Would you say SIL is a Cheeky Fucker?

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I'm extremely unfit to leave the house today. I'm okay within myself but looking after DS of 8 months is hard enough. He's walking, and I can't walk. If I do, I flood everywhere, despite heavy duty pads

SIL thinks I'm ill with a vomiting bug (she saw me vomiting yesterday), but really I'm heavy bleeding from a miscarriage. We didn't tell anyone so I just want to keep it a secret.

SIL looks after our nephews (2.5 and 1 year) 2.5 days a week, for next to nothing so I understand she must be getting stressed. She's had them overnight recently because their mum is working away. Only happens twice a year when the work is there. SIL also has her own DC, age 8 and 3.

We all have a rota to walk our MIL's dog, since she isn't there during the day anymore for reasons I won't go into.

Today was my day. SIL messaged saying "Are you in London today?"

I said no, as I had to cancel. I'm still ill vomiting.

SIL "I was going to say, if you come and sit with the kids for an hour I'll go walk the dog"

I said that's fine, I was going to get a taxi there to MIL's.

SIL said "Ok" and then 5 mins later texted to say "Let me know if you feel better later and I'll go walk Harley as I need to pop to Iceland"

AIBU or is she being a bit cheeky? She thinks I'm vomiting.

Why would I want to go and look after another 4 children, 3 of which need their bums wiping?

It just seems off to me.

AIBU or is it a bit cheeky fucker?

So sorry for your miscarriage . To be honest it seems like you're both stressed for very fair reasons and you sound like you're each trying to get through the day as best you can.

I'm sorry for your loss 🌼

Your SIL is nuts; who in their right mind wants to expose the kids to someone they assume has a sickness bug?

Mornings I agree but all over PP seem to disagree really

That's not what people have said though have they?

People said SIL seems to be desperate and have sympathy with her. She's got her own kids to look after, and then her DB's and on top of that is on a rota for dog walking!

OP, did you speak to your DH about how he can help SIL to lessen her load?

she says "It all depends on these 2, dunno what the situation will be and if X and Z will be able to afford to put them into childcare"

You all need to stop enabling the CF parents!
If they can't afford childcare then one of them cab be a SAHP.
Your sil is a mug for putting up with this

You asked if she was a cheeky fucker. No one was suggesting asking someone over with what they thought was sickness bug was a good thing, just that her reasons were not of cheeky fuckery intent.

Shump I did and he agrees with Heebie

He's told his brother he's cheeky before and taking the piss, but he says he can't remember his response.

He also says not to say anything to SIL and BIL because it's not really our concern to be getting involved in. He says if his sister wanted to speak out, he would support her in doing so but he reminded me she has 0 intention of doing so and is just going along with it all

I however can't help but feel awful for her and I think someone should question them properly on the matter.

SIL is clearly too lenient for her own good here and needs speaking for. But then I ask myself, what if she doesn't want that?

It's a tricky one. I don't know what to do.

If DH agreed to it, because it is his family after all, I would pull them both to the side and ask them how they think it's acceptable to pay someone £25 a week per child for 2.5 days childcare.