Dd is 14. Going into year 10 in September.
In the may spring bank holiday she said she needed new school skirts. Agreed hers were looking a bit tatty so took her, spent 3 hours traipsing around finding just the right length and bought 4 new skirts.
I also suggested we went bra shopping while we were there and suggested we go up to a C cup as she was looking like she was moving out of a B. She insisted she was still a B cup and her current ones were fine, just a bit worn.
Spent £40 on skirts and £40 on bras.
Said last week we needed to get shoes (hers have worn out) and maybe 3 or 4 school shirts to replace the most worn ones she has.
She has now decided she is a C cup. So just spent another £40 on bras. A multi pack of 3 and a fancier black one. And the she announced that she needs new skirts as well as 2 of hers have 'broken'.
Was the first I have heard of it so asked her to bring them down. It looks like the adjustable elastic strap has been cut through the button holes. So they wont adjust small enough.
This is only on 1 side of each skirt. The other side on each skirt is still perfect.
Have told her I am not replacing them. I did say she could have 1 new skirt so she had 5 so will buy her 1 and then she will have 3.
She has just had an epic flounce. I have explained we are a bit skint at the moment. We got married in May and still paying that off. I am self employed and august has been unexpectedly quiet. Mainly.due to the nicer weather but not something I could plan or budget for as its a new business.
Dh is also self employed as a builder. We have our own company which normally pays me a wage but due to a non payer last year the business has struggled (hence me finding alternative work) which means that there has been less in the pot to pay DH as well.
I have explained all this to dd. She gets £10 a week spending money into her own account which she spends on clothes and make up. That's fair enough as it is her spending money but she went shopping last week and spent about £60 on stuff she didn't need just wanted.
I have 1 bra that fits me at the moment. When it's in the wash I wear one of my ones that don't fit properly and cope with a pokey underwire. I have stuff for sale to try and raise some money to buy a new saddle for dds pony.
Ds starts school in September and I have bought him all plain school uniform from Asda. He has nothing with th3 school logo on as I just can't afford it yet.
We aren't as bad off as some people and we are lucky that it will pick up again in September. We can afford to eat as normal (aldi tho, nothing fancy) and we can afford to spend a bit on day trips down the summer.
But there is no spare money to replace uniform that has probably been worn 6 or 7 times. And I could have done with spending £40 on her school shoes not replacing outgrown underwear that I wanted to get a bigger size in 3 months ago.
So AIBU to ignore the flouncing and stropping and stick to my guns on this one? She is generally a good kid. Works hard at school and does well, isn't usually stroppy and doesnt usually kick off. But when I was her age I had 2 skirts and wore them a couple of times each. Not once and chucked in the wash.
We also have the typical pile of clothes on the bedroom floor so even though she has had either 4 or 5 skirts all last year we still had a couple of mornings when she was hunting around for a clean one. I wash every day so just laziness from her.