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To consider a breast lift or is there something else I can do?

42 replies

Teachtolive · 24/08/2018 12:27

Before I had kids the thought of plastic surgery horrified me. 2 breastfed babies later and my boobs are on the floor. It's so depressing. I am very grateful that I have a healthy functioning body but this bugs me so much. It's really getting in on me. Has anyone had a breast lift and would be willing to share their opinion, good or bad? Or is there any kind of non surgical exercise that I can do to lift them?? Thanks for reading

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BigBlueBubble · 24/08/2018 12:33

Working your pecs apparently lifts them a bit. And it takes time after stopping bf for milk producing tissue to decline and be replaced by fat.

hellsbellsmelons · 24/08/2018 12:37

When did you stop breastfeeding?
I would suggest that a lift and breast augmentation is the way to go if you can afford it.
See a specialist surgeon for an initial consultation and see if they have other suggestions.

missmouse101 · 24/08/2018 12:38

Mine are the same, droopy and pointing to the floor, but honestly, I have learned to love them. I can no way afford surgery and they are very sensitive to touch during sex (in a good way!) and I worry that would be seriously affected by a breast lift. I'd hate to lose that erogoneus zone. We can choose to love what our bodies have done and not bow to shallow vanity.

Racecardriver · 24/08/2018 12:45

@missmouse there is no need to accuse OP of being shallow or vain. I am seriously considering having surgery in a couple of years if my breasts haven't reached an acceptable state. My breasts are quite large and now that they are saggy I categorically cannot go braless because it is too unconfoetable but even with a bra on it still hurts my shoulders and my back because of the pressure the bra causes. It was fine when they held themselves up mostly but now that my poor back is doing the hard work I am often in pain and constantly in discomfort.

@OP wait a bit. I've also breastfed two children but mine have sprung back a bit now that the skin has tightened. Make sure you wear a very supportive bra and see how they are in a year or two.

missmouse101 · 24/08/2018 12:54

Oh no! I didn't mean OP was being shallow and vain. More the current culture in our country of everything being about how you look. It's a great thing to believe you are beautiful enough as you are.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 24/08/2018 13:13

Expensive, but much cheaper than surgery, is a bra from Rigby and Peller. It will change your shape completely, for the better.

Targeted exercise will help as well. You could try those before making a decision and if they don’t help, at least you know that you’ve tried what you can before spending the money.

Sparklesocks · 24/08/2018 13:17

Your body your choice. If you can afford it and believe it will make a positive impact on your quality of life then i say go for it.

I think surgery can be a lifeline for people who find their lives are enormously impacted by that particular issue, the problem is when people get addicted and then can’t stop.

ForFiveMinutes · 24/08/2018 13:36

If you can afford it then I would say go for it!
I had a great uplift in February and my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner, I love love love my new boobs. Before they were like two spaniels ears, with nipples pointing at my toes, and no amount of exercise changed that.
Best bit- when we went on holiday earlier this month I could go braless under strapless tops and not worry about turning round too fast and knocking myself out.

CSIblonde · 25/08/2018 01:05

Try the Wonder bra? They still do them only more comfy than they used to be (Cotton ones too) . If that doesn't shove them up where they should be nothing will, so go for it lift wise. Underwire is a girls best friend.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 25/08/2018 01:09

Trying not to be a bitch but does it really matter? I mean really?

My DH had jet black hair before kids now he's a silver fox, it wouldn't even cross his mind to try and change it.

Why do us women feel we have to look like we did pre children once we have children. We have grown up/matured/ developed. Be proud of who you are.

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fattyboomboomboom · 25/08/2018 01:14

OP - are they too big or empty spaniel ears? A breast reduction and reshape is major surgery but I think spaniel ears is an implant which I think would not be so major.

Far too much of a coward for surgery, I admire people with the courage to go for it.

