To cry a little that DS is growing up?

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I'm sitting here after my hair wash, in my turban, looking like a rather upset plonker.

My baby is growing up.

I was just having a browse through Matalan Christmas Shop and saw a little plate that says 'My Christmas feast', with little sections etc so meant for babies and small children.

I suddenly started crying at the thought that one day, my baby would no longer need/require anything like that. He will be like everyone else with a normal plate.

And I will look back and hold that plate, thinking of times when he was so tiny

I will look and go, "Ahh, we can't fit your feast on there now, can we my love?" And it'll be all bitter sweet and I will feel a deep sense of sadness.

He's 8 months old and I already think he has the most contented and funny little character. I don't think I've ever adored something/anyone so much. I would do anything for this little boy.

I feel like he's been a baby for only a matter of months. My friend insists he's a toddler now because he can walk, and toddlers 'toddle' so he's a toddler. I had to leave the room and have a little moment to myself

Apologies for my completely unreasonable post. I'm just feeling really emotionally and DH thinks I need to distance myself and looks very at me

He's a teeny baby. Toddler my arse. Enjoy every second.

Your friend is a weirdo, 8 months isn’t a toddler!! He’s a year away from being a toddler!

Thank you

I had a google and people seem to be in agreement quite frequently that 'toddlers are when babies start walking'

Is there any possibility you might be pregnant?

They're supposed to grow up, you know. That's rather the point.

Not quite the same but DD is two and a half now, and when I watch her play or she's telling me all about her day at nursery I sometimes get pangs where I think, shit, where did my baby go and how are you a little girl already?!

Then at bed time when she grabs her bunny and dummy, cuddles in and announces "mummy, I'm a big girl but still your baby" it makes me realise that actually, she is still a baby really, even though she's not in squishy babygrows anymore.

What I'm trying to say is don't worry about it, he'll always be your baby no matter how big he physically gets

I remember the feeling that I might be experiencing the best part of my life while my dc were babies.

They are 7 and 5 now and you have no idea how much fun we have! There is so much good stuff to come - finding a best friend, winning at sports day, being in the nativity at Christmas, the first time the stand up for a friend. Seeing them develop into wonderful small people.

Life changes, but it isn't all bad.

My eldest is 13. He just came in to ask for a cuddle as he can't sleep. Your dc is still tiny. Watching them grow is a wonder and fills you with pride, but they will always be your baby, even when they tower over you and are awake when you go to bed. Enjoy your baby

I briefly felt like this to the extent I literally sobbed the day before and the day of my DS’s first birthday. But now my DC are growing up, I actually prefer them . They can be interesting company and they’re fun to talk to. They also sleep, don’t wear nappies and can dress and feed themselves. It’s brilliant.

I'm tearing up reading your lovely examples of you DC and their cuteness at different stages

Do you think I'm in with a chance of a 20+ something DS asking for a cuddle? I never want this to end.

It does feel like his babyhood is the best part of my life. He smells wonderful, he looks the cutest, he's yummy and tiny. Even at 8 months he's in 0-3 so people seem quite shocked when I let him down on the floor!

YerAunt No, I miscarried a 9 weeker yesterday evening. But lots of pregnancy hormones still present, I suppose

I remember thinking like this a ew times when DD was small. But now she is at school and it’s all so much fun. Can share a joke and have a proper laugh together, donso much more fun stuff. No longer a skate to naps and formula and food scheduled and bed time. No meltdowns if she is over tired. So much fun, so enjoy your little one while you can, but rest assured you have so much fun ahead.

My eldest baby is 26yo. His hugs are legendary and his deep voice telling me he loves me makes me almost burst with happiness. I know the feelings you are having, that time's passing too quickly. Remember when he was tiny, enjoy him now and know that in the future he will still be your wonderful son.

My boy is 15 months this month and I get so emotional over how much he is a big boy now😪 it feels like his baby years have flown by and I miss every second (apart from no sleep). I think it's so normal to feel like this, I totally get it. My boy has such a wonderful character, he's funny, crazy, loveable and dramatic 😍

Oh god you’re going to start me off 😭 DS is 2 in just over 2 weeks and he’s going to be starting Nursery at around the same time. Just thinking about how much he’s going to learn and imagining him telling me all about his day on the way home has me so emotional!! He’s also at the stage where he can climb out of his cot so will be going into his big boy bed at the weekend...god dammit why do they have to grow up so quickly?!

I've got a 9 year old toddler..... I'd love to see him enjoy things past pre-school toys, TV etc.....enjoy the progression and soak up all the memories!!!
Children grow and learn! We

Aw YANBU
And sorry for your loss

I’m an emotional wreck since I had DS! You just can’t imagine loving them any more than you already do, but you do love them even more every day (as cliched as that sounds).

Today I got all emotional because his keyworker at nursery told me he’s ready to move from the baby room to the toddler room, despite knowing I’m being utterly ridiculous I couldn’t help it! Gawd knows what I’m going to be like when he starts school!

What lovely stories☺️☺️
I'm 47 and love hugging my mum! DS will be 14 next month and we cuddle lots so OP, you have much to look forward to. Enjoy your little person.
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Loved the baby stage but you have so much to look forward to! My lo really is a toddler now and can tell me he loves me and wants a cuddle and its heart melting! Every stage is lovely so try not to fret and enjoy your baby (definitely not a toddler!).

If it's any help my 18yo DD just totally squashed me by climbing on the settee next to me and hugging me!

8 months is still a baby and it's a perfect age. As is 18 months and 3 years and 6 years and all the other years. Enjoy it all x

My first baby is 13 in November. His voice is breaking, he has pubes,he is nearly taller than me and has bigger feet. I swear he was a baby 2 minutes ago.

But he is lovely, funny, happy and I am so so proud of him.

It does change but not always for the worse.

I think wistfully of DS as a baby, toddler, preschooler. He’ll be 10 next month, and he is turning into such a nice boy. We’ve certainly had our ups and downs with him, he’s never been easy, and always been short tempered, but this summer he’s really calmed down, grown up. I wonder where the toddler went when I see him walking across a cricket pitch in his whites. Or see the little boy at the library “rhyme time” even he’s practising his guitar. And how can he dive in the deep end of the pool and swim lengths already - it was only 2 minutes ago that he was in the paddling pool. It seems like it was only about a fortnight ago that he was born, and yet a lifetime ago - his lifetime ago. He’ll be an adult in less thanthat time again, but I am beginning to see who that person will be, and I am very much looking forward to meeting him.

OP we've still got both DD"s little Christmas bowls....bunnykins ones. And they use them still! They're 14 and 10.

☺️ Aww, a Christmas plate is such a sweet thing to get teary over.

My firstborn starts school in a few weeks. It seems no time at all that she was a baby! I shed a few tears in M&S cafe the other week after buying her school socks, and a really lovely lady gave me a hug.

Your friends is nuts though! 8 months is a baby, definitely not a toddler.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage

An 8 month old who walks, though?! And is in 0-3 month clothes?!

I have three 20 something sons and they give the best cuddles

There's nothing nicer than being wrapped up in a great big bear hug by your lovely son who towers over you, and is giving his old mum a cuddle just because he wants to.