AIBU to lose my sh*t at her??

[StressedMumOfTwo29]

So long story my DS had a bad accident last week lucky he was un hurt I told a few close friends as I thought I could trust them. Didn't go into to much detail as I wasn't sure what was going on.
So get home after a few nights stay in hospital. To get a phone call from my boss saying I'm really sorry to hear what happened to your DS turns out the mum I thought was a friend had gone into my work and told everyone what happened including a mum I don't get a long with the judgement my sht don't stink kind of mum. So I lost my sht at her for opening her mouth and telling people before I wanted to she doesn't think she has done anything wrong as people where going to find out anyway. I get that but isn't it mine and DH choice who and when we tell other??
Am AIBU

I wonder if it was a suocide attempt? Hence the desire for secrecy?

So your son had a bad accident but wasn't hurt but still ended up in hospital for a few nights? And then you told someone who told other people and you are very cross?

I can't imagine what kind of bad accident could leave a child completely unhurt but required to stay a few days in hospital either.

You are one seriously weird person to get upset about that. I can only assume you had after effects from the shock.

Was the accident caused by something you did and are embarrassed?

Unfortunately when you put information out there you have no control over it anymore.

Glad your ds is ok.

Seriously?

Why did he spend days in hospital if he wasn’t injured?

And yes, you have over reacted.

Well I do think that it was odd for her to go into Op's workplace to tell people about it-unless she also works there.

Surely that would be up to Op to do-unless she asked someone else to do it.

Wouldn't your boss know? Presumably you've had to take time off?

There's so much missing information here..

What hospital in the UK lets unhurt people stay ‘for a few nights’? Or did you actually mean ‘hotel?

It's very subjective, in most cases I would say it was an overreaction however, in cases such as suicide attempt/drug overdose I would completely understand op's reaction

A very confusing story. I can understand why people would discuss an incident which left a child in hospital - and I imagine they were simply concerned. If you said it was a secret his might have increased their concern. You have us all intrigued and/or concerned!

Does she work with you or just randomly pop into your work?

Without the detail of the accident and why she was in your work, it's impossible to tell whether your anger was justified. It's obviously been a stressful time for you and that may be making you more sensitive than usual

Ok.

Maybe let's start again? You are clearly in shock from the accident and stressed after a few days in hospital and it's showing.

But that is overshadowing the actual support you need.

So ds has an accident that required a hospital stay?
You told work you were off with ds but not the details of what happened?
You told some close friends and asked for it to be kept confidential? Or at least the details?
One of these friends told your boss the details and in the process a Mum who's judged you harshly in the last found out?

And you reacted badly out of anger and frustration and the feeling of being judged?

IF I'm correct then you aren't being unreasonable for being cross at the breach of your confidence.

However sounds like you were unreasonable in your reaction to this and will need to find a way to solve this calmly.

I hope your ds is better

I am guessing your child is in hospital because of some freak chain-saw incident that could potentially cause others to question as a parent? Or your child had an accident, it happens. People are showing concern and care about you.

I'd gone to the loo my little boy had opened the window slipped and fell out so yes I do feel bad about it and I said please don't tell anyone just yet as I feel like a bad mum it was accident but I still feel bad had to stay in hospital just incase he became I'll over night cos of the shock. She doesn't really know my boss I had phoned him and said DS has had an accident and will have to stay over night so won't be able to come to work but cos I was so worked up about it I didn't explain. And he didn't ask so I said I would phone him in a few days she went in there and said did u hear what happens to blah blah and told everyone I get people would find out but when I feel so guilty about it I wanted to do it at my own term surely if this happened to anyone else you would want it to be on your terms. But when I asked her not to say anything she said she wouldn't

And yes I do have child locks on the windows but where he has slipped they broke and he fell please note they are fixed and are better

@youarenotkiddingme

Yes everything you have said

Apparently she just popped in to by something but all work staff said she just came out with it

Judgemental mum is from school

You are not unreasonable and have my full sympathy. What an awful experience and shit friend

Why was it a secret? Sounds very immature.

I think actually you’re upset your son had an accident that may have been avoidable and you’re embarrassed and worried people will judge you.

That’s silly in the first place if I’m rigth as the sister of two brothers they do crazy batshit stuff when a parent is their anyway!

Calm down and get some sleep OP I think you’re frazzled and your judgements gone.

Well that explains why you reacted so badly.

But believe me - you are not the first parent to need to pee and not the first parent to turn their back for a split second and an accident occurs.

Of course you feel guilty but seriously no one worth your time and energy will judge you. They will support you.

And the fact your colleagues are telling you she went in deliberately to say and discussing that and not the accident shows they are on your side.

Take a deep breath, hold your head high and ignore.

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