To cry a little that DS is growing up?

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I'm sitting here after my hair wash, in my turban, looking like a rather upset plonker.

My baby is growing up.

I was just having a browse through Matalan Christmas Shop and saw a little plate that says 'My Christmas feast', with little sections etc so meant for babies and small children.

I suddenly started crying at the thought that one day, my baby would no longer need/require anything like that. He will be like everyone else with a normal plate.

And I will look back and hold that plate, thinking of times when he was so tiny

I will look and go, "Ahh, we can't fit your feast on there now, can we my love?" And it'll be all bitter sweet and I will feel a deep sense of sadness.

He's 8 months old and I already think he has the most contented and funny little character. I don't think I've ever adored something/anyone so much. I would do anything for this little boy.

I feel like he's been a baby for only a matter of months. My friend insists he's a toddler now because he can walk, and toddlers 'toddle' so he's a toddler. I had to leave the room and have a little moment to myself

Apologies for my completely unreasonable post. I'm just feeling really emotionally and DH thinks I need to distance myself and looks very at me

He will grow up, and it will be fine. You can enjoy him as a baby and then enjoy him.as a toddler, as a preschooler, as a schoolchild. Every stage is better than the one before.

Then they become teenagers and its a bit shit . Your beautiful baby will be snarling that he hates you and you've ruined his life, or he'll simply grunt. Then that stage will pass and it will.be fine again.

My beautiful bany boy is now 22.He doesn't climb into bed for cuddles with me and I suspect I'm no longer the most importantbwoman in his life. But he texts me to ask if I want to go to the cinema with him, and earlier this year we went abroad for a long weekend together and drank in the bats, went to museums and had a lovely time.

I loved my son as a baby and I love him now as an adult. Make the most of each and every stage.

And your friend's talking bollocks. He's not a toddler if he's only 18 months.

sorry too about your MC OP. Thats tough. I've had 2 and they are not fun.

FWIW DS2 walked at 9 months although was not in 0-3 m/o clothes

Also they keep their baby plates faaaar longer than you might expect them to. DS1 who is nearly 13 still uses his Charlie and Lola cereal bowl

Ohhh... Bless you, OP. And I am sorry for your loss, too.

Never mind this toddler stuff: your lovely LO is still a baby. Mine are teenagers, and are quite foul - though I could have written your post when they were babies/toddlers. In fact, your post reminded me of how adorable they were, so thank you for that.

My oldest (nearly 17) was cross with me the other night when I kissed him goodnight (in a top-of-the-head, maternal kind of way), on the grounds that my hair was really annoying, and that he is gay in order to avoid Girly Hair encounters...

I am struggling with this at the moment. My baby girl, my PFB, starts school in September and 2 weeks later my baby boy is 1. I keep getting really emotional about it and my DH doesn't understand why. It doesn't help that my DD was independent but my boy seems even more so and looks more like an 18 month old than an 11 month old. My DD seems to look more grown up everyday. 😭

Really sorry to hear about your mc.
My DS is 18. He got his A level results today and will be off to university in less than 6 weeks. He still wants cuddles, he had a fair few today, he may now be an adult, and we may now relate as adults and not just parent/ child, but he is still my baby, still my boy, still my beloved son, and always will be. Tiny babies and toddlers are just brilliant, but oh my, adult children are utterly great too.

I feel like he's been a baby for only a matter of months. he has, he's 8 months old! He will be your baby for the rest of your life anyway,

So sorry to hear about you miscarriage, your hormones must be all over the place! You have a very special baby, I've never heard of a baby who walks at 8 months and still in 0-3 clothes as well. /he must be so tiny! Definitely still a baby.Toddlers are babies who are walking, the categories overlap imo.

My youngest is just 13, nearly taller than me, and gives wonderful hugs too. I sometimes find myself remembering when I'd tickle him as a baby because he could always make me laugh - well, nowadays he has the most wonderful sense of humour. He'll always be my little boy somewhere even when he's 6'3" or something (which won't be long I suspect!).

What a beautiful post this is with all of your lovely experience included

Haha, yes. He is indeed still in 0-3. Some 3-6 but most of it is too baggy and long. He looks like a newborn walking at times. My DH is 6'3!

Thank you all so much, it's so bitter sweet. I will definitely need a sponsorship with a tissue company on DS's wedding day

Just love him. Best thing I've ever done, best person in the whole world to me. I never knew I'd love someone like I do now.

I cannot believe I had horrendous thoughts of never wanting him during my pregnancy. As soon as he was born, I begged for he to be placed with me ASAP and I just sobbed out of pure joy for him (HG sickness is a bitch)

I'll be going to bed incredibly happy and looking forward to an exciting future

So sorry bout your mc sending hugs xxxxxmy eldest starts a new school in Sept and youngest starts school for 1st time. I was so emotional in July atm I'm ok but come Sept it'll be me clinging to the school gates and crying not the kids

My dc are 10 and 6 and I've loved every stage. Growing up is amazing. I'm slightly affected by the face my sister died when she was 12 weeks old so growing up is a positive thing in my brain. Each new stage I've been ready for.

Escape, I will be handing my first-born over to anyone who will have him, without a single tear .

That aside, I love my DC so much that it hurts. It's hard to describe how it changes and yet remains the same when they are older. When mine were small, I was umbilically attached to them for years after their births. I was with them all for every waking minute until they went to school, and could tell by the smell of them or the way they were breathing that there was something not quite right with them, sometimes a good few hours before it became clear that they were not well. They were my entire universe.

Things do change, and the challenges are different, but you still love them just as much.

That said, if I could swap lives with anyone, I'd swap with myself when my DC were all toddlers.

I recall taking our son to Uni at 19 and thinking that we had lost him.

These days he always comes back for family celebrations and our daughter who is 5 years younger, still lives at home with us. We have fab nights in playing family games of scrabble, just as if they were still kids.

Enjoy every minute with your children when they are young and give them the best possible start in life that you can manage. It pays off in terms of the relationships that you will enjoy as they mature.