To ask all guests to take shoes off in my house?

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Just that really. A few people seem really put off by that.

My dear sil has to be reminded several times before she takes them off.

I hate the thought of trailing the dirt inside the house.

Yanbu. Shoes off in the hall at my house. Everybody who visits knows this so wears socks etc they don't mind showing and it's the same in all other houses we go to. I can't think of a single friend or family member who leaves their shoes on at home or in anyone else's house.

MammaSchify

Shame you spoil your posting with such a sexist stereotypical anti Male remark.

The rest was ok.

There's nothing anti-male about it. Most of the time it won't be the man cleaning the floors. That's a simple fact.

*Bluelady Well yes, obviously MIL can do what she wants in her own home.

I always take mine off if I go further than the hallway in someone's house unless I am told not to by the host. It's how I was brought up. In my house, I have hard floors and a dog so unless it's wet out I don't ask. The lounge is carpeted though so I would ask if we were going in there.

I think the point is that you shouldn't have to ask guests to remove their shoes, which can be awkward. They should automatically do it, then if you like you can say it's ok to leave them on.

I think the point is that you shouldn't have to ask guests to remove their shoes, which can be awkward. They should automatically do it, then if you like you can say it's ok to leave them on.

But that's the point, in some sections of society it's the opposite way round - it would be rude to take your shoes off in someone else's house, a kind of overfamiliarity.

I think the point is that you shouldn't have to ask guests to remove their shoes, which can be awkward. They should automatically do it, then if you like you can say it's ok to leave them on

Well no. I'm not a fan of feet thanks very much. I don't want people to automatically remove their shoes in my house.

That's generally fine though as my friends / family don't.

But that's the point, in some sections of society it's the opposite way round - it would be rude to take your shoes off in someone else's house, a kind of overfamiliarity.

Well yes, as though they are making themselves a bit too much at home.

I have plantar fasciitis and it’s very bad for me to walk barefoot. I’m sure I’m not the only person to find it sore. So I’d need to bring indoor slippers (flip flop types wouldn’t do) if visiting your house. It would, frankly, be easier not to bother coming.

MirriVan, I think the Queen would ask if she needed to take her shoes off. I suspect she's got quite good manners.

I doubt the Queen's ever heard of removing shoes indoors.

There's been no reply from anyone who likes shoes off, what they would do with a guest who admitted to athletes foot..

Amputation.

Also, what is the worst thing that can happen if somebody does tread dog shit on the carpet. This could happen in the seconds before shoes were removed.

Of course. It's dirty and it's smelly. But you get a bucket, hot water, detergent, a scrubbing brush and you clean up effectively. (Carpets and mats do not have to taken to the skip. Death will not result.)

Similarly most households cope when an insufficiently toilet-trained toddler has an accident and poo gets on the floor.

Your house your rules. Simple.

Buy a fucking doormat. Job done.

These threads are always a good laugh!

I'm in Finland, no one asks people to take their shoes off here because they don't need to, everyone does it automatically. If the Queen came round for tea I'd make her take her shoes off too but I'll provide a chair so she doesn't have to balance on one foot taking them off, wouldn't want her to fall down.

Even at my daughter's school it's shoes off.

There used to a poster on here who was visited by no less than David Cameron (PM at the time).
She insisted he remove his shoes before entering her home - and he did!

I don't think the queen's in the business of taking her shoes off. At least not in the UK.

Visited a school in Sweden where all kids and staff were in socks/stocking feet. The school was very quiet (no clattering solid shoes on corridors and stairs),, nobody rushed about (afraid of getting toes stood on) and there was no fighting (unshod feet not good in a struggle unless martial arts).
These were side affects - the reason was because big Swedish snow boots were in a drying room all day!)

But - your house, your rules. I hate outdoor footwear on my carpets.

I doubt the Queen's ever heard of taking shoes off indoors

Yeah. She probably doesn't even know she has feet in there.

Buy a fucking doormat. Job done

Yes. A cursory wipe over a mat removes all traces of dog muck in an instant

I now live in a culture where it is normal to take shoes off at the door. Kids take slippers to school. I’ve adapted to the tradition in this country, and to me it makes perfect sense - especially now I’ve reached an age where I and most of my friends have small children crawling around.

We are mixed culture household, and I have adopted shoes off. Having lived in a place where that was the norm I don't see any probs. I make exceptions for people if they really find it a struggle, most people don't seem to bother about it. People can adapt, and they usually have socks on. DM has her own pair of slippers in residence :)

This is often a thread on MN, next we'll be onto how often we wash towels and change the loo brush. Perennial faves.

AnxiousPeg. I expect no one knows HOW to wipe their feet any more, as the hygiene obsession takes over.

I've never asked anyone to take off their shoes, as I consider it very rude. No one has ever, ever trodden dog shit through my house.