just answer the question. You probably made it slightly weird in your head, just tell yourself it’s fine