To think neighbours shouldn't be telling me to fuck off? I'm mortified

[TheTraceNextDoor]

Over at MIL's and someone shouted "Fuck off will you" from the other side of the garden fence. I'm sitting in the lounge with the garden door open.

I didn't think much of it, thinking someone must be arguing.

Then it was there again, this time "Fuck off!"

I was on high alert now, but settled back down.

2 minutes later I head "You, playing Christmas bollocks. Off you go"

I have been sitting here playing 'Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas' but it's the background music to a video, I'm not actually sitting here listening to Christmas tunes. But I guess they don't know that

AIBU to think telling me to fuck off is unreasonable anyway?!

It's August, I'm on her side

Has the time been playing over and over though? That would drive me mad.

Tbh, If my neighbour was playing Christmas songs in August, I'd probably tell them to fuck off too.

What nasty neighbours they are. So says that to someone?

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It hasn't been playing over and over.

The video was 4 minutes long and the song stops after that

Hmm, well it's not something I'd say out loud but I'd very much share the sentiment. I suppose if you're the sort of person who "tells it like it is" it would be a standard reaction.

How rude!

Yabu for playing music that can be heard in the garden. Although the respinse is rude.

tea You can hear a pin drop around here. It's incredibly quiet.

The music is on a medium volume on my iPhone. Nothing loud etc

Perhaps they didn't realise a stranger was there and have that sort of "laughy jokey" relationship with people around them. Maybe.

Does MiL have a lot of problems with her neighbour's?

How rude! Where do you go after being told fuck off! It's so aggressive. If they said "Noooooooo it's August, give it a rest" fair does, but fuck off is vile.

Yes they were BVU and rude. How loud was the music? (Even if it was too loud they could have asked politely like a normal person but it would mitigate the rudeness slightly).

neighbours

So, why spoil the quiet with music?

Bit of a bugbear of mine. The woman next door plays music in the garden every day. I hate it. I'd prefer to enjoy the quiet and the birds.

My neighbour of 13 years told me to fuck off last summer. I haven't spoken to him or looked him in the eye since.

I'll add that he had been a royal pain in the arse for those 13 years, including repeated loud noise at unsociable hours and my neighbourly patience and understanding had run out by that point. The only sligthly regrettable part of the story is, his (a bit more considerate) partner won't acknowledge me, DH or DC since. It pisses of me off mightly that there has been awkwardness at times through no fault of my own. But at the end of the day, good riddance!

YANBU

Does MiL have a lot of problems with her neighbour's?

Certainly not! They take each other's parcels in, send Christmas cards (ironic), very laughy and jokey types.

I think it's the bloke next door who said it. He's known as 'the hilarious joker' locally but I have always found him quite off, I just never warmed to him the few times I saw him in passing. We've never been introduced though

If it was me I’d turn it up louder - August or not, no need to be so rude.

Given that they are laughy and jokey types, I think I would take this in good humour - its something I would probably say too, expecting a laugh from my neighbour!

Ha ha. Sometimes we just have to fuck off. Can’t always be right. Win some lose some.

Dreadful that anyone would use that language over the fence to a neighbour. You weren't doing anything wrong unless it was terribly loud.
Vile, vulgar people.

So it's not quite as black and white as some random aggressively telling you to fuck off is it? You know this guy, you know he has a reputation for thinking himself hilarious but your first reaction is to treat his unfunny but still clearly joking 'fuck off with the Christmas bollocks' as a personal insult. Sorry yabu. Mortified? He might be an obnoxious 'I'm so funny me' prick but I doubt he was attacking you just 'jokingly' telling you off about Christmas music in August.

Ribbon I understand that but his tone was very flat and sounded quite pissed off

Yep he probably was pissed off - it must have been reasonably loud for him to hear it.