To think my friend is lying too me ..or am I too suspicious?

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My friend owes me £50.
She told me she couldn't afford to pay me.
Last night she said a guy was coming to hers who she's dating.
Two of her friends were having a night out but she told me she couldn't go as she was skint.

She rang me last night at 8 pm saying this guy was at work till 10pm so she might pop to a friends house (she would never tell me that,then she kept saying but I'm not going out with my other friends as I'm skint)

Now I have one of her particular friends on snap chat (and she Snapchat's so much )
Last night tho no Snapchat's on her story(didn't think anything of it till today )
Now this particular friend has just uploaded pics of the night out to Facebook and the pics were of her snapchat story ..(now I didn't see that and on my Snapchat story she hasn't uploaded )

So basically my friends friend has blocked me last night so I couldn't see her story (only reason is because my friend was out with them and didn't want me to know as she owes me cash and saying she's skint)

A hour ago my friend rang saying her and her date watched a scary movie last night ..yet she didn't know what it was called or what it was about..then said the guy wasn't employed at the minute (yet told me he was at work)

Il put it out there I couldn't give a damn if she goes out or not ..but the fact she's clearly gone out then got her friend to block me ...then lied about it.
Do you think I'm right?

TLDR

It all sounds a bit childish.
Have you asked when she’s expected not to be skint? Is she working at the moment?

She said she will pay me in October which is fine by me.
I wouldn't have cared if she went out ..I agreed October was fine ..it's the fact she's did all that just so I wouldn't find it.
It's ridiculous.
Feel like saying just keep the money.

Doesn’t sound great! Takes your money & then makes up a story. I would be put out too.

October! That's months away!

With it being 6 weeks hols and back to school apparently couldn't afford it and I'm not waiting for it so I said it's ok...now I'm annoyed that she's taking me for a fool.

Why so long? Can’t she pay you 25 this month and 25 next?
Whatever happens, never ever lend her money again

Bills etc apparently are due this month and next.
Do you think I'm being too suspicious?
I can't even ask either as I don't want to look crazy

All the calls seem weird, like she’s overly trying to justify herself which looks a bit suspicious.
The problem is..I don’t think you can prove it either way! And questioning her might affect your friendship in the long run (unless you aren’t bothered).
I would maybe let it go this time. You’ve agreed October and that’s fine. But there’s 6 weeks before October - maybe see if she trips herself up before then!
Just don’t let her wriggle out of it again then.

I would be upset and angry at the lies. And the need to involve other people in it.

She obviously feels guilty that she went out when she still owed you money. But if you agreed October then she can do what she likes with her money as long as she pays you back in time. Sounds like you feel the same.

Money can cause fall outs among friends. I'd think twice before I lent her money again.

The fact she said he was at work and then today he was unemployed.
Tripped herself up a few times.
If anything I'm embarrassed that she's got her friend to block me,she's meant to be one of my best friends.

Bills are due every month. And, they’re pretty predictable given they’re based on what you use/spend.

Has anyone designed a YAWN emoji?

Liars in general tend to over elaborate when it isn't necessary to make their story more convincing. Tell her you know she's a lying cockjizz and you want your money back NOW. Don't be anybodys mug in future.

Ask politely for the money back in instalments. She won't pay you anyway. Then she'll be avoiding you, so no need to drop her.

I think its obvious she went out and lied to you.

The fact that shes gone to such lengths to lie to you would really bother me. I cant stand liars and she even has mutual friends lying to you too. Probably had a good laugh when they were blocking you from Snapchat.

Shes clearly a snake and not a friend. 2 options here 1) say nothing or 2) let her know what a conniving bitch you think she is.

Whatever you do, you cant trust her. At least now you know where you stand with her.

Don’t ever give her any money again or lend to others. Recipe for disaster. I’d keep pestering her for the money until she gives it all back. And then give her the cold shoulder. Find it hard to believe she’s your best friend if she’s getting her other friend to block you just so you don’t find out she went out.

I think it's pathetic tbh.
I actually liked one of her friends and thought she was a nice person.
My judgement is shocking.

Make sure she pays you back on the agreed date.

Cool down the friendship a little - yes, I think she has taken advantage of you somewhat and sees you as the cashpoint rather than a friend. (Sorry).

She won't have any "spare cash" to give you in October, will she? What with Christmas around the corner, and going out?

I would contact her (phone or face to face to face - not flippin' texts) and say you want the money by the 1st September. See what other lies she can come up with.

'Neither a borrower nor a lender be' was one of my gran's sayings. Only causes grief.

You could always send her a message saying she looked really well, in the photos off her, on her night out and you hope she had a brilliant night. 😉 See how she responds. She might think you’ve somehow found out she was out and admit it or totally deny she was out. If it’s the latter and you think she’s genuine, then the message wasn’t meant for her, was it? 😁

They do not sound like they are your friend.
I am sorry they are deceiving you.

Is it possible she already had something planned and she factored this in when asking to pay in October/it was a special occasion and she wasn't drinking/one of the others was buying her drinks and she will pay them back, and she felt embarrassed that you would think she was spending money instead of paying you back and so tried to hide to avoid the problem? I know she could have told you, but people don't always think things through very well. If she's always been a good friend, I would be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt until October when you've agreed she can pay. If the money is not forthcoming then I would be angry.

Based on how everyone seems to judge how you spend your every penny when you owe them money, it's no surprise she doesn't want you to know what she's up to. It's certainly rude to block you out and silly to lie, especially as she sounds she's making a right pig's ear of keeping her story straight...
As PPs have said, who's to say last night was self funded..
She says she will pay you back in October. If you wish you can say her secrecy makes you doubt she will pay you back when she has said. Advise you don't care what she gets up, but don't like being lied to. Her reaction to this will probably help you work out if she'll pay you back at all.