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Thinking of turning down DH suggestion

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Clare98 · 19/08/2018 13:18

It’s our tenth wedding anniversary next week and DH has suggested I wear my wedding dress for a celebration meal - at home. Nice idea but I’m not sure. He had a real problem getting me out of the dress after our wedding and I suspect I’ve put a bit of weight on since then. The dress has to come off over my head so there’s a fair chance I’m going to finish up totally stuck. Could be fun.but could be embarrassing.

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Oldraver · 19/08/2018 14:34

I would ask him to wear it ...

DextroDependant · 19/08/2018 14:39

That is a weird request. Can he not tell that you have changed shape over he last 10 years.
Was it meant as a strange awkward compliment as in you still look as amazing to him now as you did on your wedding day?

mumsastudent · 19/08/2018 14:40

strikes me this is an excuse for a new dress :)

MrsMint · 19/08/2018 14:51

Is nobody else finding that request really, really weird?!

No; It is a little unusual, but it sounds like its something he has been thinking about and to him feels like a romantic gesture. Why not indulge him? It's going to be at home and just for one meal; its not as though it's in public!

GinandGingerBeer · 19/08/2018 14:52

Ha! I put mine on as a bit of a "surprise" for DH when he got home from work on out tenth anniversary.
It was a squeeze, the kids had to help me fasten it up.
Anyway I'd misunderstood what time he'd be back and spent 4 hours in it as I couldn't get it off on my own! Ended up cleaning the kitchen in it Grin

Deadringer · 19/08/2018 15:00

I think it's weird.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 19/08/2018 15:09

Ginandgingerbeer* 😂😂😁😂

Pengggwn · 19/08/2018 15:10

Not a chance in hell would I sit there in my wedding dress at my dining table. Confused

TheMaddHugger · 19/08/2018 15:25

Unbelievable

TheMaddHugger · 19/08/2018 15:26

GinandGingerBeer Grin

sonjadog · 19/08/2018 15:27

Try it on and see if it fits. Then make the decision. I think it could be quite fun to do.

pictish · 19/08/2018 15:51

It’s unusual sure, but not weird in the twisted sense that some people seem to be portraying it as. It’s a sweet thought!

OP I probably wouldn’t want to do it but his sentiment seems cute...like visiting the bar where you met or going to restaurant you had your first date in...I suppose he was thinking of it like that, reliving happy memories...even if he’s a little off the mark.

SoozC · 19/08/2018 16:12

It's not weird to put it on again for an anniversary, but a bit odd to wear it to dinner imo. Clearly your DH doesn't understand just how complicated they can be!

I was going to put mine on again on our first anniversary, just for the chance to wear it again, but am currently pregnant and it won't fit! Next year I will, though!

Deadringer · 19/08/2018 16:20

I don't think it's weird for you to wear it for your anniversary, for fun, or to see if it fits or whatever, but I do think it's weird for your dh to ask you to wear it.

pictish · 19/08/2018 16:24

“I do think it's weird for your dh to ask you to wear it.”

Can you explain why?

Deadringer · 19/08/2018 16:37

Pictish I don't know but I will try. I guess a woman is invested in her wedding dress, she plans it, shops around, trys it on, gets opinions, it's a pretty big deal to a lot of women, they also often cost a lot of money, and maybe she might want to wear it again because of said reasons. I mean I wouldn't, but maybe some would and I get that. But her dh wouldn't have the same investment in it. I am sure he thought she looked lovely in it 10 years ago, but that's it. I really think it's odd of him to ask and some pp think so too so not an outlandish opinion it would seem.

pictish · 19/08/2018 17:47

“I am sure he thought she looked lovely in it 10 years ago, but that's it.“

That’s it? The happiest day of his life in theory, watching the woman he loves come down the aisle to marry him in that dress...but who gives a shit what he thought eh? He might as well not have been there for all he mattered in the proceedings compared to the dress. His memories are of no import at all.
You’re sure he thought she looked lovely in it but that’s it.

Aye ok then. Hmm

pictish · 19/08/2018 17:49

And to conclude, no...it’s not ‘weird’ that he would like to see her wear it again. What’s weird is your take on weddings and you thinking it’s weird.

Deadringer · 19/08/2018 20:05

Ok then Hmm

teaandtoast · 19/08/2018 20:21

Has he arranged for other people to come round for a party to celebrate? Confused

pictish · 20/08/2018 06:43

Sorry Deadringer actually didn’t mean to sound so salty.

Just think people here are very quick to heap scorn on a sweet sentiment and make it something sinister. I think it’s nice that he wants to see her in her dress again after all these years.

pictish · 20/08/2018 06:44

Apologies for focusing that on you. X

topcat2014 · 20/08/2018 06:49

It seems weird to me - assuming it is not just going to be five minutes of having a laugh..

To me, everyone always looks young in wedding photos.

I would look more like father of the bride these days - notwithstanding that I don't expect that to actually happen for at least 15 years.

You should always look forward not back ;)

stressedoutpa · 20/08/2018 06:53

Taupe suit with lace camisole under the jacket, natural stockings or tights and nude high heels - gorgeous, and perfect to wear in a smart restaurant for lunch or dinner.

You'd look like mother of the bride.... Confused

TomPinch · 20/08/2018 06:56

It's no more weird than having an extremely expensive dress that you only ever wear once....