To not want to go back to work full time

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It’s a very long story but to try and keep it short (and try to give as much info as I can do here goes.....)

We’re having a lot of work done on our house at the minute and so have been living with family for 6 months.
We have DCs, husband works in a good city job and I run a business from home part time (still quite new, but going positively)

We’ve just found out that there are structural issues our first builder hasn’t identified and it’s is actually going to take another 6 months to put right (there have been a lot of problems and we basically had to tear the house down and start again - we were only supposed to be out 3 months) and it’s going to cost a lot more too.

Family are fantastic but It’s been difficult to define rules re our DCs. Family don’t listen to how I (we) want to raise DCs and tend to interfere/ undermine me (I don’t think it’s on purpose, I think they just feel like they know best/ their house etc)

So all of a sudden it’s been discussed that I’ll close my business and go back to work full time to find the additional build while family look after DCs full time.

I feel really uncomfortable with this and I probably am being unreasonable but I wanted to get some perspective - thanks!

This post was edited by MNHQ at OP's request

Has it been discussed or decided? There's a massive difference.

It's not unreasonable for people to come up with ideas and present them. The issue if is they're forcing or coercing you into it. From what I've read it doesn't seem that way but if that is what's going on, it's completely wrong - regardless of the details.

All you need to do is discuss with your husband only how you are going to carve up responsibilities - not just financial, but domestic, childcare - the whole shebang. If you already find the in laws are undermining you with your son, then the last thing you need is them providing regular childcare. You and your dh might decide to outsource some tasks - I don’t mean you have to carve it up literally between just you two - but it’s a decision that is the two of you to make- not anyone else.

(and agree with PP, why are we suddenly getting a glut of threads from women claiming they’re being ‘forced’ into full time work, when the reality is quite different and there’s often a back story)

Agreed. The issue in this situation is clearly the going over OPs head, not the FT work in itself. There'd still be a problem just the same if DH and PILs had agreed between them that OP would continue working the same hours in her business because they thought it would be a good idea. It isn't PIL decision.

You need to change the thread title

It seems there are two issues:

1. Childcare to allow you to work
2. Being excluded from the discussion

Doesn't sound to me that you're averse to full time work if that's what's required to fund the building work

MN is notoriously in favour of the 2 FT worker model so it's not a great place to ask your question

^^This.

The issue here for me isn't whether or not you will work FT it's the fact that your DH and his parents had this discussion without you and came up with a solution without consulting you.
I agree.

MN is notoriously in favour of the 2 FT worker model so it's not a great place to ask your question
Really?
The only times I've seen threads almost exclusively come in favour of two full time workers are threads like 'we are struggling financially and DH thinks I should get a full time job instead of running my crafty stalls and etsy site' (and other such 'but I don't want to work full time, working full time was bad for me and I'm so much more fulfilled being at home).

The rest of the time there seems to be a reasonable mix of views (which how discussions get heated).