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Original poster

To not have to be in competition for bloody food!

108 replies

sayerville · 31/08/2018 21:21

Alright, this is petty.
My DH is so greedy. All I want is a glass of wine and packet of crisps on a Friday night after a crappy week at work, not much to ask. I go to get the crisps and he's eaten the bloody lot.
Pissed me off that he's so selfish and inconsiderate.

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Original poster
sayerville · 31/08/2018 22:43

Rosa he knows he's in the wrong, I wouldn't mind if he said, yeah I'm really sorry I'll be more considerate next time but he starts shouting about how mardy I'm being

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kaytee87 · 31/08/2018 22:43

I'm amazed at a lot of these posts, it's really opened my eyes. DH and I have never had an argument about food in the 7 years we've been together.

Bluelonerose · 31/08/2018 22:43

I have a secret stash of goodies dh doesn't no about.
Many a times I've locked myself in the bathroom and scoffed a kitkat

FishesThatFly · 31/08/2018 22:48

OP - as has already been asked and not answered. What is the timeframe for the food?

smallchanceofrain · 31/08/2018 22:49

My ex used to do this. He was a selfish pig in so many ways but little things like finding that he'd eaten a tiny treat I'd been saving used to make me so mad. It got to the stage where seeing him eat made me feel like stabbing him to death. At that point divorce seemed like the best option!

Maelstrop · 31/08/2018 22:49

But surely he’s being controlling by stopping you having any of the nice stuff? Does he think he deserves them and you don’t?

I find this situation really fucking weird. I’ve never had to hide food from my DH.

SpoonBlender · 31/08/2018 22:52

"You finish it, you replace it!"

That'll possibly stop him finishing things...

Furx · 31/08/2018 22:55

We have a running joke that I hide my treats under the salad or in a bag of frozen veg in the freezer.

But actually DH is not a cunt, if he has a snackcident he admits it and goes and buys me a replacement.

We had a minor spat as to who the last beer belonged to, and conceded (on very flimsy evidence on my part) that is was mine by right.

Your DH is an arse.

Original poster
sayerville · 31/08/2018 22:57

fishy I did reply see p2

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AmericanEskimoDoge · 31/08/2018 22:58

The problem with the "finish it, replace it" rule is that you'll end up finding a bag with crumbs at the bottom of it put back in the cupboard. (Or so I would imagine.)

Iwantaunicorn · 31/08/2018 22:59

My ex used to do this, but the bastard would leave the packaging in the fridge/cupboard so I thought it was still there, waiting for me to eat it.

Zoflorabore · 31/08/2018 23:02

I hide all of my goodies in the pan drawer inside a crockpot. Fuck that, nobody is getting my Malteser buttons.

If someone decides to make a mealfor a changethen they're welcome to them.
Will never happen though so the chocolate ( and pop tarts ) is all mine ( said with an evil laugh)

KickAssAngel · 31/08/2018 23:04

I also don't have to hide food in my own home - even though I have a DD with ASD and a HUGE sweet tooth. She's learned, as a young teen, that treat foods are NOT for bingeing on and has self control. Her ASD is bad enough that she's classed as disabled.

What's his excuse?

Original poster
sayerville · 31/08/2018 23:07

He's entitled to then is what he'd say.
Good point he never cooks, pan draw is a safe bet!

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FishesThatFly · 31/08/2018 23:07

I saw it was a pack of 6. But no timescale on how long it had been from them bring bought and him eating them

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sayerville · 31/08/2018 23:10

fishes apologies it was 4 days

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ReanimatedSGB · 31/08/2018 23:10

I think it's possible to regard this sort of behaviour as verging on abuse. It shows a total disregard for you as a person - you don't deserve treats, you don't deserve as much food as he does, the only person who matter is him. The fact that he blames you for being distressed when he has eaten your share of food is what makes it potentially abusive. Do you have DC? Does he feel entitled to their food, as well? I have seen a few threads about greedy men who will take food from their children's plates as well as eating the children's treats (eg easter eggs) and never replace anything or apologise.

Fwend · 31/08/2018 23:11

It's not about the food. It's about respect.

If you've asked him repeatedly not to do something that is upsetting to you, and he just continues regardless, then you've got a greater problem than where to hide chocolate.

SoupDragon · 31/08/2018 23:13

I hid chocolate from my DC in the vegetable drawer of the fridge. Unsurprisingly they never found it.

You shouldn’t have to hide stuff though, OP. As an adult, he should have some restraint and common sense.

Gersemi · 31/08/2018 23:18

He just bawls that isn't he allowed to eat anything?

Ask him how being asked to leave one packet of crisps out of six equates to not being allowed to eat anything.

I agree with shouldn't have to hide, ridiculous because the minute he knows I'm doing it he'll go all out to find it to shame me. But he's the one who should be ashamed. I don't like being sneaky but....

So don't hide things. Instead, lock them away and tell him that it's shameful that you have to do that to stop him being greedy. And tell him to grow up.

sonypony · 31/08/2018 23:20

YANBU. My suggestion is hiding.

To not have to be in competition for bloody food!
WorraLiberty · 31/08/2018 23:25

Hiding food is not the answer

The OP's DH (and other's on this thread) need to stop being so selfish and greedy.

Do they take the kid's treats too?

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sayerville · 31/08/2018 23:25

fwend sadly you have a very valid point here.

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fruitpastille · 31/08/2018 23:34

My comment was tongue in cheek really. I do sometimes stash something under the tea towels or somewhere else not visible but dh usually kind of knows and will leave them alone. He will usually leave the last bit of something so I can have it. My dh does a lot more washing up than me! I sometimes buy biscuits that he doesn't like so I know there will always be some left in the tin.

MikeUniformMike · 31/08/2018 23:35

I'd say LTB, but crisps are crap really so as long as he leaves you the wine he's a keeper.

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