DF ex has never worked, DD is 10 and DS6 they haven’t been together for 2 years. We have the children 50/50 and she claims all the benefits and we pay her maintenance weekly. My partner is self employed so works his hours to be able to do school runs for his kids on his days and when his are with there mother he does the school run for mine if I am working- I do different shifts every week and each are 12 hour. If he has his my DM collects and drops mine and he gets them on the way back as they are different schools at the other end of our town.
In June his Ex got a job and we had weeks of stress with her trying to change everything and wanted us to pay all childcare, job lasted 2 days before she got ‘let go’.
She is now saying she had to get a job as benefits are being cut. The AIBU is she wants us to pay childcare for 2/4 weeks a month. Her childcare has to be set days so she wants to pay for her weeks but wants us to pay the weeks we have them to hold the place. We won’t be using the childcare and my partner likes being able to collect/ drop his children. We can’t afford to pay 120 two weeks a month for childcare we won’t use. She says she is entitled to us to pay it but I want to tell her to get lost as we offered to try and move days to help etc but she says she is not Changing days so we just have to pay. She is only going to work 24 hours a week but states she needs childcare every day as if she is working she needs time for her. Despite not being able to afford it I think she is being a CF but it keeps going round and round and there seems no resolution- so I want to check if we are being unreasonable