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About my lodger snoring!

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snoopydogg · 19/08/2018 23:27

My lodger sleeps two floors below me and I can hear him snoring!

This happens a lot. Usually I will go down and bang on his door which is presumably enough to wake him up. Have already tried that and the snoring has just started again!

Is this enough of an offence to justify kicking him out?

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Userplusnumbers · 19/08/2018 23:29

Pretty much, you don't really have to give a reason to ask a lodger to leave.

Depending on how nice you're feeling, you could point him in the direction of the GP too as that is not normal and needs checking!

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snoopydogg · 19/08/2018 23:31

I have told him several times, he is overweight but he is also young so I don't think it's normal at all! I have even recorded it on my phone for him to hear. Occasionally sounds a bit like sleep apnoea?

That aside we generally get on well but it's getting on for midnight and I don't know if I can take much more!

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PavlovianLunge · 19/08/2018 23:53

He needs to either shell out for some anti-snoring aids, or move on. You can’t live like this long term, sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture for a reason.

I hope things improve for you.

cazzie24 · 19/08/2018 23:57

Could be sleep apnea if he's stopping breathing then making a loud snore, especially if overweight. Must be loud if 2 floors down! Does he feel tired upon waking. If so tell him to go to doctor. My dp was diagnosed and now wears a mask saved my sanity.

BackToTheFuschia7 · 19/08/2018 23:59

Yanbu. Your sleep is so important. If he won’t make changes you haven’t got much choice really.

longtimelurkingtrans · 20/08/2018 00:02

He can get anti snoring aids. I had the misfortune to share a cabin with a heavy snorer a few trips back, The snorer put in his mouth shield and not a peep from him after that.

StorminaTCut · 20/08/2018 00:04

Ask him to try a mouth shield and report back

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snoopydogg · 20/08/2018 00:09

It stopped and now it's started up again.

It is the occasional very loud snore but also just continuous snores. He is quite a nasal-y person and breathes loudly in the daytime.

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Thespidersankles · 20/08/2018 00:20

Acupuncture. I went to get my sinuses sorted as a last resort. Had tried everything 'conventional' medicine could offer to no avail. A pleasant side effect of clear sinuses was the cessation of snoring, much to DH's delight. Suggest it to your lodger on my say soGrin

BoomBoomsCousin · 20/08/2018 00:33

Yes, it's enough to terminate your agreement. It's not particularly nice for him either though, he won't be doing it on purpose. If he's young, is it likely he doesn't know that he should probably go to see the GP about it?

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 20/08/2018 00:38

Sleep deprivation is dangerous to your health, he needs to get treatment or leave, this will wear you out.

katielouise3 · 20/08/2018 00:52

No way do you hear him from 2 floors up.

BoomBoomsCousin · 20/08/2018 01:00

Ooh Katie what's really going? Do tell us with your fantastic, superior knowledge about what happens in the house of someone on the Internet who you've never even met.

Jozxyqk · 20/08/2018 01:04

Why not, Katie? I could hear my father from the front garden sometimes, if I got home late. My parents' bedroom was at the back of the house...

AtSea1979 · 20/08/2018 01:10

He clearly needs to lose the weight. I think it’s a good enough reason to ask him to go. I guess it depends how much you need his money.

LoniceraJaponica · 20/08/2018 01:12

Can't you ask him to see his GP first?

Rebecca36 · 20/08/2018 01:46

There are snoring solutions which can be bought over the counter at the chemist. My husband has a spray, he sprays on the back of his tongue before settling down for the night. It works! Also means he gets a better night's sleep.

Snoring can be indicative of health problems but tbh a lot of healthy people do snore. I do if I have a blocked nose with hay fever or cold and use one of those Vick things which I snort.

Of course you can ask him to leave, it's your right but if he is otherwise a decent sort of lodger, a couple of suggestions might be kinder.

Pengggwn · 20/08/2018 06:28

If my landlady banged on my door to wake me up in the middle of the night every time I fell asleep I would be leaving anyway, so keep that up and I'm sure the problem will resolve itself. How horrible.

NashvilleQueen · 20/08/2018 06:40

Although I’m very sympathetic to how awful sleep deprivation is, if he’s a good lodger in all other respects I’d just buy some ear plugs. You may replace him with someone much worse.

I detect though that you don’t particularly care for him anyway. If you did you would probably have mentioned it to him nicely rather than traipsing up and downstairs in the night to bang on his door.

sexnotgender · 20/08/2018 06:40

I can fully believe you can hear him!

Have you tried listening to white noise? I think it would really help.

SmartyPants0 · 20/08/2018 06:47

I used to ring my lodger when he snored, that worked ... have you got his number? Funny thing was that he said I was the only person that ever said he snored 🤔

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snoopydogg · 20/08/2018 07:02

I have mentioned it to him but if he refuses to see his gp (which he does) then what else can I do? I don't think that banging on the door is any different to living with a partner and waking them up if they snore.

I'm not a big fan of earplugs... they make me feel concerned that I wouldn't hear my smoke alarm or my alarm clock!

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Pengggwn · 20/08/2018 07:08

He isn't your partner. Banging on the door of someone who has to be polite to you and who you can ask to leave at any point is awful behaviour. He can't tell you to fuck off, which he will undoubtedly want to, without making himself homeless. Get some ear plugs, have an adult conversation and stop being so nasty!

NotNachoing · 20/08/2018 07:15

I think you need another honest discussion with him about it. But very honest and very clear. Say that you need to sleep to, it's disturbing you (you don't bang on his door for no reason - does he even realise you do? Some snorers just change positions and forget anything happened the next day) and you don't want to be unkind but he's making far more noise when he's asleep than when he's awake. So while your preference is for him to stay, you need to sleep so either he finds a solution in the next two weeks or you'll need him to leave.

Mummyoflittledragon · 20/08/2018 07:16

If he doesn’t want to solve this, serve him notice, surely? I imagine you will find another lodger.

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