Taste in men has changed.

[Notintoyouanymore]

Has your taste in men changed as you got older?

I got married at 21 fairly quickly after meeting him, now in the middle of a divorce at age 28 unfortunately. Divorce due to many things, one of them is that he's not who I would go for today, I don't find him attractive at all. He's "short" (5"9) im 5"7, he wears tracksuits 🤢 not my cup of tea, I don't like men in tracksuits. I find that is something my 6yo DS would be wearing in 10 years time, it's for teenagers not grown men IMO.

I like smartly dressed men, preferably suits. Jeremy Kyle style suits 🙈

Have I just grown up while he's stuck in the teen years?

Well, him being an abusive arsehole is a much better reason for leaving than his tracksuit. Hope you’re ok - you’re well rid.

I imagine it's the abuse you have suffered that has rendered your ex unattractive to you, more than his looks.

That's probably what it is. I couldn't have said this better. Thank you

He's no longer attractive to you because he abused you , not because of the tracksuits ffs

Blue suits are a bit tacky.

You only mentioned his appearance as your focus, in your OP.

So the title doesn't really read write "bitter ex rant" slightly more appropriate. You sound about the age he looks!

I'm the same, OP, I've realised that I don't find lazy, mysoginistic abusive men attractive. Can't say I'm drawn to a JK blue suit myself, but onwards and upwards OP, sending good wishes to you, and hoping we both find what we are looking for.

5 foot 9 isn't short

I'm so sorry to those of you whom I've offended by saying 5'9 is short

Oh for goodness sake abuse should have been in your first post not some superficial nonsense about tracksuits!

Yes, when I was younger I used to love the skinny, floppy haired types (think Alex James from Blur) but now I’m more attracted to the v shape/more masculine type.

I get a strong feeling that abuse was added afterwards because people don't agree that OP is right to go off her husband for her own reasons. If I'm wrong I'm v sorry, but this smells fishy to me (sorry)

It is a bit surprising not to mention abuse in the Opening Post.

I got together with my exh when I was 16. At the time he had long skater boy hair, wore the skater trainers, band tshirts etc and was slightly older than me. Also had a lip ring and eyebrow piercing, I thought he was so cool. We were together a decade in total and by the time the marriage was over, my style had drastically changed but his had not. He was still stuck back there albeit with shorter hair and no facial piercings. I really didn’t find it attractive anymore. Not the only reason I left him but it was one of many. Of course it’s normal for your taste to change as you get older.

5ft9 isn’t short though and I say this as a 5ft7 woman. It’s about average.

It did change for me. I now look for traits to avoid which were present in the 1st husband. I also discovered that I like blond men (well, face has to be attractive as well) when in my 20s I didn't notice them at all.

As to clothes (and let's not give OP stick here; dress sense is a valid part of attraction) I like well dressed men who wear well fitted clothes but the fuckers just don't get it. They all seem to like casual shit (and you'd be lucky if it's not "Ipswich murderer" type jeans (pale blue and baggy for 10quid from M&S) or fleeces. ) So you have to go for a ... "good person" (sigh).

I don't know why people are flaming the OP? Doesn't everyone have a 'type'? I don't think that it's shallow to find certain things attractive or unattractive...

Isn't that just human nature?

Also, of course it's completely natural for our tastes to vary over time. God, when I was a teenager, I fancied guys with long black hair and studded belts

5'9 is average for a man in the UK, I believe?

@kitkatsky when I first read your comment I felt hurt, but initially I realised this is an open forum and you've probably read threads here on MN that made you suspicious, but I've posted about my abusive ex several times under different names and I didn't wanna do it again, but I realise now part of the reason why I don't find him attractive anymore is because of everything that's been going on.

5'9" is exactly average height for a man in the UK and US:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_average_human_height_worldwide

Odd how the abuse didn't get mentioned initially along with his vertical and sartorial shortcomings.

Surely everyone's tastes change as they get older. If you are lucky they change to match the way your partner changes.

I'm a different person to 18 year old me, as is dh.

Superficial markers change too.

I remember being a teenager wen men in black came out. My mum remarked how she knew she was old when she fsncied Tommy Lee Jones and not Will Smith. I couldn't understand it then - he was so old and grumpy and not sexy..... now? Now I get it.

Nope.

Since I was 16 I've liked 40 year old dark hair twinkly eyed men is suits.

I think 5 foot 9 is short. But my type is tall men, everyone has a type, sometimes it changes, sometimes not.

I'm overweight and busty but always go for tall muscular men. I think they make me feel little and balance out all my curves.

Tastes change and the OPs may have changed, with or without abuse. My Stbxh is abusive but he is still fanciable to me.

@Notintoyouanymore sorry to have offended, but given your recent post, why did you name change from previous (as I've been in abusive rships myself so would remember ppl if read about before) and why didn't you mention that in your original post? Surely you realise that average height and poor dress sense aren't even secondary to abuse, it's so far down the list to almost be irrelevant? If your OP had been I don't find him attractive anymore because of example a,b,c which all ref'd abuse your responses would've been different. It seems bizarre to only add this later. Yes I've read some utter BS on mumsnet, but moreover several posts that are utterly unreasonable by the original post given details provided(like yours) and then ppl say YABU and suddenly a new vital serious detail is added. You can surely understand why people question you not mentioning abuse in your OP? I've contacted @mnhq and asked them to get your op edited, but it'll prob mean more if you ask for this too!