Aibu to say birthdays' are crap once y ou're an adult?

[bandthenjust]

Birthday today.
Never expected a party or a shit tonne of gifts, but would 've liked a lie-in past 7am and not to have had to clean up a puddle of piss that was left for me stand in.
Anyone else think birthdays are just non-existant once you pass 21?

Mine is in July, so I enjoy the end of term/ birthday feeling.

Don’t get many presents but a few family and close friends always get me some gin and prosecco so I have a lovely few weeks working through those.

A takeaway of my choice, a homemade cake from my mom, and it’s a low key, but special time.

@PositiveVibez Of course you're allowed to do all of that any day you like. Unfortunately (and I'm really not pulling a daily mail sad face here), we are frantically busy and not well off enough to be able to blow money on meals out, days out or good wine willy nilly. Our birthdays are real treats for us all.

Oops posted before I was finished!

And then when my OH gets home we will be doing presents and either going out for an evening meal or getting a takeaway of my choice, mood dependent. Usually OH would be off work but it’s not possible this year so I’ll be up at the crack of dawn but I don’t mind :)

We make the same fuss of ourselves as we would the kids, it’s jmportant to treat yourself and do things you like and spend time with people you like.

It wasn’t always like this though, I spent 7 years as a single parent with my older three and they came and went without much in the way of marking the occasion, I usually just had a little buffet tea party with the kids and had some mates around for a glass of wine in the evening and my OH never celebrated birthdays as a child (religious family who don’t do birthdays) so we make up for it now.

I am sorry if you’ve not had a great birthday this year, they’re not always fabulous things but maybe look at stuff going on locally and see if there’s anyway you could get out this evening and salvage it? I’m on the hunt for things to do for my birthday before the kids break up from school lol, so it’s all planned well in advance, maybe try and do that for next year and try to treat yourself to something this week to perk you up x Happy Birthday Xx

Birthdays are what you make them.

Personally I think meal with family/friends or a few friends for a night out are reaosnable birthday things for adults. Presents generally are only from family or very close friends in my circle.

I find the 'it's my birthday so spoil me' things a bit much on adults personally so do find it a bit odd when I hear of colleagues going all out for a girls weekend city break complete with lots of photos of prossecco etc because Sarah turned 32. It makes them happy though.

The problem with my birthday is it's a dreary time of year when no one can be bothered. I'd much rather ignore it.