To feel sympathy for this woman's daughter's

[Rosie342]

There is a lady I know, I've known her as an acquaintance for a few years and she's never been shy about the fact she's always wanted a boy. She already had 3 girls but had finally got the boy she always wished for and is obviously over the moon.
I myself have 2 daughter's already and I'm pregnant with my third, a boy, and this woman has told me on multiple occasions infront of her and my daughter's how much boys at better than girls. No that they are different, simply better or "the best."
I feel sad for her daughter's having to hear there mother say that, their brother is only a few months old, the eldest daughter is 9 so I don't see how it's a fair comparison.
I always reply that each child is different has different strengths but she argues that boys are better all round.
Maybe I'm just being sensitive about it all, I know some people do prefer one gender over the other but I'd hate for those girls to grow up thinking their brother is better just because he's a boy.

*their mother not there

YANBU. What a sad attitude and especially to say it in front of her children.

Yanbu. Poor daughters.

He’s going to be the golden child and she’ll be the MIL from hell. Poor kids.

YANBU – I know a woman like this. Not the same one, since the four kids are all grown up now. Interestingly, the girls have done considerably better than the boy, who is unhealthily dependent on his mother, and has never managed to leave home. So it's a terrible situation for all of the kids to be in.

I had 3 boys with my exh before a huge gap and a daughter with my now dh. I’m verging I’m quite rude if people talk like this in front of my dc I hate it.

Those poor girls.

Awful. Poor children.

Thank you for your replies. I'm glad I'm not being overly sensitive, I just find it sad.

Terrible. Poor kids.

I think this is a reverse...

Is this 'friend' you @Rosie342 ???

I got similar comments when we had a girl as a 3rd child to her 2 brothers. And still do sometimes now even though they are much older. Annoys me no end OP so no YANBU.

@katielouise3
Please explain how it's a reverse? I don't subscribe to the belief that one gender is superior to another each child is an individual. My 2 daughter's are chalk and cheese and I have no expectation of how my boy will be when he's born. Considering he's not born yet I would be unable to make an assumption that he would be in any way better than the two children I already have.

I don't need to 'explain' anything. It just seems like a reverse to me.

It's just odd how the woman you are referring to has almost identical circumstances to you. And it has all the hallmarks of a reverse....

Also I never said 'friend' I said acquaintance as in someone I see around and about but do not know well

She sounds like a selfish narc... poor kids. Call her up on it next time, shame her into acknowledging her shitty behaviour!!

@kateilouise3 well if that's what you think that's fine, except I've never been one to be bothered about what gender my children are and my child hasn't been born yet...

My mother is like this. Always saying she wished we were boys tbh we shrug it off as her being insensitive.

Why would this be a reverse? The other woman hardly comes across well!

My Gran has this attitude. Boys are better. She ended up with:
3 sisters
2 daughters and 1 son
5 granddaughters and 1 grandson
8 nieces

katielouise, that's not how reverses work. Generally when people do a reverse they pretend to be the unreasonable person, then when everyone's told them how wrong they are they come clean and use the responses to validate their own reaction. No-one does a reverse when they're the ones acting like dickheads.

Those poor girls.

There are a lot of people who think like that though. My friend has recently fallen out with her mother over her attitude. It was capped off when her mother announced she was dividing her will into 4 equal shares - her son, her grandson (friend's nephew), her grandson (my friend's son) and then the last share to be split equally between her 2 daughters and 4 granddaughters! Basically putting in black and white that she prefers the boys massively

I would tell her straight up some of the experiences others on this thread have said. If she keeps this attitude up:

• She'll be a nightmare MIL who will never be able to let her son go and will make her DIL's life hell because she automatically discounts the word of a woman.

• Her daughters are going to end up resenting her for the favouritism shown her son and they may never speak to her again when they're adults or whenever the poor things figure it out.

• It's going to turn her son into a codependent jerk who can't cut the apron strings.

I've seen this happen with so many men and in some cases even one of my brothers. He wasn't exactly favoured over me, but he was definitely coddled by my mother in some cases. I'm 90% NC with him now. In case of my mum, she wasn't really a nightmare MIL either, just meh. Several of my brother's girlfriends actually liked her a lot.

@lalalalyra holy crap. What did your friend and the other women or gils in the family say to that? I'm not usually one to leave money on the table, but at that point I think I would, just on principle. That's horrible.

@lalalalyra oh that's dreadful!