A&E asked how I even knew I was pregnant.

[Bighoooley]

Hi, I was 6w 3D pregnant - numerous positive test, over 30.

Woke up covered in blood so went to A&E but as I hadn’t yet confirmed preg with GP the doctor accused me of lying - I have 4DC already!

Saying how did I even know I was pregnant and that’s it’s a period

No one confirms it with the GP any more.

GPs won't confirm pregnancy anymore. You go straight to midwife for booking in.

If you were 6 weeks then you were two weeks after your period was due.
Why are they questioning it?
I assume you told them you tested.

I live in Channel Island, not nhs and we do book in with GP.

I showed him the tests.

How upsetting to have a pregnancy dismissed like that - I hope you’re ok Bighooley

Am I reading this right that you did 30 tests?!

Did they do an internal scan?

That's awful.
And very insensitive.

I'm sorry Big, the last thing you need when dealing with a loss is for the doctor to tell you you're basically imagining it. He's an idiot.

I’m sorry for your loss.
Why had you done 30 tests? Did you tell the doctor that? I’m wondering if the reason for all the tests was that you were finding something ambiguous about them? e.g. did you test positive and then negative and that’s why you carried on testing? (I’m wondering about an earlier loss than 6+3, and whether the doctor considered it to be a chemical pregnancy rather than a loss after implantation? I’m trying to think of a reason to say it was a period)

No internal scan they said there would be no point.

I carried on getting BFP for 4 days whilst bleeding then clotted and got BFN tests.

Just feel like the baby didn’t exist to anyone apart from DH and I.

I just have had losses in the past so I get a bit obsessed with line progression. I found out at 10dpo on a frer.

My gp never confirmed it 12 years ago. Said my test was as good as his. Never bothered after that.

I’m sonsorry to hear that, surprised they didn’t do an internal scan. Surely no matter where you are that’s a normal procedure? But I’m only saying that based on my experience at my hospital.

You don’t need it to have existed to anyone else. I’m sorry the doctor was so dismissive, but don’t give them more weight than your own knowledge. x

Sorry but...why would you have taken your positive tests to A&E with you?

Totally irrelevant question Derek.

I know just feel angry. Got the bill £109 for losing a baby

Because doctors are quite dismissive of women, whatever the scenario.

I’m really sorry for your experience, but their opinion is meaningless.

I've no idea why the doctor would say you weren't pregnant. But I've been told you can continue to get a positive for a few days after miscarrying, which is why A&E always told me I probably wasn't pregnant anymore when I was bleeding, but testing positive.

At 6 weeks pregnant the baby did exist with you and your DH, but it existed for you. Some random tactless doctor doesn't need to acknowledge your baby's existence. x

I tested positive for a month after my miscarriage (was a missed miscarriage and I was 13 weeks when I had medical management so probably the longer end of the scale for positive testing) so yes I agree you can have positive tests but no longer be pregnant

The medical bill is insult to injury, isn’t it? It’s just the system though, try to push that from your mind.

Hugs with your husband, and find your own way to acknowledge this loss. Best wishes x

Why were u billed?!

Why were u billed?!

Different healthcare system Channel Islands. Not all healthcare is free.

Sorry for your loss.

Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Its okay to grieve for the baby you KNOW you were carrying.

She’s not NHS.

Some (male) doctors simply don’t get it.