To not want to do something incredibly dangerous.

[shelentei]

Out shopping with dd2 and newborn dd. Dp comes to pick us up but forgot newborn dd's car seat.

He wanted me to sit in the back and hold her in the way home. Obviously I said no it's not safe.

He's now calling me stupid and is really mad at me.

So am I being unreasonable to ignore dp.

My mum did this, then mocked me (and still brings it up, mocking me to my face about it 5 years later) when I refused to drive holding the baby because my step father wouldn't listen to me because he thought he knew better and rammed the seat the wrong way into the buggy holder then got it jammed trying to get it out and into the car. I'll do what's safest for my child.

I totally agree that the website could be clearer Fruit.

serbska Tue 21-Aug-18 14:37:39
I don't understand why it is OK in a taxi (legal) and not in your own car. One is not more safe than the other.

Or to take a newborn in a pram on a bus or train. What if they crashed/derailed?

I think lots of people are ridiculous about how good a driver they are. Firstly self-assessing yourself as a safe driver is meaningless, not having had any accidents yet is just not good enough and even if you were literally the most skilled driver in the history of man kind you still can't protect yourself from some idiot ploughing into you out of the blue.

I don't understand why it is OK in a taxi (legal) and not in your own car. One is not more safe than the other.

Because statistically people travel far more frequently in a domestic car than in a taxi so be allowing it in taxi's you allow a way for parents to transport their child on the rare occasions they need to take a taxi and a car seat is not available but you still massively increase road safety for infants.

As for buses and trams they have much higher mass (and hence momentum at a given speed) and therefore get the better of collisions. It isn't compulsory to where a seatbelt on a bus but is in a car.

It is low risk, but massively high consequences IF there is an accident.

It is not worth the, even small, risk of an accident when the consequence is serious injury or death and avoiding the risk is a 15 minute round trip to get a car seat.

It’s very scary when you can’t trust your partner to put your baby’s safety before their ego.

Ugh I had to take baby DS in taxis a few times for emergency trips with no car seat (hospital trips - no car and absolutely couldn’t wait until morning).

Heart was in my mouth every bloody time. Yanbu. No car seat is for dire emergencies only.

I know of a family that lost a child this way. There was an emergency stop and the full weight of the adult , 10 stone or whatever, slammed into the baby at 30mph.