How important are looks in a relationship

[Jorginho5]

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Anything to add or is that it?

Almost as important as words in a post

Faces or other bits?
I was put off one bloke who I got along with really well, and he was pretty good looking but reminded me uncannily of my brother.

I think attraction helps, although that’s not always instant. Depends on what you’re looking for really?...care to expand on your . ?

Very important. It helps that I’m fucking gorgeous mind 😉

There was a study once that found that length of relationship correlated with similar attractiveness. So don't date a 10 when you're a four, I suppose.

Depends on the size of the bank balance .

mrsterry that is a very good point.however, I believe that we get points for a number of things not just looks. So, sense of humour, out of 10 etc

Attraction matters but that isn’t necessarily related to looks.

I think they’re pretty important!

I agree @Aintnothingbutaheartache and correlation is not causation!

We can pretend all we want but Like or not they do come into it. I mean don't get me wrong Im not saying you have to go weak at the knees everytime your partner.
I certainly don't and I don't sup pose he does whenever he sees yours truly, but He obviously finds me attractive or he would never have approached me. Therefore you cut a long story short you have to fancy each other or at least find each other attractive.
However there is factually no such thing as an ugly person or a stunning person. It's all about personal preference. One persons idea of stunning could be someone else's idea of repulsive and vice versa.

I think initially yes, but also sense of humour and kindpersonality go a long way, but sometimes people dont seem attractive until you get to know them

What do you think @Jorginho5 ? Where do you stand on the scale vs. Your partner?

Why didn't you write anything in the OP itself? Was it just a passing thought? Had you seen a couple that you didn't think matched up?

I'm confused

Somone who is hot can soon look awful if their a dick

Initially important to fancy each other.
But actually now that I'm in love with him anyway, I wish my dh was less good looking! Makes them less easy to trust.

Pretty important actually. I've been with my partner 20 years and I love him with all my heart, but he's been growing his hair for the past three years - through a variety of heinous stages - and I fancy him much more now he's finally got a proper hair cut.

Mind, i find vanity a really unattractive trait, so if good looks come along with the vanity, then no thank you.

I think they're important.
It's what first attracts you to someone and fancying your partner is important in the long run too.
But it's not the most important, personality is important too.

Colour me shallow but yes.

My partner of 19 years & i were fairly well matched when we met.

He has put on alot of weight. His waist was a 34 now 46/48. I'm still a size 10.
We look very odd together.

I don't find him attractive anymore sadly. Its not just the weight but how lazy he is.

I'd always prefer someone who makes me laugh over someone with good looks.

Looks mean very little. Attraction lots. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I had a boyf once who wasn't much to look at but I thought he was gorgeous so that's all that mattered (in terms of our relationship).

I'd say definitely yes - otherwise why would be attracted to someone initially?

It's ok saying attracted to personality - and of course that's the main factor - but if someone has a fantastic personality yet they are unattractive to you? Sorry but can't last IMO - there has to be some attraction there.