Name changed in attempt to not be outed irl.
Will try to put the basic facts but it's likely to be a bit long.
Lived here 15 years.
Became friendly with neighbour when we had DC at same time.
Friendship changed over years as our lives moved on (used to be stay at home mums, then I went back to work, different interests that sort of thing). Friend asked years ago if I had fallen out with her.
I said I hadn't. Acknowledged that we weren't as close but that I thought it was due to me being full-time and having more children/being ridiculously busy.
Funny thing was, though she accepted it seemed likely that being so busy meant we didn't have much time to catch up, anytime I suggested having a coffee or catch up she was busy as had lots of ironing or housework.
Months later, she again asked if something was wrong.
"No, maybe you feel that way because we never get together anymore but I'm going part time. Why don't we make an effort to catch up on my days off?"
Again, if I suggested a catch up on those days she had ironing or shopping to do.
As we are neighbours with DC the same age we used to walk to school together each morning.
Once I started working I either didn't do school run or was pushed for time so would leave a little earlier and not have time to hang at school gate chatting.
Friend/neighbour started to ignore me in playground couple of year ago. I assumed it was because she had other 'playground' mum friends and because I had a younger child in the infants (so dropped DC in other side of playground).
This made occasions when I did walk to school a bit uncomfortable. Often felt like a third wheel if another playground mum joined the walk.
There was an event recently that friend and other neighbours planned. I joined to help with the planning after being invited to a planning meeting by one of the other neighbours.
A misunderstanding over something I had been asked to do led to me having a little tantrum on the WhatsApp planning group.
After the event, friend/neighbour started to totally blank me.
Didn't respond if I spoke.
Hardly made eye contact.
I asked on day why and she let rip.
Said I'd been ignoring her for years. When I denied this I asked if she meant situations like on playground when she was with other people and ignored me, she responded that she wasn't talking about the playground.
She said I'd been constantly sniping about the event. I admitted to being a dick on the WhatsApp group that one time after misunderstanding, she insisted it was constant. It really wasn't.
She said that I'd been making snide comments all day during the event. I absolutely did not, it was a great day.
She said I'd said something really awful to her that day. Again I had not. The comment he insists I'd made was something I'd said to another neighbour and was said in a totally different way. She made it out to be really cruel and aimed at her.
Bottom line she said was that she was sick of me, found me mean and nasty. Wanted absolutely nothing more to do with me.
She now completely ignores me.
Ignored my daughter on school run during final week of term.
Ignored my sister in local shop.
If it wasnt for the fact that she's a neighbour I'd be upset but would know how to deal but the fact she is a neighbour makes it so awkward.
It's a street where people are close.
She was stood with other neighbours last week. I said hi, the other neighbours responded, she kept back turned. I felt embarrassed.
She walks past me in the street while her husband and/or children say hi.
I don't know how to behave.
Keep being polite and saying hi knowing I will be ignored?
Start pretending she is invisible?