To tell my cousin to stop!

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He's a nice person but is living in the 1950s!

He keeps sending stupid text jokes about women, two examples:-

One a woman looking out of a plane window saying this is where a woman wants to be, this has a further photo attached that has a woman looking into a washing machine sating but this is where she should be.

Another "joke" with a caption saying she told me no more sex until I put a ring on it. Then a photo of a bed with a boxing ring round it saying I hope she liked it.

I've thought about saying you do know the year is 2018 and not 1950 don't you!

Driving me mad, do I just say stop your stupid sexist not funny jokes.

The above are two examples but he sends loads!

Or am I a miserable cow?

Tell him to stop and if he doesn't block his number on your phone.

@BlueBug45 I do not really want to block his number as we share elderly relatives that we sometimes need to communicate over.

For context he is gay, I would never send homophobic jokes to him (I would never send homophobic jokes to anyone, but just saying to him for context)

Then you are going to have to put up with his sexist jokes if you don't.

Text back "I don't get it, can you explain?"
Make him spell out to you his sexist views. This is my favourite trick when someone makes a sexist or racist joke in my presence. Really makes them look at themselves. I'm no fun at parties 😁

I was asking for what to say to make him stop, that's my first option. Blocking immediately is not really what I want.

As in OP do I just say stop? I think I will when the next one comes through (sometime today no doubt). I don't know where he gets these crap jokes from!

@CryptoFascist that's brilliant! I'm going to do that now!

I would send ones that would offend him. Then he might stop. Perhaps you could make it a competition to see who can come up with the worst. You should ask a question for people to tell you the worst ones they know!

Cool, I'd love to hear what he has to say in response

Done it! On the two most recent ones!

I'll be back if he responds.

Can you go like you would a child? Completely ignore unwanted messages and only respond to normal ones?

Ooh no crypto has it bang on!

He's come back with ummm

Then a how are you?

Then a you'll like this one though and sent a football related one!

I'll not respond at the moment, but that might just make him think!

@CryptoFascist you are a genius! 🍷 for you!

Perhaps you could respond with how old are you?

@Thehop I had tried ignoring but it didn't stop him! 😤

OP when you want someone to stop doing something you have to tell them so. So yes, tell him to stop.

Urgh!

I've had this before, with an old colleague. Tried an initial response like @CryptoFascist but after a while they continued. Told him straight that I was surprised he would send me this sexist diatribe, I didn't find it amusing or appreciate it on any level, and to never send me anything like that again.

He apologised, and hasn't since.

Be straight with him, challenge it, he needs to know this isn't ok.

One of my close relatives used to send me emails like this. I think he’d just forward them to everyone he knew.

I replied honestly, something like:

I don’t appreciate receiving these jokes, they are sexist and racist and I find them personally insulting. Please remove me from your distribution list.

And I never got another one. We still see him and it’s never mentioned and he never cracks those ‘jokes’ in my presence either.

Why haven't you just asked him to stop? What's the worst that can happen?

I’ve just had this with a distant cousin on FB. But not jokes - anti-Muslim memes. I tried ignoring it but couldn’t. I tried challenging him politely (and was the only one of his FB friends who didn’t agree wholeheartedly) but got nowhere. In the end, I blew and told him I could ‘no longer sit back & be party to such inflammatory bile’ and that he should be ashamed. I think I shocked him but he came back with some stuff about being free to post what he wants on his own page and ‘you know what to do’. We’re no longer FB friends and it feels great knowing I won’t have my mind polluted by such unpleasant Britain First crap every time I open FB. Obvs, your situation is different but is there any way you could talk to you cousin and explain how offensive you find the jokes?

Until women stop being nice and keep letting men get away with this shit, we will never truly get equality.

Crypto's idea was a good one. Hopefully now he will think twice about what he sends

Does he work in a 'laddy' environment and is over compensating? Rather worrying that he shares misogynistic jokes. Don't let him get away with his emoji answer. Say 'I'm serious. What's with the unfunny woman hating?'.

Personally I find jokes like that funny, but everyone is different :)

Just tell him the truth and ask him to stop making those kind of jokes because you find it really offensive? If he's a good cousin he'll understand :) Good luck!

Just tell him to stop. "I don't like these type of jokes, please stop sending them to me". I mean, that must be a more dignified text to receive than all these hints and semi explanations?