OlennasWimple · 25/08/2018 01:34

Good bra (get measured properly when you have not changed size for a month or two)

Pectoral exercises

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Teachtolive · 25/08/2018 02:48

Thanks for the responses, lots to consider there. I have to say, I'm not doing this for anyone other than myself (If I do it at all- I'm still quite undecided). My husband lives me as I am. I'm just not loving me right now. I went from C cup (pre pregnancy) to E while breastfeeding, and then back to DD, but it's a kind of bottom heavy DD if that makes sense?? I got such a shock today when I put on a swim suit for the first time in ages and they just disappeared under my arms somewhere. They look fine in a bra (albeit a bit crepe-y) but out of a bra they may as well be gone. I know it's vain but it was always the one part of myself I was happy with til now.

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Mintylicious · 25/08/2018 02:54

I’m considering this after a few years of breastfeeding too, OP. Droopy is one thing - that’s more fixable with underwear - but massive, shapeless and droopy (me, not you!) is harder. It’s not fun when you look several stone heavier than you are because of an unwieldy bosom.

My concerns are - losing the nipples (I know this is rare); losing sensitivity; scarring; and perhaps feeling afterwards that I was better with the devil I knew as a consequence of these points.

Anyone who’s had a reduction and lift and can comment would be loved forever by me!

Rainbunny · 25/08/2018 03:48

I feel you and for me it's a case of being small framed with big boobs (32GG) and I fully plan on a breast reduction and lift in the next few years. It's not just about looks, in my case I'm sitting on my sofa after losing yet another week of my life to back and shoulder issues. The stupidest thing is that it took me until recently to finally connect the fact that I have large heavy breasts with my recurrent back/shoulder problems going on for years.

Grasslands · 25/08/2018 03:59

i'm 60 and thinking of reduction surgery...in the summer heat it's so uncomfortable no vanity just want to make my life easier and more comfortable. why should i go the next (hopefully) 30 years of my life with any discomfort?

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Teachtolive · 25/08/2018 09:56

@ForFiveMinutes can I ask what your recovery was like?

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dundee12 · 25/08/2018 09:59

I would defo consider a lift, does that involve implants or not? I can’t bear the idea of implants

kaytee87 · 25/08/2018 10:06

Just to dispel a myth, breastfeeding doesn't cause breasts to sag. Gaining and loosing weight / pregnancy can however. Sorry it's just a see people saying they don't want to breastfeed in case it makes their breasts sag when in actual fact it's the pregnancy and subsequent weight loss that does it.

Op it's not something I'd consider and I'm a 32GG, just get some well fitting bras and swim suits from bravissimo and see how you feel in 6 months time.

bridgetreilly · 25/08/2018 10:09

Get a really good supportive swimsuit that works as well as your bra.

TruffleShuffles · 25/08/2018 10:22

I second having a go at pole fitness/exercise on pecs. I did pole for a few years and it really did lift my boobs to the point that I was confident in going bra less with d cups, something I would never have done before. If you are not 100% sure on surgery yet and have the time for it it might be worth a go?

I’m 24 weeks through my first pregnancy at the moment though and have gone from a d to a g so far and am terrified of how mine will end up. I’ve already told my husband that I will be having surgery if they don’t end up close to pre pregnancy size/position!

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Teachtolive · 25/08/2018 10:38

kaytee I don't mean that it was breastfeeding caused it. But the rapid size change due to pregnancy, followed by engorgement from stopping feeding cold turkey were the main culprits

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garethsouthgatesmrs · 25/08/2018 10:49

Sorry it's just a see people saying they don't want to breastfeed in case it makes their breasts sag when in actual fact it's the pregnancy and subsequent weight loss that does it

Shock do people actually say they won't feed in case it makes their breasts sag?

ForFiveMinutes · 25/08/2018 10:56

@teach Recovery time was really quick. I teach and had the operation during Feb half term and was back in work the following Monday. Gave the gym a miss for a couple of months but otherwise no issues. The hardest bit was sleeping on my back but I found if I used pillows to prop myself slightly to the side it was ok.
Mine was just the lift, no implants, so the nipple is raised up and then the breast reformed around it. I also had a very meticulous surgeon so the stitches healed really quickly and neatly.
Happy to answer any further questions!

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