To think neighbours shouldn't be telling me to fuck off? I'm mortified

[TheTraceNextDoor]

Over at MIL's and someone shouted "Fuck off will you" from the other side of the garden fence. I'm sitting in the lounge with the garden door open.

I didn't think much of it, thinking someone must be arguing.

Then it was there again, this time "Fuck off!"

I was on high alert now, but settled back down.

2 minutes later I head "You, playing Christmas bollocks. Off you go"

I have been sitting here playing 'Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas' but it's the background music to a video, I'm not actually sitting here listening to Christmas tunes. But I guess they don't know that

AIBU to think telling me to fuck off is unreasonable anyway?!

I think there's never any call for "fuck off", especially when he could have assumed it would have been your MIL.

I also don't have a problem with Christmas music.

I do get incredibly pissed off with our NDNs who play incredibly loud music with the doors and windows open. However, I usually content myself with a "Seriously??!!" quite loudly over the fence, and the volume usually drops.

He was unreasonable, you are not (unless you were playing it really loudly, which it doesn't sound like you are).

Erm. Are you my DH? He always plays Christmas music in July/August, it's like he's realised it was Christmas, but missed it at the time....

No- he's not just getting in the mood for December...

No, MIL's neighbors shouldn't be shouting obscenities at you.

Honestly, the whole "no Christmas music before X date" is silly enough, even without the unnecessary violence of this person's mode of complaint.

It's music. You can listen to it any day of the year you like. I'd rather be subjected to someone's out-of-season holiday music than tons of other genres (rap, death metal, etc.).

I think I like that neighbour, is he single?

The word fuck is not rude. You need to read some history books.

It is only considered rude now because of snobbish class system rules. It’s olde worlde a bit common and then into the swear dustbin.

It’s Anglo Saxon.

I won't pretend to know what people in history books think/thought of it, but plenty of currently living people consider it rude, in the here and now.

Anyway, obviously it was intended in a rude way, in this context.

Just put earphones in if you want to listen to music outside. YABU to disturb others.

Put some Dir En Grey on instead.

Leave it playing while you go out x

The word fuck is not rude
If my DC (5yo and 7yo) came out with it, I would certainly treat it as a rude word! Would you not?

He was probably annoyed by the third comment because he thought you were: 1) playing christmas music too early 2) disturbing the quiet 3) ignoring him when he first told you to fuck off.

@AmericanEskimoDoge - yes, exactly. Thank you, that's a much more succinct way of putting it

Dh and I were having an Alexa battle the other night - we have very different tastes in music - and finally, in exasperation, he said, "Alexa, play Christmas songs!" Upon which she started playing the one that goes, chestnuts roasting on an open fire... This made us both giggle and then we got distracted chatting.

It must've been fully ten minutes later when my least favourite Christmas song of all time came on and I said, "Oh no, I draw the line at the Beach Boys!" that we suddenly realised that we were still listening to Christmas songs. In August.

Nobody told us to fuck off though!

YANBU

I would think the same but wouldn’t have yelled anything

@ScottChegg - Was it "Little Saint Nick"? I can't stand that one either, and I am a massive fan of most Christmas songs.

Tinkerbell, yes! I loathe it!

I would be playing Christmas songs from now until 27 August 2019 if he said that to me!

I suggest you holler back he's on the Naughty List

“the unnecessary violence of this person's mode of complaint”

Ah, the 50s have arrived

Seriously, I wouldn’t shout it out loud, but in August I’d certainly be thinking it if I heard a Christmas song

YANBU, I would be round there asking him who the he thought he was talking to OP.

Where I use to live the Ice Cream truck played Christmas songs in the summer, all through the town. There are few things more wrong then hearing Rudolph the Red nosed Reindeer when it's sunny, 40 outside, and you aren't even sure where the music is coming from.

I can kinda see the neighbours point.

I'd tell someone to fuck off too if I heard xmas songs in August. He didn't know it was just background music to another video, he would have just heard the song

He was totally out of order saying that. Even if he hadn't sworn it'd be a bit off. It was one song!

However if you were playing a whole album of them loudly then fuck off would be deserved!

I wonder if he knew it was you, it might have assumed it was your MIL and they talk like that to each other?

Totally out of order. If you were playing music loudly for a sustained period of time he would have been entitled to ask you politely to turn it down.
If he had asked you several times to turn it down and you ignored him I think it would be understandable if he lost his temper and shouted a bit of abuse over the fence.

But to just tell you to fuck off like that was incredibly rude and ignorant. He sounds awful.

What's the one about Mummy kissing Santa Claus and how loud does your phone go?

Poppyinagreenfield you can talk about the origins all you like to say it’s not rude, but our society deems it is, so it is.
If you don’t believe that, maybe say it to a client/customer at work and see how it goes!