To be pissed off when people cross the road at a red light?

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Especially when you're standing there with your DCs waiting patiently for the light to go green, and your DCs are confused as to why some people cross the road on a red light?

No. I just tell my DC that we are going to wait for the green light to be safe. Job done.

If they can safely see the crossing is clear and make the call to cross then that’s their choice!

If I am with ds I wait, if I am alone and the road is empty I corsa

Cross not corsa!

@Sirzy

I don't know why, but when you said you corsa, I had an image of someone doing some funky dance routine on their way across the road! Makes no sense but there you go!

YABU it is not my job to teach your children road safety. When I am alone I use my judgement; with my DC we wait for the green light regardless of what others are doing.

What a strange thing to be upset at. If the road is clear, I cross it. All you have to do is tell your children they aren't old enough to make the decision on whether it is safe to cross or not

If we can't be trusted to cross the road when it's clear using our common sense, then when will we ever get to practise our common sense?

I think you are slightly U, OP. Traffic lights are on fixed timings so often show the red man when it is safe to cross. It isn't illegal in the UK to cross when the red man is showing. I am in my 40s, so have built up years of experience that enables me to judge when it is safe to cross. I don't feel it is my responsibility to educate others in road use.

As an adult I make my own decisions about the road. I sometimes even cross when there is no pedestrian crossing. Concentrate on educating your own child.

No. It's the parents job to teach their children road safety, not complete strangers. Like a PP, I would just explain (not in a loud PA way for the crossee to hear!) that it's OK for grownups to cross if they think it's safe to do so, but not children.

My kids accept that it is just one of those things that grownups can do, but children don't. We have one junction near us that takes FOREVER to turn to the pedestrian green man and DD (3) insists on waiting for it.

I often end up apologising to people who wait with us and of those who wait, easily 2/3rds wait for a bit, then get fed up and cross anyway.

But OP, adults have the experience to make a judgment call about when to cross. Children don't which is why they need to wait for a green man.

Your child your job to teach them road safety. Just tell DC grown ups can cross when they like (unless you're in my part of the USA where jaywalking is against the law) children must wait for the Green Man.

It's not their responsibility to teach your child. Do you wait for the green man every time you cross the road without children? What if there are no cars at all nearby? Do you still press the button?

You just use it as an opportunity to teach road safety. Not all roads have crossing points, and some cars run red lights anyway so it's essential to teach them to cross safely without a green light to guide them.

I'm always crossing at red man if there's no traffic. Why would I wait at an empty road? There's a roundabout here with loads of lights, and I know the sequence well enough to not use the lights on part of them. I'm not going to wait. My kids are old enough now to realise if it's safe to cross you don't have to wait.

My youngest got knocked over when crossing at green man so we all know it doesn't necessarily mean it's safe to cross if idiot drivers go through a red light.

OP are you saying that even if you don't have your children with you, you have a clear view of the road for a good distance and there is no traffic coming, you would wait for the green man?

Um, no.

I cross when it is safe to do so, green man or not.

YABU.
I'm an adult and I can work out when to cross the road.
If I'm in a hurry, on my own and the road is clear, of course I cross. Even if there's a parent there with kids. Sorry.....!

YABU, I'll cross when I think it's safe. Feel free to tell your kid I'm a naughty lady crossing without the green man though. I'm not here to teach other peoples' children how to cross the road.

It pisses me when people drive through on a green man / redlight. Don’t rely on the green man, check it is safe to do so.

It pisses me off too. You're there trying to tell your kids how important it is to wait and some tit legs it over the road.

Even pre-kids I didn't do that if there were kids around. Years of tufty club training you see.

You're children are not my responsibility. YABVU.

YABU

Traffic lights round here there is often still traffic going even when the green man has come on. You have to wait until they have cleared off by which time the green man has gone back off again. When am I supposed to cross?

Every day there are cars running red lights.

Zebra crossings are a liability with cars nearly mowing pedestrians down on a daily basis, one woman even overtook a car who had stopped to let someone cross and tried to drive over the crossing.

Teach your DC that car drivers are generally morons, they have not seen you and you can not trust that they will stop if you’re in the road even if you do have legal right of way. Teach them to cross when there is a big enough gap. Teach them to have their wits about them. Don’t expect other pedestrians to change what they are doing to teach your children how to cross a road.

*your ffs