To ask all guests to take shoes off in my house?

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Just that really. A few people seem really put off by that.

My dear sil has to be reminded several times before she takes them off.

I hate the thought of trailing the dirt inside the house.

I do not know A SINGLE PERSON in real life who doesn't take their shoes off when visiting someone at home!

Some people do live sheltered lives, I can’t imagine having such limited experience.

I'd say 'my house, my rules' is rather opposed to the essence of hospitality, which is surely to make the guest comfortable

Yes!!!! Especially when you’re having a party and women are in heels or wedges etc which complete an outfit or make them feel taller or skinnier or whatever. Having to pad around in a nice dress and bare feet isn’t the same thing.

never had a problem with doing it or having it done in our home.everyone used to do it,from friends to relatives.it wasn't ever a problem.we had more people doing it automatically and mum and dad had to say "oh don't worry if you don't want to" because everyone that came started to take em off.
it wasn't for a clean or immaculate floor either.it wasn't for no heel marks.
I used to shit myself when I was yonger though and went out and suddenly invited somewhere and had no socks on!i hated my feet!so would be hiding them under me the whole visit.

What do the shoes off people do when they have parties? Are people expected to go barefoot/slippered in their nice outfits?

Let’s turn this debate around - what is the issue that some people on here have with simply removing their outdoor footwear when entering someone’s home?

I did explain this above (quite a few others have too if you can be bothered to read).

In summer I mostly wear flipflops or sandals because it's hot here. I walk my dog, go to the beach, etc - we do a lot outdoors. By lunchtime my feet are not very clean. If I took my flipflops off, you'd just have my dirty feet on your floor. I'm not sure that would be any better than me wearing my flipflops or sandals but I'm happy to oblige if you insist.

My daughter has feet covered in verrucaes. They've been there for nearly 10 years and we've been trying really hard to get rid of them including every treatment you can imagine, including at this point trips to the dermatologist. We're getting there, but I'm guessing you don't want her bare feet on your floor? We don't wear sock because as I explained already, it's hot here. I don't think you want her feet in your guest slippers - or maybe you do?

In winter I wear snowboots - I will take those off as soon as I arrive at your house because of course I don't want to treat snow and mud through your house. I have socks on underneath in winter.

I don't want to put your guest slippers on thank you - I have no idea who wore them before me, or what viruses they had.

When I had plantar fasciitis my physiotherapist told me not to go barefoot for 3 months.

Apparently they do, Laurie.

My husband would rather not take his shoes off because he recently had surgery on his feet. He has a large scar on one foot, and he has toe separators that are helping keep his toes in the right place while everything settles - the shoes are helping keep all that in the right place.

But - you know. Your house, your rules.

Having said all of that, if a host wanted us to take off our shoes we would, of course. Then we'd wash our hands and sit there feeling uncomfortable and leave as soon as we could.

Really bad manners not to automatically remove shoes when you get to someone's house. I do not know A SINGLE PERSON in real life who doesn't take their shoes off when visiting someone at home!

Likewise, it's just automatic for all my friends and family. With my job, I visit clients' homes very regularly and likewise I always offer to remove my shoes - you can see most people breathe a sigh of relief that they don't have to ask. We also have a box of plastic shoe covers for delivery men/tradesmen to wear who quite rightly need to keep their shoes on for foot protection etc.

What do the shoes off people do when they have parties? Are people expected to go barefoot/slippered in their nice outfits?
We all take shoes off most of the time, but then parties are quite casual so we've not had situations where I've gone to someone's house in a cocktail dress.

Parties aren't a regular thing at our house, I've never insisted people remove shoes. Most just do. Otjers I don't mind.

My issue is regular tramping and my carpets getting ruined, not germs. Now I don't have carpet downstairs and it is glorious.

As for people saying 'yeah but thia foot injury' , I would assume anyone coming to a house as a guest is a friend so my guess would be their friends would know.

What next? Well my uncles mate went to someone's house and they purposefully told him to take his shoes off just 48 hours after surgery (that clearly the friend hadn't been told) so he did (no questions ro discussion or explanation) and then he injured it so he has half his foot hanging outside his skin all because someone has a preference for shoes off in their home.

and then he injured it so he has half his foot hanging outside his skin all because someone has a preference for shoes off in their home.

Or maybe ha has half his food hanging outside his skin because he didn't say anything about his foot injury?
Because he made the (in this case rather stupid) choice to take his shoes off?

Btw, I'm obviously agreeing with you.

I'm just a bit annoyed about some people's arguments...

I don't want to wear their slippers or shoes: then don't.
I have a medical issue: say so.
But I coordinated my shoes with my clothes: stop being silly. Everyone else will be barefoot/in socks or stockings as well...

I don’t think I they have many parties or barbecues because few normal, well adjusted people would attend.😂

Correct version:

I don’t think they have many parties or barbecues because few normal, well adjusted people would attend.😂

As for bare feet on the floors here - just NO. What a revolting idea. Ditto to smelly trainers or ghastly sandals or whiffy shoes OFF the owners’ feet inside my house.

No, it was right the first time.

If your feet are so disgusting, rosewhitetips, try taking your shoes off once in a while to air the skin and nails and stop fungal infections from taking hold.

My feet are lovely actually and my nails are prettily polished in pink. What is a fungal infection, please?

(Poor try, btw. 1out of 10.)

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MammaSchwifty

I would hazard a guess you wear very smelly Birkenstocks which you will abbreviate to “Birkies”!

Lol

The first version was not correct. It contained an erroneous I.

You are not particularly observant, are you?

In Canada, you take off your shoes because otherwise you'd trail in mud or snow. I always remove my shoes. My husband doesn't and it bothers me, so I bought him slippers. I don't mind what guests do though, they aren't in the house every day!

Some people do live sheltered lives, I can’t imagine having such limited experience. 

Bless you. I have a very full life full of wonderful experiences and I am very happy

POI:

Anyone who uses “Bless you” in a response to a post like that, is doing so through gritted teeth!!

The one person who asks me to take my shoes off has hard floors. No slippers offered and tbh it’s really uncomfortable walking around in stockinged/socked/bare feet on their horrible cold floors.