Parking thread- am I the CF?

[Imsupposedtobeatwork]

I live on a new build estate which I love, but recently the parking has become a total nightmare! I live in a row of four houses, each with a garage behind and an allocated parking space next to the garage. In front of the houses there are two visitors parking bays. Since moving in 7 years ago (when the houses were built), I've always parked in one of the visitor spaces, my next door neighbour uses the other. There is no rear access to the garages, so I have to walk around all the other houses to get to my house. No one was using the visitor parking so it seemed simpler. Recently other people have been parking in this spot. That's fine, it's a visitor spot and if someone else is there then I'll happily park in my parking space. However, I've often noticed that if I park there first, then someone parks behind me, making it almost impossible for me to get out. My neighbour next door has been having the same problem. There's lots of spare parking on the street, so there's no need for them to park here.

So my AIBU is- am I being the CF by being lazy and not using my own parking space, or are they by parking me and my neighbour in?

Who is blocking you in? How would you feel if a visitor to another house parked in your designated spot?

Probably CF. I'm assuming your space is empty and unavailable when you are taking up a visitor space?

And also, how do you get to your garage from your house?

Can you make a rear access to your house from garages?

Walking is quite good for you. I'm struggling to see you as anything other than the CF to be honest, sorry.

So you have the choice of parking in your garage or in your allocated parking space but you choose to park in a visitor space. Yes you are a CF I am afraid.

I think you are being the CF I'm afraid. You have a parking space but are choosing to inconvenience others instead of using it. Your neighbours are probably fed up of their visitors not being able to park.

Could you swap the spaces? So tell the other houses that your spot could be used as a visitor space?

Similar situation to us where we used to live. We had one allocated space. But two cars. Same as our neighbours. So we used to use visitor spot. So did neighbours. No one ever complained. However New neighbour moved in and started using the visitor spot because their car was too big for their allocated space at the front of their house?! So husband complained and they had to start using their space. Do very similar to what you are doing. It's not fair. Unless you offered your actual space to other neighbours as a visitor spot?

So where are visitors supposed to park?

When we lived in a new build it was in the deeds that we may inly use visitor parking bays as a temporary measure. I took that to be a couple of hours max. I don't know it would be enforced, but if yours is the same then it's you being unreasonable.

I'd say you're being a bit lazy but whoever is blocking you in is being passive aggressive. My dads estate is like this with visitors bays and some people are always moaning about residents in visitor bays.

Yes my space is free when I park in the visitor parking. There's more parking on the road, but they're choosing to park right behind me making it almost impossible for me to get out. I thought about offering my space for the neighbours, but if someone else uses the visitor parking spots then I wouldn't have anywhere to park?
If it had always been like this then I wouldn't mind, but it's only started recently?
To get to my garage I have to walk past the other three houses and then along the road to the back, past the other three garages and to mine. I don't usually mind, but I've got a three year old and it's difficult to control him on the road if I'm carrying the shopping, work bags, etc

Yes, I rreally think you're the CF. You have both a garage and your own designated space, yet you are parking in the visitor spaces.

Yes you are a CF, visitor spaces are exactly that and it’s people like you that cause the parking problems on my estate. Walk. You knew the situation when you bought the house.

Yeah you are being a CF. You have a GARAGE and don't use it?! You choose to use a valuable parking space that others need. WTAF?

And you have to walk a few hundred feet to your garage, big deal !!! You knew that when you bought the house!

This winds me right up. Our estate is a similar layout. One person has a drive, but fuck it she parks religiously on the fucking path!!!!!!!! Blocking her own drive

If you have a car parking space, god damn use it! I assume your insurance states you park in a garage/drive? If they realise you don't bother your insurance could end up being void if someone hit your car whilst it was parked up.

We’ve got two visitor spaces on our new build estate and it is both a written and unwritten rule that residents don’t park in them.

It’s written in all that stuff about not having commercial vans that the visitor spaces are for visitors.

It would be a hot topic of conversation on our street if you were using the visitor spaces instead of your own!

I do sympathise but you bought the house. You can't bitch about the walk to and from your own parking space.

Your three year old won't be three forever.

A drawing would help me understand
Why dont you park in your garage?

Yea your the CF it’s in the name visitors parking. You have a designated space your just being lazy not wanting to walk from it to your home.

Yes, I think you are being the CF here! I have seen this arrangement before on new builds, everyone has there own space/driveway. Visitor spaces always seem to be used by the same households who after a while assume ownership, then get the hump if anyone else tries to use it.

Presumably the other houses in the terrace have to walk round to the back as well so not sure why you feel you should have the benefit of the visitor space?

People parking behind you are letting you know they are fed up with you using the space when you have your own empty space so you need to stop doing it to avoid further problems.

Yep you are, you know you are deep down too. Do your ears burn when you walk down the road?!

I think you already know you're being a CF which is why you asked. I know it's hard when you have a three year old but you could always just park in the visitor space, unload the shopping from your car, and then drive round to your garage and then walk back to the house with your dc.

but if someone else uses the visitor parking spots then I wouldn't have anywhere to park?

There's more parking on the road

I think we need a diagram.

On the face of it, you're being the cf. You don't want to park in your allocated space, or in your garage, or on the road, or for anyone else who can't use your allocated space or garage or visitor space -because you're in it- to park too close to you.