To ask all guests to take shoes off in my house?

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Just that really. A few people seem really put off by that.

My dear sil has to be reminded several times before she takes them off.

I hate the thought of trailing the dirt inside the house.

The first rule of the class system is that you don’t talk about the class system and indeed deny it has any relevance anymore (as fascinating as it and it’s social effects genuinely are).

I have severe arthritis in both feet and walking without shoes, or having cold feet, is extremely painful. I struggle to put shoes on/remove them. I just wouldn't visit . I'm glad my friends and family are relaxed about unimportant stuff.

Yanbu. 99% of houses i visit as a nhs worker and my friends its shoes off. Its vvvvv rare that someone tells me to keep shoes on which i still take off. Its shoes off in my house. Never ever had any problem with anyone who doesnt.

Why would you disregard someone who tells you to leave them on? That's just as rude as refusing to remove them.

Growing up we never took shoes off but when we had our own kids we got into the habit of take our shoes off because the kids were crawling about on the floor. DH used to make our guest do it too. I was too embarrassed to ask. I thought it'd make people uncomfortable.
We moved in to a rented house with wooden floors throughout. Our landlord is very precious about them. When we viewed the house we had to wear shoe covers. They also wanted our removal company to wear them. DH said no, as it's not safe.
It's habit now for us to take shoes off at the door. We used to ask guests to take shoes off when we first moved in but now we don't bother now. Guests usually ask if they should take their shoes off. We just ask them to give their feet a good wipe on the door mat.
Family coming to stay usually bring their slippers
My sister and bil have guest slippers I cringe at the thought of wearing them which is great for people like me who suffer pain if they have to walk on hard floors in stocking feet.

It's nothing to do with class, it's to do with respecting people and their homes.

I have arthritis and I'm disabled. I take slippers if I'm going somewhere I'll have to remove my shoes. It's common courtesy.

There is no such thing as class anymore

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It has everything g to do with class because it involves how things are done.

...everything to do with

It’s common. Not sure about the courtesy bit.

The class system is fascinating and impinges in many behaviour. It is very interesting to discuss the way different types of people do things.

Why on earth would it not be relevant?
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If someone kept their shoes on (without asking, or being told not to worry) then they would never be darkening my hallway again.

Except my children who seem incapable of remembering, I think SS would complain if I made them sleep in the garden sheds 🤓

...on many behaviours.

Rosewhitetips who even says 'common' anymore, seriously?

The class thing is just used on here as a red herring and an insult.

It's not simply a class marker and can also be cultural or religious, but that is always dismissed.

I HATE people taking their shoes off when they visit my home. I assume they must think I’m incredibly uptight

Are the shoes off people the same ones who have complicated rules about boilwashing laundry, change their sheets daily, and wear pants in bed?

I also wonder how people who say it's a class thing, explain how that works for people who've grown up in shoes on/off households then do the opposite in their own homes?

I grew up in shoes on house, in my old carpeted house I preferred shoes off especially because both of my newborn babies played on that carpet, new house with wooden floors people are welcome to leave shoes on.

Mirrivan or perhaps people simply don't like being mocked for their personal experience references in their own homes? Perhaps they are sensitive about being called rude and lower class.

I don't know anyone in real life who cares about, or even mentions the class system. However I don't know anyone who would take kindly to being pointed at and labelled.

The example always used about the Royal family is void because how on earth do any of us know what they all do in their private living quarters?