Taste in men has changed.

[Notintoyouanymore]

Has your taste in men changed as you got older?

I got married at 21 fairly quickly after meeting him, now in the middle of a divorce at age 28 unfortunately. Divorce due to many things, one of them is that he's not who I would go for today, I don't find him attractive at all. He's "short" (5"9) im 5"7, he wears tracksuits 🤢 not my cup of tea, I don't like men in tracksuits. I find that is something my 6yo DS would be wearing in 10 years time, it's for teenagers not grown men IMO.

I like smartly dressed men, preferably suits. Jeremy Kyle style suits 🙈

Have I just grown up while he's stuck in the teen years?

You sound really immature and superficial

All that's changed is you prefer a bloke in different style clothes. You don't mention anything like character & personality traits. Quite a few men I know needed a bit of help with their 'smart' look. Their other half (male & female) just took them shopping.

Oh dear.

There's nothing wrong with knowing what you like/dislike, but these reasons, presented to us in this way, are poor reasons to let go of a person. But, free world and all.

5"9 is not short imo. Just not your height preference. But since a person cannot change their height, especially men who can't readily turn to heels, that pretty low of you.

How shallow.

'short'

My DH is 5ft 6, thats short but as im 5ft 3, its ok

Luckily he is a lovely, kind, funny man who loves me totally. I got married aged 19, we have grown together

You do sound immature

You cannot end a marriage over clothes. Does he neeeed to wear a suit?? What if he said he was divorcing you because you dont wear skirts?

He’s not short. As for you preferring a Jeremy Kyle looky-likey - bleurgh🤮

But I do like men in suits. Not JK though. What a reprehensible creature he is.

Yeh that is quite funny. Dont tell anybody that or they'll think you watch too much day time tv

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Daytime tv🤣

But surely your marry the man, not the suit? What’s his personality like? Have you told him how you feel about the clothes? What did you originally like about him?

So did you only marry him for his appearance/dress sense?

My ex was really abusive, didn't work and never helped with the children. And his mum has been really vile towards me, soI'm not just divorcing "over clothes".

Not saying I like Jeremy Kyle, just that I like blue suits. Not a suit and a tie. Used him as an example, that's it.

Paul Calf was phwoar in a blue suit to be fair

Wow. Poor bloke. I’m really hoping that you’re getting divorced for more than just his height and sense of style.

My husband has gone from power suits and fancy job to jeans and not giving a damn stay at home dad. Sure, I think his clothes are grim sometimes, but he still rocks my world and is a decent bloke.

Poor man. He must be so hurt.

As I said I married him within months of meeting him. I didn't have a chance to get to know him, and at that time he wore jeans and t-shirts.

Surely I cant be the only one who's married someone and don't find them attractive anymore?

Ok being abusive is different story. Good luck with divorce.

I think my taste has broadened over the years, as I've met more men of different physical types whom I've found attractive. Clothes don't play much of a part in it, really. Ultimately, the right personality can override any looks or dress style for me.

Having just seen your update, I imagine it's the abuse you have suffered that has rendered your ex unattractive to you, more than his looks. I hope your divorce goes smoothly.

OP I think some have been rather mean to you.

You've just grown up and honed in on the fact that a man who dresses like a JK guest is unlikely to be fabulous "partner material".

Been there. He was 22 when I met him so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. 44 now and he's just bought new glow in the dark slip-on white trainers to with his trackies! it's a "lifestyle indicator" not just a wardrobe.

Chin up - you've just built yourself a boundary.

My ex (not married but have dc's) is 7 years older than me but after having the dc's I grew up and he didn't. I left over 8 years ago and wonder what the hell I was thinking. My now DH is total opposite to ex, I can't see anything that would attract me to him now.

So yes tastes do change

So you fancied him when he wasn't abusive and didn't fancy him when he was. I think that might be where your taste changed.

I think the abuse would stop me being attracted to my partner.
Good luck with the divorce.

Sorry cross-posted. I’d you found an abuser physically attractive there would be more to worry about than shallow taste in clothes. Kick that dud in bad duds to the kerb!