to be beating myself up over pregnancy fall?

[OrangeOrlaith]

30 weeks pregnant. I got on my train and could barely move. I was late getting on so didn't get a seat. When I say packed I mean it was like sardines. Everyone looked at me and saw that I was pregnant but nobody wanted to move. I should've asked for a seat but felt okay standing and knew lots of people would get off at the next stop. The train is generally smooth and I really thought I was going to be ok.

Train made an emergency stop and I fell backwards on to my bum, knocking a bag out of a ladies hand in the process. I was holding on, I just don't know what happened. A couple of people helped me up and I'm now sat here shaking, feeling stupid and like a terrible mum for just not asking for a seat.

Baby is kicking as usual so I think he/she is okay.

Not sure what the point of this post is but I'm just feeling like shit and like I put my baby at risk all do I didn't have to go through the anxiety of asking for a seat.

Feel awful

Don't beat yourself up it's more the selfish idiots who didn't offer a seat you shouldn't have to ask!

Give your midwife a call just in case they want to check

YANBU for not having asked, someone should have offered. You thought you'd be ok for one stop, you held on, there was an emergency stop. Baby seems fine, have a cup of tea when you get wherever you're going. If anyone should be reconsidering their actions it's the people who steadfastly ignored the pregnant woman standing on the train while they sat comfortably in their seats.

It's the first time I have ever not had someone offer and I was right in the middle of the aisle, but it fills me with dread having to ask because I've heard awful stories of people being told 'you're pregnant not disabled'. I fell on my hip and it is so sore. Not broken but I'm just so, so annoyed with myself

That's why you have a bum! Don't worry, as long as the baby is moving it sounds fine. Don't beat yourself up, there's plenty of time to feel guilty over other stuff over the next 18 (50?) Years.

This is exactly why people should always offer seats to pregnant women on the train.

Arses.

Call.midwife unit and plod along for an assessment even if its just for your piece of mind. Should be fine as if you landed on bum then amniotic fluid would have protected baby from the bump.. like shaking an egg in a jar.full.of water.. wont be botheree by it!!!

It's like I just lost my balance. It's never happened before. I know pregnancy throws your balance off. I was half way down the aisle and had nothing proper to hold on to. It still took until the train started moving again for someone to offer me a seat. I didn't want to seem entitled.

*peace not piece hahaaa...

That's really shit.

Obviously you won't have done any damage, I thought initially you meant you fell on your bump!

Awww hand hold and .

I bet you're not feeling as shot about it as the people who saw your bump and still didn't get up off their arses to give you a seat! Selfish gits should be ashamed!

Don't beat yourself up. If you're worried, go the the maternity ward for reassurance (and if negative blood type, anti d). They don't mind.

I fell down the stairs at around 35 weeks. It was terrifying but everything was ok.

Oh no if I fell on my bump I would've been devastated! After 3 miscarriages I'm so guarded about it.

If you haven' t asked for a seat, you can't really complain about not having one.

I'm sure your baby is fine, but get checked to put your mind at rest

Shot = shit. Auto correct obviously hates swearing....

@Clairetree1 I've already acknowledged that I should have asked for one so obviously it's my fault entirely.

The people who didn’t offer you a seat should be ashamed!

I had a fall at 24 weeks pregnant which bruised my hip, I was fine but went along and got checked at the hospital as a precaution. I felt so shaken up & guilty for days afterwards. Don’t be hard on yourself, being pregnant really does affect your balance.

You're not a terrible mum! You felt okay standing. At 34 weeks pregnant with dd I was much more comfortable standing on the train. It could easily happen to anyone.

I could cry. Feel like such an idiot.

My Dh was carrying me up 3 flights of stairs. I had SPD and struggled to get up them.

He had been doing it for weeks but this time he slipped and I went crashing down hard straight onto my bump.

I was 27 weeks pregnant. Baby was still kicking away so I wasn't too concerned. Rang the midwife just in case and she said not to worry as long as movements were normal a as they have plenty of cushioning.

Later that night however, I started to get contractions. I got took to hospital where a test showed my cervix was changing and I was going into threatened preterm Labour.

Ended up needing two lots of steroid injections and 3 hormone drips to stop them. Also ended up getting transferred to sheffield all the way from Lincolnshire.

The midwives were very worried I was going to give birth but luckily she hung on and was eventually born at 38 weeks.

You should be fine as you landed on your bum but any worries, call your midwife.

This is why pregnant women need a seat!!

Yes you should call your midwife just to check.

Someone should have offered a seat. They should feel terrible not you.

You are not a terrible mum. Baby doesn't think so - it just thinks you gave it a jolt so it's going to give you a kick back!

It's just the shock of it all, but you'll be okay x

Scared to tell DP. He gets so angry (not at me, but he would at people on the train). He would probably call the train company and tell them they need more carriages! Ugh. I hope this shitty feeling wears off soon.

Welcome to Mum guilt. No matter what you do, there’s guilt.

I’m glad you’re okay!

I hope those around you feel awful. Take it easy tonight and try and relax.

YANBU people should have offered.

It really irritates me when people trot out ' you're pregnant not disabled' no perhaps not, but pregnant women have more relaxin hormone than the average person which can mean they end up with worse injuries than healthy non pregnant people if they fall.
That's aside from the damage that can hurt a foetus.

I hope you and baby are ok op, please get checked out if you're concerned.

I slipped in a shop at 7mths pregnant. I damaged my pelvis. Physio said it was nearest thing to a sprain. I basically done the splits. Pelvis hasn't been right since. Twisted out of shape. I was taken to hospital they checked baby and not me. I have lasting damage and pain.
Get yourself checked out.