Page 5 | To ask you to share your stories of revenge on ex husbands/partners?

BalloonSlayer · 27/08/2018 20:58

It would have been a better story if Tammy Wynette had written Stand by your man on that autograph.

Myheartbelongsto · 27/08/2018 21:03

Balloon, I think she was standing by husband number 3 by then!

Hertha · 27/08/2018 21:10

I think Wynette comes out of the story worse than her 1st husband.

traceyracer · 27/08/2018 21:24

I get on with my life and they get on with theirs

life is too short

hungryhippo90 · 27/08/2018 21:27

Meh. I’ve never done the revenge thing.

I think karma has met up with them though.

When we were trying to have a baby he had another woman, she had a baby, but by the time he came clean he realised she wasn’t the woman who he would run off into the sunset with happily. In fact she was already demanding money for the time she took out of work for Drs appointments to do with her pregnancy.

I moved on, I was incredibly hurt, he completely broke my heart.

but a few years ago we were speaking, he was still full of regret for what he did and how he lost me. He was forking over in excess of 1k a week in child support, so she wouldn’t stop him seeing the kid, he lived on his own until he was deemed ok by the OW to have their child. His life’s quite sad, he had no one to spend his time with, really sad actually.

Whereas I’d just got married to a man who worshipped the ground I walked on, had a nice life.

Hearing that the only woman He’d have ever married was taken didn’t quite give me the satisfaction I’d have guessed it would. Id have felt a lot more sorry for him if he hadn’t have really hurt me, but still. It wasn’t a nice conversation.

delphguelph · 27/08/2018 21:32

Well this went well.

mineofuselessinformation · 27/08/2018 21:48

Was that aimed at me, Teejay?
I take it you know all about the shit that he put me through, and how I tried to make it work after he cheated, and how he left me on my own on the one and only occasion that I thought I was dying.... And how he made my oldest keep quiet about his affair when they were under ten years old.
Yep, he was an absolute gem and totally didn't deserve it....
He's with the second OW now and I take great pleasure in thinking they deserve each other (her dm spread it round that we split because I was having an affair).

Lostmymind26 · 27/08/2018 21:56

Erm this was kind of revenge on behalf of a friend :)

Bloke who had been just generally awful to my friend, messing her around, mind games etc.
He was reallyyyy argumentative about housework and always called her lazy etc (she isn't!). Anyway I was helping her move out and going through the kitchen cupboards when I saw his Cheerios he has every day for breakfast. I cut a hole in the bottom. I'm ashamed of it now as it is a big passive aggressive but at the same time it does make me smile to think one morning he pulled them off the shelf for them to go everywhere 🤔 I also may have accidentally packed his tin opener (he is obsessed with tinned soup for his lunches) and ever so slightly knocked all the pictures in the house so they were on an angle.

I know this was pathetic but he had acted so badly and I don't think i did anything too serious just little things to annoy 🙈

BoneyBackJefferson · 27/08/2018 22:10

Here is another lovely little story of "funny" revenge.

A friend's friend found some condoms and confronted her husband about it, he denied, she didn't believe him and they split.

She decided to poke holes in all the condoms.

Turns out that they weren't her husbands at all, she is now a "happy" grandparent. The son no longer speaks to his mother, not because she poked the holes in the condoms but because she was very nasty about the pregnancy.

So it all ended spectacularly well. What fun!

Tofffeee · 27/08/2018 22:53

I found out my fiance was cheating on me, and moved out of our rented house while he was out for the day.

I left my engagement ring behind on top of the bed. Which I had made very neatly after painting "lying, cheating prick" on one side, and "still a lying, cheating prick" on the other.

Not my proudest moment, but he deserved worse.

SemperIdem · 27/08/2018 22:57

Boney fucking hell!

Tofffeee · 27/08/2018 22:58

*on one side of mattress, which we'd both paid for. Childish but made me chuckle when I thought about him seeing it

Needsleepneedsleep · 27/08/2018 22:59

This thread has brought out the MN holier than thou pearl clutchers again

SemperIdem · 27/08/2018 23:01

I’m far from being a pearl clutcher Tofffeee, but somehow I find criminal damage and abusive, controlling behaviour no more amusing when women carry it out than I do when men do.

