AIBU to lose my sh*t at her??

[StressedMumOfTwo29]

So long story my DS had a bad accident last week lucky he was un hurt I told a few close friends as I thought I could trust them. Didn't go into to much detail as I wasn't sure what was going on.
So get home after a few nights stay in hospital. To get a phone call from my boss saying I'm really sorry to hear what happened to your DS turns out the mum I thought was a friend had gone into my work and told everyone what happened including a mum I don't get a long with the judgement my sht don't stink kind of mum. So I lost my sht at her for opening her mouth and telling people before I wanted to she doesn't think she has done anything wrong as people where going to find out anyway. I get that but isn't it mine and DH choice who and when we tell other??
Am AIBU

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Your guilty is making you focus blame on her. Gossiping isn’t nice but word was going to get around. I get you are stressed but losing your temper at her isn’t helping.

These things happen. It does not make you a bad parent at all. Poor you and your poor little boy. I hope you both get over this upset soon.

There is absolutely no reason for anyone to judge you. Please don’t feel you have to be secretive about it - if anything it will just make people think there was more to thbe story.

So what if some stupid judgy mum gossips. Who know what is round the corner for her. Keep your head held high and be confident in your parenting - that the best way to deal with this type. They sense insecurity - don’t show any and she will move on.

Just remembered one of my friends from school fell out an upstairs window when she was three. We all still laugh with her mum about it. Poor woman nearly had heart failure!! No one thinks Mrs P is a bad mum - it’s just one of many funny stories from our childhood.

I left 4 week old ds at the side of the road in his car seat and drove off
It's only by the grace of god it's a dead end road and I had to go to end, round the roundabout and back again and saw him there.

We've all had parenting fails. People that judge you for them - well it says more about them than you.

If they’re going to judge you more fool them. I do understand why you may feel culpable and I get that stories get very twisted. However, I don’t think your friend did anything wrong unless she went there specifically with the intention to gossip. Did you ask her not to say anything? If you did that makes a lot of difference to the answers you’re getting here.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. You asked her not to say anything and it sounds like she couldn't wait to tell people! Gossipy witch. Hope you're both okay now

The baby at the side of the road is even better! Most people just think how easily that could happen🤣

No doubt that poor kid will be sick of hearing that story by the time he is 18.

To be upset at this person blurting your business out? YANBU. I'm of the firm opinion that the whys and wherefores of someone else's life are their own business to share or not share. Unless I'm told otherwise I don't tell anyone much of anything about someone else. So yes, this person was out of line to tell the circumstances of your son's accident. I'd feel the same way if he'd simply fallen off a bike or been hit by a ball.

To 'lose your shit'? YABU. You rarely accomplish your goal by losing your shit, which is to make someone understand why you're angry. Much better to calmly and sternly tell them you are angry and why.

I think you had some guilt at not being the perfect patent, and fuck knows we've all been there

Be a bit kinder to yourself, everything worked out in the end, take a deep breath, yes they were out of line, but move on now thankfully your d's is ok

My d's fell out of his older brothers bunk bed at a very young age, I was in the.room, folding something up, eyes away for a nano second - it happens

Seeing as you directly told her not to say anything then yanbu. I'd just not trust her anymore. Pees me off when people do this. In a few years time you'll laugh about the time he "nosedived out of the window" but it's too raw at the moment. He's ok do don't beat yourself up OP. As for the judgy mum her day will come no ones perfect maybe she's just not been caught out yet!

I'm sorry this happened to you and your son, what a terrible shock for you both.
If it were me, I'd honestly just tell people the truth, including how awful I feel that it happened. There will be many Mums that come back at you with stories of how they've had accidents too. You are not alone.
Please don't waste your energy on secrets and arguments.
The Mum that shared your news made a bad judgment, but I don't think she deserves anymore of a telling off than you've already given her.

Dolly what's worse is I usually left car seat in car but I'd gone out with a friend day before and so attached the car seat to the buggy and wheeled him down that way.
I remembered to put the pushchair in the car

Bit more info makes this more understandable. But like everyone else says, we've all been there. I've got a dd with autism and adhd and a thing for climbing. Pulled her in off more windowsills and roofs than I can keep count of. Got safety locks but life happens.

You're probably really shaken up - it's so scary. Which is probably why you lost it. But it's not worth it.

.He's fine. You're fine.

YABU. I doubt she did it for badness but can understand why you'd be upset. Hope ds is ok

I don't think I'd ever forgive her properly. You've learnt a lesson from this, she isn't a good friend of yours

Don’t bat yourself up about it- accidents happen and you have had a terrible shock.

Your friend probably didn’t mean anything malicious.

Hope you and your son feel better soon.