We are really struggling to decide at the moment whether to have a third DC. DH feels ‘complete’ already with our two DSs, but would have another if I would regret not having one.
Whilst in my head I know it makes no practical or financial sense for us to have a third, if I am honest with myself, I feel like the yearning comes from not having had a DD. That’s not to say that I don’t love my two wonderful DSs with all my heart, but I worry I will miss out on not having had a daughter in the future. When I ask myself why, it’s very nonsensical and outdated ideas that I know make no sense in today’s world and I’m annoyed for even thinking them (e.g. being more involved in a daughter’s wedding, with their children, being more accepted as a MIL to a SIL than a DIL, etc.).
I know I may be setting myself up to be shot here, but has anyone else felt like this and how did you move past it? Do you think that there really are qualitative differences between having an adult DS and an adult DD in today’s society?
(I would like to clarify that if we did have a third and it turned out to be another DS, I still think that would be a relief at the moment, as I feel I could embrace having three boys as what I was meant to have rather than never knowing if I might have had a DD. Having said that - getting past not feeling the need to even try for a DD would arguably be a greater relief!!)