.....to think my neighbour is unreasonable????

[maisym]

She called me up to ask if I'd remove some weeds from my garden that are growing near her fence - and ivy that is growing up some parts of her fence.

The fence is very long and mainly covered by trees on both sides so it's hard to actually see all of it - plus we can't actually get to all of it. The parts that she can see are clear of weeds. Also it's on the side and isn't a main feature of our gardens iyswim.

I'm preg and have 4 kids so doing this will be a trouble plus not immune to toxo and there are alsways cats coming through the gardens.

Told my dh & he just laughed at her calling!!

Oh god you've all gone away, and I'm left up to my elbows in weeds in maisym's garden, smiling brightly at difficult lady over the fence, trying to work out what might be a summer car and what a winter one. Are they different colours, shapes? Is one a soft top?

Good you're back. Oooh, she's rather glamorous isn't she? How do you know she stuck candles in pots? Were you spying on her? I would have, just so you know. Perhaps it's her Party House? Perhaps your neighbour is maisym?

And maisym has deserted this thread because she's run off in her soft top car to some exciting destination with new man in tow.

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Hmm as far as I know she is not pg with four kids so probably not maisym. I know because I was out in my garden and could hear everything. And my 3yo went and sat on the top of her slide and started asking me questions about all the activity in the loud, clear tones.

lol at Bozza's incredibly helpful neighbour. Perhaps we should send your neighbour Bozza round to Maisym's to help out a bit. Especially with the nice candles in pots touch.

Who cod? Me? No she did it to her own house. I do look over the fence from time to time. Often to spot where DS's ball has disappeared in the long grass. Actually it is quite handy her not being around, because I can just let DS wander round to retrieve his ball without worrying about it bothering her.

None of her business if you've got weeds growing near her fence. Your garden, your weeds. However, you probably should try to clear the ivy. As someone else said, it will destroy the fence eventually and, if it's her fence, she'd have to pay to replace it. This happened to my parents (who are now not very friendly with their neighbour!).

Thing is mummydoit, these are wise words but we're a bit unclear about maisym's garden and the ivy business too. I reckon she's gone off now to do the weeding.

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LOL. I'm just interested. Was a good job, mind you, when her boiler was playing up in the winter and DH turned the gas off and called BG.

Maisym - I think she is unreasonable in asking you to do it primarily because you are pg and the toxo problem.

If it is really upsetting her that much and she is a keen gardener then she should have come round, let you know that it was upsetting her and offered to do it HERSELF! That would have solved everyone's problem.

You can still do weeding when you're pregnant fgs. She's not an invalid.

ahundredtimes - the OP said she was not immune to toxoplasmosis so I am just respecting what she said about not being able to do it.

Also, all pregnancies are different - some pg women are very ill because of it. But some feel fabulous. I don't know about the OP.

No me neither Crokky. But do people really not pull up weeds because they think they'll get toxo from cats? Wear gloves, go wash your hands afterwards. Is feeble excuse I think.

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lol everyone! - don't let my dh know I was out with a new man in a sports car!!! more like fat preg with 4 kids in an espace - the glam life I lead

Not sure if I'm a confident gardener so probaly aren't! I just enjoy seeing what grows. I have what I would call an interesting garden with wooded areas & lots fun for kids - it's an established place with old trees & shrubs....plus I like bindweed - I do like weeds - lovely flowers that kids can pick no probs!

my neighbour has offered to come round to to the job but I worry she'll hack away more than necessary. She'll most likely have a chainsaw for the job.

She's gardening as I write with a helper she has everyday for this! - off to take kids to party & then the docs..... xxxx

do worry about the toxo bit - so many cats & there mess - plus mice.... it's a wild part of the garden.

Not sure about that logic

They also 'managed' without carseats

Okay, so wear gloves. Hmmm, your neighbour's very keen to get your garden in shape isn't she? You can't LOVE bind weed, that makes no sense. Your neighbour thinks you're going to infect her garden some how doesn't she?
Enjoy your party. Am going to think about this.

I really can understand her not wanting the ivy destroying her fence it's evil stuff and it's hard to get of the roots for it to be gone forever.

maisym, we're beginning to think you're neighbour's got a point. AND she offered to do it herself? Very kind. Tell her exactly what she's allowed to do. Shout directions at her, lie about in a hammock with a cool lemonade and say 'Oh no I love dandelions. Those can stay.' Will be great fun.

A weed is only a flower that nobody loves

Oxford concise say a weed is 'a wild plant growing where it is not wanted'. So one woman's weed is another woman's pretty flower!

Our extremely annoying neighbour is always going on about our garden. We actually sowed wildflowers in part of it, both of us loving wildflowers, and pretty much leave it to look after itself. My neighbour is a right finickity old bugger, is retired and has an immaculate garden, and is also very jealous that our garden is about 4 times bigger than his (ha!). He saw me hand-trimming my bush (mwah ha) the other day and offered to do it with his electric thingy, then laughed at me when I said I don't like things in straight lines. He then sat there on his front step making useful comments while it took me about 45mins to lop off the bits I wanted lopping (whilst also gabbing with my other neighbour!). I do it like that because I want to, I like taking my time over it and I like it to still look like a natural things, not a box! Also, I wouldn't have been able to gab over the noisy electric thingy!

Referring to the OP, the neighbour must also be really finickity, and should probably largely be ignored. But it might be worth investigating the ivy thing if it really is growing up her fence. Needless to say, I love ivy! And bindweed .