.....to think my neighbour is unreasonable????

[maisym]

She called me up to ask if I'd remove some weeds from my garden that are growing near her fence - and ivy that is growing up some parts of her fence.

The fence is very long and mainly covered by trees on both sides so it's hard to actually see all of it - plus we can't actually get to all of it. The parts that she can see are clear of weeds. Also it's on the side and isn't a main feature of our gardens iyswim.

I'm preg and have 4 kids so doing this will be a trouble plus not immune to toxo and there are alsways cats coming through the gardens.

Told my dh & he just laughed at her calling!!

Tell her that you are happy to do the weeding if she will mind your DCs and have your bump whilst you do it!

Oh God, mine said the same but then added "we never had these kinds of weeds before you moved here"....i brought them with me you see...in the removal van...thought to myself "ahhh these weeds will look lovely there in that spot" FFS!!!!
Let them grow grow grow and be wild...tell her you never even noticed! that will piss her off. heheheheheehe!

She's a bit of a fuss pot isn't she? Do you like the ivy? If you're not bothered either way I don't see why you don't just hack it down.
We once have someone put a letter through our door about cutting the hedges out the front - they were SCRATCHING them as they walked past! This person put letter through door and ran off like a dog in the night though, didn't have to live next door to them.

If the weeds & ivy are spreading thro' the fence she can remove the ones actually in her garden herself. If they're just near the fence & still in your garden then they're none of her business. If she still moans I'll send you some pics of our garden & you can show her them & tell her to just be glad she's not our neighbour

The area along this fence is full of trees and plants - don't know what (must be weeds!!! - perhaps we brought them as well!!

The ivy isn't a problem as it's only growing in the shade where we can't get to the fence & not much of it either and the other weeds I like.

I leave the garden to flourish - don't use chemicals and just enjoy being outside with my kids. She gardens everyday!!!!

lol GW !!! I'll send you some apples from all our apple trees - perhaps that'll be the next thing when they fall in her garden!!

Then I don't understand what she wants you to pull up, do you? Perhaps all those lovely plants you like by the fence ARE weeds, and are creeping under the fence and DESTROYING her lifes work? If so, then she's not being completely unreasonable is she?

maisym - you sound like me! Our gardens full of trees & bushes & new things are always springing up courtesy of the birds planting [ahem] things for us.

I love it but next door don't - they have a tiny bit of perfect lawn & loads of slabs & stone chips everywhere. Most of their plants sit on these in pots FGS!

Don't see why she can't just pull up weeds that grow in her garden. Ivy is a bugger, may pull the fence down in the end, so worth getting rid, esp. as it is her fence. My mother's neighbour planted ivy against my mother's outbuilding at the end of the garden some years ago. Building had to be knocked down a few months ago as ivy had destroyed roof and back wall.

ahundredtimes - the neighbour can pull up weeds creeping under the fence herself. Most seeds are airborne anyway so she's gonna get weeds in her garden regardless of whether maisym has a few growing near the fence.

maisym- would you describe yourself as a confident gardener?

But she is going to get a hell of a lot more if maisym's garden is full of weeds. And we should assume that maisy's DH is not pregnant and therefore could do the weeding.

Personally I would not have said anything however.

Because how if maisym is sitting out admiring the bind weed, thinking it a most unusual plant and exotic and fab etc, when really she should be pulling the bugger up?

Greebos, yes you're right, and we now know neighbour out every day in her bleedin garden, so might be pleased to have something to do, I suppose?

at maisym admiring the bindweed.

Well she might mighn't she? She might sit out every night and idly wonder what those big plants on her lawn are, the ones with the huge leaves and nice yellow flowers at the top, and hang on a minute, aren't they the same ones which had those lovely fly-away white heads not so long ago.

Dh & I are planning to plant a few big patches of wildflowers at the bottom of the garden. We usually pull out the worst of the weeds but I really don't see the problem with having a few weeds here & there & I do think the neighbour's being a bit anal about it.

Yes, we think the neighbour might polish her grass at night. Maisym hasn't responded to my question about her being a confident gardener though. Perhaps she's out peering over fence at neighbours garden?

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The neighbour does for sure, but maismy? We're not so sure if she's on top of her garden at all.

I think the answer is in the vagueness of the OP and the next post my maisym TBH.

My neighbour has not been home for 3 weeks (other than briefly to swap from winter to summer cars ). So her grass is knee high and her weeds are waist high. AIBU to consider chucking my slugs and snails over the fence to have a go at all this verdant greenery?

Yes, come back maisym and elucidate. We're a bit worried.

Bozza - while we're waiting, can we discuss the winter / summer cars thing? Is it a bit like handbags then?

Well she has two cars. A golf and a softop toyota. So when the weather got nice (was while we were at legoland last week) she turned up and got the toyota out of the garage and dumped the golf on the drive. We believe she is shacked up with her bloke somewhere, hence her never being around.

The time before that (was about 6 weeks ago) she turned up on the Thursday evening with her fella, spent ages cutting the grass, mending the fence, sticking candles in pots, had a barbecue/party on the Saturday and then disappeared off on the Sunday.