AIBU to be fed up neighbours can't be arsed watching their own kids

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Have nc for this as it is very outing
Honestly loosing the will to live with my neighbour. Don't know what to do or if I can do anything as she is very confrontational with people who disagree with her views but need advice.

Mother Teresa / earth goddess on Facebook. Married, SAHP, 3 dc. Age 2 5 & 6

Dad appears stoned most of the time and drinks in the day although they have a nice house they own and he works and they appear quite middle class.

Mum makes out on Facebook the kids are constantly clinging off her and she is household goddess. Realistically one is in nursery the other two in school and she spends her day trolling unicef and the likes about how vaccinations are for idiots and anybody who isn't a vegan (she isn't either) must hate animals. "If you disagree with me unfriend me fuck off bye" and all that shit.

Anyway they do nothing with the kids. Don't take them anywhere or do anything with them. Don't even supervise them in the house. Every single day of the holidays they have been all in the road playing from 7am until sometimes gone 10pm while mums front door is closed and she's nowhere to bbe seen but sat posting on Facebook.

Apart from the noise which on my days off work and it being too hot to sleep to with windows shut I'm genuinely worried for the safety of these kids

So far we have caught the 5 year old standing dancing on top of an 8 ft brick wall, no adult to be seen

5yo yesterday riding a bike zig zagging across the road with no helmet

2yo and 5yo constantly hang out of windows shouting

This morning they were out at 7 again shouting in the street

Now they are still out running in and out of the road without looking and infront of cars laughing. Mum and dad might as well have gone out they are never ever watching them.

Our street is a very busy cut through and they live on the corner of another side road.

At the bottom of our street is a road with huge houses on, some of which house kids that have been in care, vulnerable people and people that have previously been in prison including pedophiles, this is knowledgeable to everybody in the street. Our street is the route they would take to get into town as shops are at the other end. Nobody in their right mind would let their kids play out all day here let alone with no sense or parental guidance.
Another neighbour that lives opposite said children are an old couple that are nudists. I've never seen the woman naked but we think the man is losing his awareness as on multiple occasions this year he has been caught by neighbours in the street and in his bag window bollock naked and reported to the police for his own safety so they can check he is ok.

I'm tired of wondering why the parents can't be arsed to watch these kids but can be bothered to sit with a beer on Facebook judging everybody else's attempts at life.

There's probably nothing I can do about it but have a rant. Their kids are in the same school as mine so I have to see them everyday. Their kids have no manners, Road sense, they hit and kick and shout and swear, the youngest doesn't even seem to be able to communicate yet on Facebook she's a middle class stay at home vegan spiritual goddess woman who posts life advice posts constantly

Sorry so long didn't want to drip feed

Well if I saw a 5yo child by themself riding a bike in the road I would be calling the police. That's criminal neglect in my opinion.

I think I’d be posting videos of her feral children on Facebook. Is there a handy school group?

Call 101 and tell them that young children are in danger and out on the street alone. Simples!
Keep calling everyday, get others to call as well. They will have to come and have a word with her.
And to think that in the USA, parents can be arrested if they let their kids play alone in their FENCED back garden.
The parents need a wake up call.

Alternatively, I’d scoop up all 3 kids every time you see them unsupervised and bang on her door, hand them over with a very sarcastic ‘Here you go, Earth Mother’ Roll eyes, walk off. Every single fucking time.

A mate’s ex called SS on her saying the dc were playing unsupervised in the street. They weren’t but SS came round nonetheless.

And to think that in the USA, parents can be arrested if they let their kids play alone in their FENCED back garden. What!! To what age? My childhood would have been nowhere near such fun if I'd had parents hanging around all day. How can you pretend to be an intrepid explorer if your mum is in full view?

This is very upsetting. There's a big chance her children could have been killed doing the things you have seen!

@Maelstrop she would find some kind of excuse as to what bullshit reason she was being Mother Earth when that happened

Yesterday she was complaining society is the reason she's not happy being a size 18 and we should all feel x y and z and give up on our bodies

One of her in laws commented that if she exercised she would not feel this way and that he would spend 45 minutes a day doing circuits with her

She said she didn't have time as she was cooking from scratch with a two yo hanging off her and the others demanding juice, and had washing to do afterwards. I checked. The kids were outside running wild unsupervised. Again

It's irrelevant what she's posting online although the Facebook addiction is contributing to the neglect of the children.

Have you called social services? The school?

That's terrible parenting .my neighbour is same on fb all day while 2 kids in garden with the door closed on them .kid who's 2 climbs on things high up even fell once .some people have no idea ,know parenting and doing everything else is hard but neglecting kids like that is awful.

@MereDintofPandiculation

Here is an article;

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@Antigon I know it's irrelevant but it just makes it so much more frustrating when you know she's judging everyone else and being so nasty to people but won't keep her kids safe

It’s seems obvious to me that if I found a 2 year old alone outside with no parents that I’d call the police and ask them to attend urgently. You some need to make it known that you know who the child is or where it lives, just call 999 as a concerned citizen who’s found an abandoned baby (and to me aged 2 is still pretty much a baby).

Don't ever record the children then put it on social media fgs
Do they only have three walls? I'm curious as to how you see inside their home to know exactly what goes on.

Report to SS. Poor kids. How would you feel if one got hurt and you did nothing?

Report them to social services and unfriend on Facebook so you're not subject to her nonsense.

@BlancheM obviously they have four walls
They have large windows on two sides of the house with blinds always open
Yesterday I could see Mum sat at the table facing away from the window while the kids are all wild in the street. She was fb posting all day long

Hmm well I think it's safe to say you can't stand the woman and are a tad over invested, but I would definitely get in touch with SS over the safety concerns. It's sickening to think what could happen. My youngest is 2 and has no sense of danger yet, and would literally run out into roads or god knows where if he had his way :(

All the extra detail is just noise OP

I would call SS and explain these children are out between the hours of 7am and 10pm, give their ages and also explain what they're getting up to out there unsupervised

Buy why haven't you rung the police or social services, it's irrelevant what she's doing.

And you need to maybe try and disengage from your obsession over her Facebook activities

If you can't disengage then it will sound like a malicious call

@BlancheM I just needed a rant and a point in the right direction, wasn't sure if would be a waste of police /ss time.
I've genuinely just had enough of the summer holidays seeing it from morning til night

You say there’s no point reporting her as she is an “earth mother” who will talk her way out of it. How do you know if no one including yourself bothers to report that there are 3 small children including a toddler running around in the road unsupervised?

Tbh it seems like you enjoy bitching about her and don’t want to stop.