Changing name after marriage

[TheMarbleFaun]

It seems to be a complete bollocks to change your name on things (particularly bank accounts when there’s no actual branch) so AIBU to just open new ones?

It’s all about money laundering regulations. So I don’t know if it’ll be easier to just open new ones- they’ll want proof of name from your previous accounts.

The bank just wanted to see my marriage certificate, which was straightforward to produce.

Even opening a new account would mean you’d need to show the cert if you haven’t managed to change the name on your passport or drivers licence.

I don’t remember it being too much hassle.

Of course, you could just not change your name :o

Mine has been a right faff. I double barrelled mine and they wouldn't accept my marriage certificate or my bloody passport!

I had to dig out my deed poll (I'd also done this to amend the spelling of my first name) which they did finally accept but it was a total ball ache. I nearly told them to shove their account up their arses!

I don’t mind showing the cert if there were a branch here (closed the only one in Ireland about two years ago) but they want a certified copy posted and I don’t even know how to go about getting one of those!
Faff is right polka

Driving licence just changed it with a copy of the original cert which they just posted back to me dinosaur

Just don't change your name. Much simpler.

Or get your dh to change his. Then he has the hassle.

Why are you putting yourself through all this hassle for an outdated tradition that positions you as firmly secondary to your husband? Why not keep your name or have him change his?

I did not change my name.
Simple.
Over time I've accumulated accounts in my married name - so have both

You get copies certified at the post office. It’s super easy. There’s a form you print and take to them.

I found changing my name was actually really straightforward. Much easier than a lot of the other PITA bureaucratic things I’ve had to do.

My boss was able to certify a copy for me. Change your name if that's what you want, OP.

Why are you putting yourself through all this hassle...

Maybe, just maybe, she wants to?

Thanks for that mindutopia I didn’t know that

Maybe, just maybe, she wants to?

Of course. Funny how the majority of women, and very few men, want to put themselves through this specific hassle though, isn’t it?

Not really.

Change or don’t change, just don’t get snide and arsey with those who have chosen differently to you.

If you’re not especially attached to them you could open an account in your previous name at a bank that does have a branch nearby then switch your old one into it, you’d then be able to change your name at the new bank’s local branch when it has moved across.

That said, I just sent mine off by post and it came back fine. Solicitors and some banks will do you a certified copy of your marriage certificate if you ask.

I wanted to change my name. My name my business.

sloth how do you know I’m a woman?

cos a bloke would not ask

Why are you putting yourself through all this hassle for an outdated tradition that positions you as firmly secondary to your husband? Why not keep your name or have him change his?

Of course. Someone asks a simple question about changing their name on a bank account, and someone has to turn it into an issue of Spare Rib. Classic Mumsnet.

Solicitors can certify copies, for a fee. Make sure the person who's name you're taking pays half.

Or ‘her husband’, as he might be more conventionally known.

I had a right faff as well. Made appointment at the bank. Took all the documents. All fine....except it transpired the chap at the bank had only changed half my accounts. Cue total chaos and my having to walk round with my passport and marriage certificate for six months.... It settled down eventually (and you do get used to being Mrs DH surprisingly quickly!)