AIBU to ask you if you think thatchers are people who just aren‘t very clean or organized

[ConfusedWife1234]

Where we live it is the first/second day of the day care after the holidays. We arrived there: five minutes late, clothes I had ironed the day before already wrinkled. One of my boys had dirt on his face I had scrubbed just half an hour before...
... and this is so embarrassing, because I come from a long line of soldiers and dh served.

Does this happen to any of you too? Do you think others notice too or are they just to busy wondering if people notice the dirt of their kids face? But then other kids face never look dirty early in the morning. Iwonder how they do it.

Your post makes no sense to me at all. How do thatchers and soldiers relate in any way to your children's faces being clean or not?

Thatchers as in roofers?

Have you been drinking? Or are you on glue OP?

baffled.

What’s a thatcher?

Or are you on glue OP?

Least funny and unoriginal comment ever

Shitty autocorrect corrected “that there are“ to thatchers.

I assume she means "that there" not thatchers.

Is the reference to thatchers a typo?

Anyway, I’m sure most people either don’t notice or aren’t bothered.

Does thatched roofs Shirley

Yep, I am on glue, aren‘t you? Do you want some? (Just on case you really believe this. Am not, my autocorrect seems to be on glue)

Nobody's children's clothes stay magically unwrinkled. Lots of people (including me) don't iron them in the first place. Children getting a bit of dirt on their faces is normal. Being married to someone who happens to have been in the forces is irrelevant. You need to unclench. And btw what has this got to do with thatchers?!

Happens to me all the time. My son was as neat as a pin for his first day back at school today, for a whole 5 minutes. He untucked his tie from his jumper, rolled around with a moulting cat, traipsed into the garden and got his shoes covered in grass and soaking wet and then spilled toothpaste down the front of his jumper. He looks like a street urchin when I pick him up after school.

Cross-posted .

Seriously though- why are you so bothered about wrinkled clothes or a bit of dirt?

I think that there are people who are not very clean or organised. And I think that I am one of them. Despite my best efforts the flat is always a tip and 90% of the time both DSs look like they’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards, despite good quality, regularly laundered clothes and daily baths. They just attract filth. Other people and their children look like they float through life in a cloud of persil 🤷‍♀️.

I spent a couple of days this week in an upmarket London Hotel. The place was full of families and children. All the other children were clean and neat. Mine looked like chimney sweeps.

@sycamore People whose loved ones served are believed to be well prepared by some (see: seven p, prior proper planning prevents piss poor performance)... but I am actually never well prepared.

Shitty autocorrect corrected “that there are“ to thatchers

Poor thatchers! I opened this expecting that your family were thatchers and that clients expected you to be leaving sticks/straw everywhere

Ok that clarified the confusing title. What have soldiers got to do with it?

Ignoring that part, you seem overly concerned about what people think of you. If you are concerned about you children's clothes being wrinkled, for your own reasons, that's one thing. But it is ridiculous to be concerned about them because of what other people will think. Plenty of parents don't iron small kids' clothes, unless for a special occasion. The children are all fine. Similarly with the grubby face - some mess from having just eaten a yoghurt or playing with markers is fine and normal and what kids do - clean it off when you can; several days of grime and filth is not but because that is neglectful.

This sounds a lot less about your actual children and a lot more about your lack of self-esteem and over focus on what others think. You should find ways to work on that

Creased clothes, not wrinkled (apologies if you’re American though, op!)

Well yeah, mine aren't exceptionally clean or tidy, but its no mystery. I just don't make as much effort as some, same as the other parents of scruffy kids.
Let's not pretend that some children are magically neater and tidier and more ironed: its called effort!

My daughter's friend always has hair like a scarecrow whenever I see her. I saw her once in the morning (I usually see her in the afternoon) and it was lovely and neat and brushed, but by the afternoon she looks like Mowgli.

I have just seen your response on the soliders and sorry but I think that is ridiculous. How can someone else's profession be expected to impact on their relatives? Who thinks like that? And why would you care what anybody who thinks like that, thinks of you?

If being disorganised is a genuine problem for you, there are loads of things you can do but you should ask for help on that. Not vague ramblings about what other people might think based on your father's choice of job. Flylady is a popular website to help disorganised people, as a start. Or a load of others, if you tell people exactly what the problem is, we can help. But if the problem is what other people think, then only you can help how you feel about that.

I don’t even notice when my own children have crumpled clothes or a bit of dirt on their faces, let alone someone else’s.
I am pretty clean and organised but you have to pick your battles!

Yes please, OP, I could do with some glue after the day I've had. Or it's Thatcher's Cider, one or the other