Wibu to fly home

[eco1636]

from our family holiday without dh and kids?

Totally gutted and heartbreaking but I can’t see any other way he is being unbearable and we have just told each other we don’t love each other and want to divorce ‘when we get back’.

For background, there has been dv in the past and it’s not the first time we’ve discussed splitting.

I’m just frightened about leaving the kids with him in case he lets them drift out to sea or get kidnapped. They are 7 and 9.

We’ve been away 2 days and he is being so unpleasant and controlling and I just can’t face it. I have absolutely nobody to talk to, no support network and our marriage is such a nightmare.

I'm wondering if he engineered the whole thing in the hope that you would fly home without the kids.

I feel so sorry for you, you're in a dreadful situation. I know someone else whose partner, whilst they were away with children on holiday somewhere abroad, told her they were splitting up. I don't know what she did but they did split.

This time around you do not have him back please! Take care of yourself in the meantime.

See a Solicitor as soon as you get back. Keep hold of yours and kids passports, gather as much paperwork as you can and hide it, (at a friend's maybe).
You have a lot of rights! Find out from a Solicitor!
He can't dictate anything to do with the kids!

Also, remember that the children will be absolutely fine when you divorce. They may struggle with it initially as it is a big change but in the long term it will benefit them to have a happy mum. So try not to worry about how it will affect them as ultimately it will make things better for them.

Look at this as an exciting new chapter when you get home. A chance to be independent, do things your way and find things/people that make you happy. This holiday marks the end of your unhappiness and the beginning of something new.

Oh bloody hell that sounds grim. It's hard enough being at loggerheads when you're at home, let alone being stuck in a tent in another country!
I really don't think you should leave the kids though but like you said, throw yourself into giving them a lovely holiday.
Then LTB when you're back home

How are you getting on now, op.