AIBU to ask you how you cope with the fact that people (including you) are mortal?

[ConfusedWife1234]

I know that this is an unusual question but @DieAntword and me had a chat in another thread about this where it was off topic so I thought I start a thread.

One the one hand I think the realization that people are mortal improves my life because it makes me realize that I want me loved ones close to me because they could be taken from me any minute.

I think I have been written about this here. The poem “to an athlete dying young“ moves me so much more since I became a mother. It is about a young man, ahealthy young athlete, who dies in the prime of his years. As the mother of athletic boys, sister of athletic brothers and wife of a pudgy but athletic hubby that moves me deeply.

On the other hand I sometimes do think it was best if I did not knew people are mortal because it just spoils my mood.
When I was younger I felt that me and my loved ones were immortal. Of course I knew we were not but it felt like this... and it felt good.
Now I realize how vulnerable we actually are and how easily everything we take for granted can be taken away from us.

I am a Christian but I have to say that my faith often is not as deep as it should be.

I had cancer in my 40s, kids were young.
For me the silver lining is recognizing that life is for living now. No dress rehearsal!
I try to make the most of life and build as many memories as possible for my DDs.
Who knows how long I have left, but I intend to live life to the fullest while I can. Xxx

The other thing I've learned is that grief is the price we pay for love, and that love is worth it. The love doesn't die so there really is no price to pay. Grief is caused by attachment.

Used to be really scared of it. Particularly of loved ones dying before me.

After returning to Catholicism, the fear has gone. Totally accept that I will die and everyone I know will die. Whilst I am still loving and living every aspect of life, I believe that when I die, I will finally reunite with God. That will be wondrous in every way. Just pray that God will call when I am a very old lady warm in bed.

Never worried about mortality until kids, then stopped doing silly things as I wanted to be there for them, at least until they reached adult-hood. Now think about it but more in a sense of have I done what I need to ensure loved ones are in best position I can help them achieve so when I go no regrets. Nearly died too many times to count and never affected me until very recently when it made me focus on what is most important to me to the exclusion of all the BS - it was liberating.