Boys in the same bed

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I need to change DS9's bunk beds, I can't put the sheets on for either top or bottom bunk (bank and leg issues) and he never uses the top bunk.

I'm thinking about getting a double. There is room.

However, will boys on sleepovers here want to sleep in the same double bed as another boy? If not. At what sort of age does this stop? The girls I know are happy to do this, but I don't know any older boys to ask.

The alternative is a trundle bed.

So - is it ok to put boys in the same bed, and if not, what sort of age will they say that's not ok?

Get a decent single for him that'll see him through to adulthood, and a separate temporary bed for any sleepovers, something that can be packed away when not in use.

Got to say no don’t do it. Boys won’t want to share at this age. Mine wouldn’t.

If he’s 9 can’t you get him to change the sheets?

Mine stopped about 10? A trundle is a good idea. Or just a single mattress that you can slide under the double? We did that a few years ago and it’s been fine for sleepovers. And DS and his friends are now 17 so it’s not exactly sleepovers! I bought a cheap one from Argos.

If he's going into his teenage years I would probably get a double if I could afford it, and his friends can either share or sleep on the floor!

I’ve got these stackable beds for my DCs. They’re brilliant.
www.ikea.com/gb/en/products/beds/guest-beds-day-beds/utåker-stackable-bed-with-2-mattresses-pine-malfors-medium-firm-spr-09227834/

Dont do it. He will be teased rotten. Get a trundle

ikea have a 'day bed' can look like a sofa during the day single bed at night. and has a pull out to make a double, but as it pulls out may seem less like an actual double IYSWIM, also has dawers underneath. might be useful?

If he's going into his teenage years I would probably get a double if I could afford it, and his friends can either share or sleep on the floor!

I'm surprised at the amount of implied homophobia among teenage boys that is being suggested here, it's not my experience and shared many double beds during those years. You really shouldn't be optimising for sleepovers though, so I agree with the above advice.

All the boys I know would sleep in a double with their friends just like girls would, its better than sleeping on the floor surely.

With a double they can top and tail with sleeping bags for sleep overs , so they’d technically be “separate “ just on the same mattress.
But I think the better option is a good single and blow up or camp bed for sleepovers he’ll have more floor space when it’s not in use anyway and I’m thinking a single would be easier for you to dress?

RiddleMeThis2018 those are so cool! I want one

Get him a double if there is room. For the amount of times he’ll be having sleep overs versus amount of nights he’ll be on his own, better to set up for ‘him’.

Like a P.O. says friends can either choose to chafe or choose to sleep in the floor. Get a SIM and sleeping bag for sleepovers if they don’t want to share.

We got rid of ds bunk beds earlier this year, I was sick of struggling to change the bed clothes and ds kept banging his head on the top bunk.
We bought a good single bed from John Lewis with an expensive mattress, that will last him for years. For sleepovers we have an air bed with sleeping bag - works perfectly!

I don’t think I was ever given a proper bed when I went on sleepovers as a teenager. We used to take a sleeping bag and some kind of mat and sleep on the floor. It was fine and normally the friend would sleep on the floor with us too.

I wouldn’t be buying a specific bed especially for sleepovers, presumably they are only occasional things, much better to buy a decent bed for your dc and then deal with the sleepovers as they happen.

Some great ideas on here already that I hadn't thought of. Thank you !

Actually my 16 year old son has a double bed and a futon in his room. sometimes when a number of them sleep over they sleep 2 in the bed and 2 on the futon. They really don't care!

Ours still use bunks when home for holidays, friends fine with that. They've can make the bed themselves

All the teenager girls I know happily share doubles - sometimes three in at a time.

Do boys not happily do the same?

why can't your DS put the sheets on?

WTF is a 'trundle' - is it a futon? That would be my solution. Boys go through a brief Homo phase so I would ALWAYS go for the sleep apart option.
Unless you are a 'gender neutral everything is cool type' in which case why are you asking ?

An alternative is to tell him your problem and ask him, if he says double ask him if he likes sleeping with his mates and WORRY. He may be wise enough to say - no its for girlfriends in a few years and really freak you out !

Nothing is 100% wrong nor 100% right - try plumping for one and learning from the result if you have regrets.

Probably older teens would not be bothered, but younger ones may find it uncomfortable because they may be embarrassed . Just a spare mattress would suffice.

Get him a double bed and guests have a choice of top and tailing with DS or sleeping on an air mattress.

Boys go through a brief Homo phase so I would ALWAYS go for the sleep apart option.

What on earth does this mean?

I don’t think kids would even think of sleeping in the same bed as a pal a problem. I honestly think it is a throwover from older people and what used to be acceptable or not.

My kids (daughter and son) both have double beds and especially when my son was younger and had people over I’d sort mattress’s on the floor for the other kids and they would all end up in the bed.

They never even thought of it as an issue, which I think is fantastic.

Why don't you get him one of those double beds that unzips and becomes two singles? I had one of these until I left for uni! Fab!