To feel a bit sad without my baby?

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I have never left for over 1 hour.

DH has taken him for 4 hours today to his sister's.

I'm just having my lunch then I'm off to town to pick up some bits and have a little wonder.

I feel so sad.

My little boy is happy enough, I know that. But I feel sad that I cannot instantly comfort him if he gets upset.

Sorry, I know IABU.

I just feel like he's still so tiny.

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I didn't leave dd2 for more than an hour or 2 until she was a year and I went back to work. I didn't want or need to leave her so didn't. It didn't cause any problems and she settled into nursery instantly. I think it's normal to want to be near them when they are little. She is 4 now and is easy company, very different from dd1 who is 6 and has ASD and is more demanding and intense. I really need breaks to recharge from parenting her, but dd1 is much more easy going.

I actually see where you're coming from OP. I miss my four when they are with family for a few hours but I also enjoy the peace and quiet. I've had rare evenings out since having my youngest (11 months) but he screamed and screamed last time even with close family and stopped when I came back and picked him up. He's a mummy's boy. I would be missing all my kids after 4 hours, but I'd be more worried about my baby missing me.

The first times getting used to being apart are the hardest but it does get easier, keep busy and don’t look at the time hopefully it will pass fast and when your baby comes back happy it will help settle you

It's hard, you feel at a loss without them, but I can assure you that each stage has its own challenges and benefits. I love it now when my working daughter is on earlies and we walk the dog together, the wish to spend time with your child doesn't go away (though I like that she dog sits whilst dh and I escape on holiday!)

I think being described as a unicorn baby is depicting the baby to be mythical as it sleeps all night from day dot etc, in other words quite rare.

I had two and both did this, I was just lucky I think but now they're older it's payback time as one stays awake later than us ( bye bye sex life ) and one has to be dragged out of bed for school as she still sleeps like a baby.

No offence OP, but I find this completely unrelatable.
I would have absolutely revelled in such a break!

Absolutely! As for babies taking from a young age, my daughter did. First word was papa at 6 months and by a year she could string a simple sentence together. She was late walking though. My in laws used to take her every Thursday and I loved my free day.

An online friend regularly posts videos of her 9 month old walking/toddling, so it’s entirely possible! I was amazed tbh as DS2 was 14 months when he took his first step!
Can’t remember DS1
Her baby is also saying mama, dada etc.
YANBU anc I think you’ve had a few harsh comments, OP.
We didn’t get out ourselves till DS1 was 10 months old! Not through choice, I may add!
I could hardly go out myself as I was ebf and DS1 wouldn’t take a bottle of ebm.
DH would phone me if I was out and make me listen to DS1 crying down the phone!!!!!!
I’d have to race home to feed/comfort him!!! I used to be so annoyed that DH couldn’t seem to comfort him! He’d just sit there with him! I’d be saying to him to walk round with him etc etc but he never did!
I’ll tell you what, I didn’t make the same mistakes with DS2! He learned to take EBM from the word go, from anyone
AND, he also got formula as DS1 was 18 months old and I just didn’t always have the time to bf or express.
They’re 10 and 11 now and I still absolutely love being with them; movie nights etc
I love being without them, too

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