SemperIdem · 27/08/2018 23:02

My apologies Tofffiee, my comment was directed to Needsleep.

fuzzywuzzy · 27/08/2018 23:13

Ex was very abusive. He would tell me regularly I was used goods and nobody would want me.

He also threatened to throw me out on the streets (presumably with our very young DC, one of whom was still a toddler).

I divorced him and have a lovely life now and when DP moved in with me and before we moved house DP would often see him sitting parked near our house at night watching our house.

He was probably seething that I had a DP & clearly was happy (& utterly relieved to have him out of my life).

OP it does get better, rally round real life friends and family for support and do everything you wanted to do but couldn’t whilst in a relationship with your ex.

MissusGeneHunt · 27/08/2018 23:14

I left the bugger. That was revenge enough after 3 years of abuse. He screamed at me as I walked out:'you'll fail without me you whore...!' which I ignored, carrying one suitcase. Two years later I graduated with a first class honours and a whole heap of self respect. Ha!! Up yours, twat stick!

pieceofpurplesky · 27/08/2018 23:20

My revenge was to leave and live a better life however my mum was not so forgiving 😀. She went to collect my stuff from ex ex h and as a seamstress carefully unpicked certain stitches that she knew would slowly have an impact . Ex ex h and I worked for the same company. I soon heard how his trousers split in during a very important meetings - the woman he was shagging as in the same meeting. My mum is a legend

Ineweverything · 29/08/2018 11:03

I was having a conversation recently about the dangers of paracetamol overdose. Hospital colleagues tell me that brokenhearted women are prime candidates - with IRREVERSIBLE often (slowly) FATAL consequences.
So, if you're reading this thread, have a good cry, but don't despair. Tomorrow is a new day.

StopItAndTidyUpNow · 29/08/2018 12:29

When i was with ex I had some financial problems which I was working through myself, never got into any trouble with it but I had quite a bit of debt from my student days that I will still paying off.

I was constantly getting grief because he wanted to go away every year on holiday and I couldn't afford the 1k it cost for a week.

I also couldn't afford to shop at M&S or go out to expensive places every weekend so he started to tire of me as I used to scrimp and save and pay off as much debt as i could.

Anyway I foolishly bought a house with him - sold my car and bought a cheaper one to contribute to the deposit but he ultimately owned a bigger % of the house.

The resent towards me grew deeper the longer we lived together as I was still paying off my debts and avoiding expensive holidays so he used to go for weekends away with friends and nights out spending £2/300 a night. He would never ever compromise and go somewhere cheaper.
He treated me terribly, he cheated on me and I still stuck by him.

One night he turned to me and told me to get out as he no longer loved me, he wanted a lifestyle that I couldn't afford, and as he owned most of the house I needed to leave.
So I did. Turned out he was messaging lots of other women on facebook and one in particular...

3 years on I am completely debt free, have a good amount of savings, my salary is bigger, my house is in a better part of the city and worth more, I run my own business and can now afford the things that I want to spend my money on, not the things that HE thought I should spend my money on. I have a lovely DH also :-)

He's still single - the woman he cheated on me with dumped him 6 months later, he still lives in the same house and I've heard through the grapevine he's desperate to move but can't afford it. Also had text after text after the other woman dumped him begging me to reconsider, he'd been a selfish fool and realised how good I was for him etc etc blah blah blah. Has told various friends i was the one that got away, how much he regretted his decision.

THAT was the best revenge ever

MiggledyHiggins · 30/08/2018 12:22

It's normal to fantasise about elaborate revenge plots when you get dumped. It's not normal to actually act out on them. As long as you keep that in mind, fantasise away.

I've got my revenge. I'm loved and worshipped more than my abusive ex said I ever deserved, I've got a home life that he would crave and I know it sticks in his craw to see how happy I am. Good.

Jolonglegs · 30/08/2018 12:30

"Before You Embark On A Journey Of Revenge, Dig Two Graves” — Confucius
Best to leave it in the past and look to the future.