So as the title says, I wasn't invited to my DSis baby shower. This is my only DSis and we were always close right up until she got engaged. My DH and I included her in everything- holidays, family events, parties, day-to-day stuff....my home was her home and my door was always open.
Her DH has always been civil (even friendly) but I always felt there's something not quite right there. He's good to her ( if you ignore that he's lazy & allows her to wait on him hand & foot) and they seem happy.
Since she got engaged, there's been a distance. She doesn't visit any more, takes no interest in my kids who adore her (this was once reciprocated), and seems to find reason to be annoyed with me regardless of what I do. In parallel, she's grown close to her DH family & makes a fuss of his DNs regularly.
Wedding happened & I did my best by her (hen, gifts, advice, treats & day itself), but the distance has grown. Now she is nearing the end of her 1st pregnancy & I've tried to be there for her. Again, she's civil & not interested in the advice I offer (our mom is dead, so I try to fulfill that role insofar as I can. I know how it feels to go through pregnancy and childbirth without your mom. My instinct is to help her as much as I can).
Last week, I had to travel with work. I was gone for a week. I arrive home to gushing Facebook posts from DSis thanking her DH's sisters for throwing her an amazing surprise baby shower. Neither me nor my DD were even invited. Just her DH family & all her friends. AIBU to feel upset?